So..I started a thread about my bridesmaids starting to become Divas's.
Well one of them has taken the biscuit, has pushed me over the edge and is on the verge of being sacked.
I have asked absolutly nothing of her, and I have paid for absolutly everything, dress, shoes, make up, jewellery, stay over in the hotel night before wedding, champaigne breakfast morning of the wedding, a meal night before the wedding. I asked her to be bridesmaid over my cousin which was my choice i know but it caused no end of grief with my family, my cousin no longer speaks to me so you would think she would feel honoured but No....
A few months after asking her to be bridesmaid she fell pregnant (not planned) i had to buy extra material for her dress which cost me £25, dress already set me back £170, was a bit put out she didnt offer to contribute but hey ho, anyway all i asked was that before she went for her fitting she got a decent bra, now she has mammoth boobs anyway (was FF) so said she wanted to wait till nearer the time in case they got any bigger with being pregnant, fair enough.
So appointment for dress fitting came round i asked if she had got one...NO..I''ll go to A S D A she says, i told her she needs to get measured really and get a good bra thats going to support her, so she said she would sort it, she turned up at the dress fitting with a boob tube looking bikini top that had no support whatsoever and the dress woman couldnt fit her dress around her properly, so told her to get one and come back in 3 weeks (tomorrow)
The dress lady measured her and told her she was a 38GG and recommended a shop in towm that catered for larger ladies, so we agreed to go. So last week i said what day do you want to go, she replied with oh i am just gonna nip to that little realtail park thayve got a little Marks and sparks, i told her she may as well go into town as cos its only a small shop they may not have what she wants. I went on the website of the shop the dress lady had recommended and they had loads in stock in her size but when i told her about them she said she didnt want them cos they werent padded. PADDED??? your a GG what the hell do you need padding for??? Anyway she went to M&s and guess what no bras, but of course she then had no time to go into town so said she would go tues.
By this point i am nearly having a nervous breakdown lol Tuesday comes her grandad gets taken into hospital obviously not her fault but thats another day wasted so she says she will go wed, so i said look your not gonna get a GG with padding, just go to the recommended shop and get one of those that we know they have in stock...so off she goes into town, she rings me up "mate theyve got none in such a such shop" arrrgghhh Go to the other shop Rachel " Well someone has told me to try La S3nza so i'll go there"
Well i flipped out I said "For gods sake your in town why dont you just go to the shop that we know stocks your size instead of messing about?" she just said well i am here now so i'll ring you back and hangs up, 5 minutes later..."theyve not got none mate but i havent got time to go anywhere else cos my auntie has bought me to save on parking and she has parked on double yellows so ive got to go" I was gobsmacked i was so mad i just had to say ok and hung up, she then text me saying i will order one online..this was yesterday, i replied saying there is no way your going to get it in time, if you havent got a bra for friday the dress lady cannot fit your dress properly and she needs to send all 4 off at the same time, if they are not sent off tomorrow they will not be back in time for the wedding so what do you suggest we do?
She then rang me and said she had had a brainwave, she said she would go to A S D A and get a normal bra with straps like the one she had on for £4 and cut the straps off...FFS, there is no way that is going to support her mammoth boobs, they are ginourmous...am i really asking too much to just get a bra, i know for a fact shops sell GG's, she just cant be bothered to look. She has made me so mad and upset that after everything i have bought she cant even be bothered to do this one thing.

She is moaning about having to wear the fancy dress outfit for my hen do and is refusing to wear it as she looks pregnant...errr you are pregnant duck..

and my MOH is supposed to be staying over the night of the wedding at the hotel and having breakfast with us the next morning which i was really looking forward to but today she has told me she cant afford it, but she could afford to spend £240 on a vile tattoo last week, i know thats just a lie and really its because her partner doesnt want to stay because her ex (h2b's best man) is going to be there...jeeez its not like there sharing a room with each other and so what if he is there, he is an ex, he should think himself lucky thats what he is cos if he wasnt then she'd still be with him and he wouldnt be
arrrrggghhh why cant people just get a grip

sorry about this ranting just need to vent

Oh dear hun don't sound to good, hope she finally sorts her self out sound like she's useless :(
Try saying to ur moh that you would really want her there because its your big day and need the support sand that's what a moh is ment to do for you that's y u asked her in the first place xx

