just a personal opinion of mine but i wouldnt pay to go abroad for someones wedding, i know for a fact that we wudnt be able 2 afford it no matter how long we were give to save xx
CommentAuthortillyturtle
Hi there, im planning our wedding aborad as we felt the pros fair outweighed the cons firstly its our wedding day..and our desision on what we have dreamnt about secondly its really important that on your wedding day the people who are there are definatly the people who will stand by you thick and thin. e.g. if you go abroad they will go abroad. i know for a fact if i got married in this country spend £25k on the do everyone would be coming for the free food and to tell me to my face i look good and most proably bi*tch behind my back.
we got 2 years till we get married because we need to save and therefore we have invited our close family and friend and told them all the information and cost etc. were paying for their meal and things involved within day such a toasting drinks but nothing else. and like i said this whittle it down to those who actually want to come and be apart of our special day.
I must admit thought were doing our whole wedding for 6k were not scrimping weve just planned it well and ensured we have a big party thats beautiful but not exxcessive when we get back.
i guess what im trying to say is thats its your day and its totally up to you what you want to do.....good luck brides!!!!!
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
we contemplated this a few times, and i would love to get married abroad but i know alot of our friends wouldnt come. allthough i know given enough notice they would be able to afford it they would make out they couldnt. which then i got mad to myself cause i was thinking some frinds we've got if it was any of them wed go and we've got 3 kids. we would make the effort to go x But the friends we are said no cause we wanted them there,so settled on here.
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CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
I would if it was for a member of family or a close friend.
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CommentAuthorpanther_87k
I would if I had enough time to save up for it and it was a close friend or family member, less likely if it was someone i rarely spoke to/saw.
we were going to charge when talking about going abroad... why should u put them up for free? If they really want to attend they will pay a small fee.
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CommentAuthorMel D
We've been invited to a wedding next year in Jamaica, but we're not going becuase 1. It's more than we were planning to spend on just one holiday next year, and 2. We don't know them very well, so don't really want to spend lots of money on a holiday we wouldn't take normally. When I've spoken to them, they've said that they were giving everyone lots of notice so people to save up to go.
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CommentAuthorKarlie1976
My dad and fiancé are getting wed in Mexico Jan 2012 and are paying for 20 members of the family to be there. They offered. If they hadn't offered but still invited we wouldnt have been able to afford to go. At present we aren't even having a honeymoon! I wouldn't have been offended if they said you're invited but have to pay your way. If it wasn't for my grandparents, who I'm very close to, we would have arranged a wedding abroad on our own or with whoever could afford to come. Xxxxx
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CommentAuthorClarabella
If it was a close friend or a family memner then yeah id go but they would have to give me plenty notice to save up for it but if it was a friend that i see every so often then id prob think about it. I prob would love to go but the whole expense of it all.
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CommentAuthorClarabella
Ive asked h2b if we could do this but he says no cos his granny wouldnt be able to come cos there is no way shed be able to get on a plane sadly
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CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
It would depend on finances at the time. Tickets, accomodation, new outfit, wedding gift etc. All adds up x
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CommentAuthorsam73
We were looking into this h2b really wanted to marry abroad, however I thought I only want to do it once and I want the people I love to be around me, I mentioned it to a few people- my dad was majorly up for going abroad but my uncle- I'm quite close to him can't stand flying. He rarely goes anywhere cos o the flight but he asked me where we were thinkig- maritious and he said no chance. I had to weigh up what I wanted more, family and friends I love to come or do it alone. We opted to stay here, however it's not what my h2b really wanted.
CommentAuthorClarabella
If you renew your vows you could do it abroad and then he's happy or when you go on honeymoon just have another wedding there lol
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CommentAuthorUnknown
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if it was a close friend or relative and i had notice i would go. my friend was planning on getting amrried abroad last year but he h2b called it off but i was going to go to that. i know people that have gone away and people that have paid to go!
