Hello fellow Bride's. Due to money been tight my h2b and i have decided to have a registry wedding (and also we are only inviting close family to the wedding we didn't meet minimum numbers for the hotel we wanted.) So....we were thinking of asking my mum (who had mentioned this when we announced our engagement) of having our reception and evening do at my mum's house. We're going to supply food and alcohol and do a buffet and a bbq,hire a gazebo and try to make it personal to us. The only thing is I'm worried it will take the formality out of doing speeches and the first/father/mother dance. Also I'm worried about certain family members snubbing our decision. Has anybody else done this, how did it work out?
CommentAuthorclairenina
I think people can sometimes relax more in familiar surroundings. If you wanted to keep some formality, you could always make a few things yourself (placecards, table plan, order of the the day(service), menu). You could ask a family member to be your master of ceremonies, and announce your arrival etc x
CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
My mums cousin did this and although I wasn't there and it was over 20 years ago people still talk about it to this day. They put a long table through the living/ dining room of my nan's house and only had around 20 people for the reception (which my nan cooked), they still did speeches etc, then invited a few more people later on when they moved the table and used the space as the dancefloor. I am on a very tight budget myself and if my numbers could fit in my nans house I would be doing the same. I think you could still make it formal if you decorate the house a bit and have place settings, centrepieces etc, but you will probably find people enjoy themselves a lot more because of the relaxed familiar setting. You could also have somebody to act as a master of ceremonies so that you still have a plan for the day e.g. when to have speeches, dances, cake cutting.
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CommentAuthorAprilS61
If you do some of the things mentioned above, you can have the wedding day you want by keeping formal touches. If you don't want it to be formal at all then it doesn't have to be. Don't worry about what everyone thinks, if some people don't like it or agree, don't invite them! Its your wedding and good for you for doing something different! It makes it more personal to you and h2b and all your family/friends can relax as it would be a comfortable environment. x
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CommentAuthorAndrea28
Thanks for your suggestions! We've bought a few things for table decorations as we decided to have a coastal theme (I'm from Scarborough and getting married there) I like the idea of still having a master of ceremonies! (I'm a new profile as I forgot all my details on my other profile: sorry for the confusion! X
Ooh If my mum had a beautiful big garden I would so be up for having my whole wedding there! I love garden weddings! You should go on Pinterest, the Americans have them all of the time, and I love the idea of chandeliers in the trees, the twinkly fairy lights in the bushes and trees, the homely touches, also, if you hire a marquee with a dancefloor then I don't see why it would make your dances any less formal than other couples who have a marquee reception?! Best of luck, let us know how it goes! X
CommentAuthorNikkiE58
Sorry, gazebo*
CommentAuthorsALLY
sounds lovely, you may feel more relaxed having it at your mums. I think its a great idea and will definatly keep the budget down.