Moh is staying the night before the wedding but she and her partner were supposed to be staying the sat night too (the evening of the actual wedding) so they can have a drink, I know not everyone needs to have a drink to have a good time but i just know that he'll have bag on cos he cant drink now he'll be driving home as well has having bag on cos her ex is there he has already said that he had better not speak to her which he will because he is just a polite person, so they will prob end up going home early and she is my moh i want her to stay, maybe i am just being atad marsdy about it, its just she is my best friend and i wanted her to share everything with us and there are quite a few people staying over and it would just be nice if they were there to have breakfast with us as Mr and Mrs thats all. She said that its because theyve got car mot and service to pay and they need to but 4 new tyres so at first i thought perhaps its just one of those things thats sprung up on them that they forgot about (they are a bit ditzy) but then she said she had been putting off telling me to see if she could find the money so she has obviously known a while which makes me think she could have waited to have the tattoo, but i suppose its her money she can do what she likes with it, but like i say i dont think thats the real reason,

As for the bra, i have thought about buying it for her as she has said she doesnt want to spend a lot on a bra that she wont wear again(she dont wear strapless ones) so i suggested she got one that had removeable straps that way she could get more wear out of it afterwards, i realise she probably has better things to spend her money on, having a baby and being on her own and all that but then she went out and spent £30 on a dress for a night out that she wore and then said she would never wear again as she "dont do dresses" so i thought why should i pay for it when i have paid for everything else and have had no thanks, she didnt NEED that dress but she DOES need a bra x

Thank you suzky..but try telling her that, even the dress lady told her that!! She just thinks I'm being bridezilla It's like banging my head against a brick wall, god knows what she is going to turn up with tomorrow, if it's a problem with paying for it then I'd rather she just said without being so awkward, going to buy a normal bra and then cutting the straps off it us just getting a bit extreme x

Hey Hun, sorry she's being a pain in the bum for you. I'm not sticking up for her 'cos if she has a problem then she just talk to you about it so it can be sorted, but may be it's the hormones.... I didn't really enjoy being pregnant, I didn't want to dress up in fancy dress for someone's hen night (so I didn't go) and as for bras you shouldn't really wear underwired bras when your pregnant and as I was attending a wedding at 37 weeks no shop would sell me the supportive bra I wanted so I wore the bra that they sold me and it just made me feel really frumpy. Maybe if you have a chat with her she'll open up to you and tell you what's really up. I know it's your day but she might be feeling a bit nervous about the whole thing and you need to support her aswell as her supporting you.

I hope the dress fittings go ok and your bridesmaids look amazing.

i have 36E boobs and i'm struggling to find a bra that will fit, i would love my dress shop to tell me where i can get one that fits! i can't believe she can't be bothered to go look for one, she doesn't want to fork out the money for a decent bra by the sounds of it hun

Give her a kick and tell if she doesn't start playing the game your way she will be told not to bother as her dress isn't going to fit and she doesn't want to make the effort the have it fitted properly

Soon to be mrs mann, i will put then mane of the bra shop on your wall, i used to be an E/EE but then i had a reduction so i do know how hard it is to find a bra, especially nice ones in that size, but when i found this shop it was like all my dreams come true, they do nice bra's that go upto a size L, they do bikini's and even clothes that have fitted bra's in them. Your right she doesnt want to pay the money and she cant be bothered to look which upsets me after all i have done for her.

She doesnt seem to care if her dress fits or not x

thats Jakesmummy i find their bras don't last too long the wonderbra with the hands in seems to do the best job of keeping them in i've got one b00b bigger than the other so i can't win!!! i'm gunna go into debanhams at the weekend for a proper fitting for one and see what i end up with i have to say if anyone wants a bridal one Marks and sparks have a fab ivory one

if she won't play your game just tell her she has to have her dress at it is and she can just make so with what she has

if she aint got one then get it fitted as it is today or possibly put straps on the dress (that might make her stand out from the others though and that she has a special role as such)

the ones at debs are all 'padded' so why she didn't just go there!

Why did she have to lie to you?! Silly girl !! Babe i would get rid of her as no way i would allow my friend let alone a bridesmaid who is suppsoed to be your best friend to treat me like this and then lie too xx

Bless you, it sounds like you've done all you can and she's just being a bit of a pain for you in the run up to your big day. Try and enjoy yourself and maybe get someone else to have a quiet word..... it's your day and she just needs to sort herself out.

was the dress fitting today? how did it go? x

Reading between the lines I think your bridesmaid has become so used to you forking out for everything that she thought if she pushed it as far as possible she'd get you to stump up for a bra. Because lets face it decent bras in large sizes are not cheap. As far as the material goes if you have'nt seen it how do you know it was even ordered. I think she should refund you the £25.00 cos she will almost certainly be able to use it for someone else( thats if she did actually order it). In my opinion she just does'nt want to part with the £25.00. To put it another way thats like a garage ordering a part for your car but saying you dont need it now but were still gunna charge you for it WTF(that just would'nt happen it goes back in to stock). Between your bridesmaid and the dress lady your being ripped off left right and center. I think its time you stopped letting these lot walk all over you. Sorry to sound harsh but you've been through enough in the past. Put your foot down with them all and close the bank of Jakesmummy.

You go girl!!! glad you get what I mean, if the bridesmaid looks a state and is hanging out all over thats her problem. And if the women in the shop insists you pay for the material then you are entitled to take it home with you. you might never use it but its the principal that its rightfully your property if you've paid for it. I wish I could come and sort them all out for you, I'd wipe the sodding floor with the lot of em x

Oh definitey, if she says i have to pay in full for the alterations then i shall say i shall pay as soon as i recieve the material and not a minute before, mind you i have to pay before there done so she will probably refuse to do them until i pay, so it will just be a vicious circle x

But you are in the right, you've paid for something you've not had. If she pulled this little scam on a few brides every so often its a nice little earner £25.00 for sweet Fanny Adams. Just out of curiosity what colour are your BM's dresses?

Oh, same as me and the most popular colour for weddings this year. So its not like she would be stuck with some unpopular coloured material is it.

When it boils down to it - it's your wedding… If this 'friend' doesn't buck up her ideas then I'd reconsider her involvement in your wedding. You shouldn't have to be stressed through someone else's lack of support (excuse the pun!!)

Oh my god, please tell me thats not the one that has the imprint of the hand on the inside, it almost as if your holding yourself up with your hands? xx

Yeah i bought that one and so did my other 2 bridesmaids and we all told her to get one, she said she went ino d' hams and asked for it and they told her it only went up to an E. What an absoluute bare faced liar, i cannot believe this girl is my friend let alone my bridesmaid...i am absolutlty savage now xx

Oh.......sorry hun, but i have this very bra in a 32 GG. xx thays awful she would lie to you about it - surely she should actually want to look nice as your bridesmad???w hy would she lie about it? bizarre! x

She could have used that money on a bra that she DOES need x

i have considered all their needs, i havent made them do anything they havent wanted to do, she wanted to wear the straps on her dress, i didnt want them to but i said yes because it made HER feel better, she wants to change her shoes, which id rather she didnt but ive said yes because SHE'LL be more comfortable...well no more mr nice guy from now on, its my way or the highway lady x

Your bridesmaid sounds crap. I would of actually bought the bra in her size for the fitting then had it back off her and returned it, that way you know the dress is fitted properly and I would of made a point of saying that you just walked into the same shop she said didn't stock her size and come out with that bra.

Aww hun just read through all this. What a nightmare.

Personally I can't contain my inner bítchiness so I'd go buy her the bra, seeing as it IS essential. But when it comes to handing out bridesmaids gifts, I'd just point out I had to go running after her over something that was basically trivial and she could have sorted. Ended up spending more money on her than my other BM's so she can consider that her gift as I don't wanna be unfair LOL