i was thinking about going away and my friends said they would come aswell but h2b didnt want to do that xx
CommentAuthorboo
This actually came up in conversation last night. H2Bs cousin lives in Cyprus and we got talking about if she married her bf she would get married over there. MIL2B asked us if we would go, I reminded her it would cost a fortune for us and 6 kids. She then said she wouldnt go, she doesnt fly. So yeah provided we had enough notice we'd go. Plus the fact she's awesome and shes coming to ours lol
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CommentAuthorx ashlil x
i probably wouldnt be able to go, its not just the money it costs but i also would have to find someone to have our girls which would be difficult
CommentAuthorAli
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We're getting married in Vegas as it works out a lot cheaper than doing it here and also there will be no issues with who to invite and who not invite and if his family will get on with mine etc etc. We both decided that we didn't want to do it in this country and that we would roll our wedding into the honeymoon meaning more value for money. My parents are coming to Vegas with us, and possibly H2B best friend and his girlf, but one of the reasons why we chose the location is that flights are very expensive so less likely people will want to come......
My brother lives in Germany and got married two years ago and we as a family flew over for the wedding and just for two nights it was £500 each, but we did it because we wanted to. I think if people really want to come and can afford to, they will have no objections especially if they we're going on holiday anyway and are rolling your wedding into their annual holiday abroad.........Everyone is different though.
Maybe do what we will be doing, wedding abroad, cheap reception for people who couldn't come when you get back with a dvd showing the ceremony playing in the background, you could always wear your wedding dress to show it off....x
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CommentAuthorLedZepLover
Ali we just got back from Vegas as MIL2B and her partner got married over there....one word amazing!!! You will love it! There was only 8 of us but it really didn't make much difference if I'm honest. It seemed more personal and intimate.
We weren't actually going to go as we are saving up for our wedding and are skint most of the time with household bills etc but eventually MIL2B paid for us. All we had to do was save up spending money which wasn't too bad all things considered!
I don't think it is unreasonably to ask your guests to pay to attend your wedding if it's abroad because realistically it would be way too expensive to pay for everyone to fly out there and accomodation etc. Most people will appreciate your decision and it will be their choice if they choose to attend.
Me and h2b would have liked to have got married abroad but we did want all our family there and knew that it wouldn't be possible for everyone to attend if we had it abroad.
CommentAuthorAli
Everyone that i have spoken to that have being married in Vegas have loved it, saying its not tacky at all and that teh chapels go out of their way to make you feel unique. Where abouts was the ceremony and what hotel did you stay in?? x
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
I'm getting married in Vegas in September and whilst we gave everyone about 11 months notice we knew there'd be a good few people who couldn't come out either due to cost or ill health. But it's what we wanted to do. We're also having a 'party' when we get back to London, so those people who weren't able to make it out to Vegas can still feel part of the celebrations. We're not paying for anyone to come out - even my mum who is only on a state pension has managed to find the money to come! To be honest, we were more than happy to contribute to her flights and acoomodation though. We'll also be having my best friend (who's MoH), H2B's best man and his misses and little one, one of my mum's friends, another of my friends that lives in the USA, a couple more of H2B's friends. I'll be intimate, which is exactly what we want.
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CommentAuthorAli
Theres quite a few going really aren't there. Have you already booked flights etc? Because we have to go durinng school holidays it puts the price up so much, but as we only wanted a small intimate affair its worked in our favour as if the flights has been cheap people would have come even if we didn't really want them there. This way we get the day we want, without upsetting family/friends and when we come back we have the party.
I can't wait. What Chapel are you getting married at? We're having the Chapel of the Flowers, looks so nice and when we were in Egypt for christmas we met a couple who had just got married there and they really rated it.
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Yep, it's been booked since the first day the flights were available! We're staying at the MGM Grand from Mon-Fri nights, then on the Sat we're picking up a Harley and going round the Canyon for 4 nights before heading back to Vegas for 2 nights in the Four Seasons. We're getting married in the Shalimar Chapel. It was between that one and the Chapel of the Flowers though - very close call! It was just a slight difference in the packages they offer that tipped it for us. Got a hair/make up lady booked and also found a great dry cleaning co that will pick my dress up on the Monday when we arrive and deliver it back to me on Weds, ready for the wedding on the Thursday. We're taking guests to the Top of the World restaurant in the Stratosphere for lunch then getting us all on the monorail back to the MGM for some Vegas fun for a couple of hours before heading out for a sunset limo tour in one of those horrific hummer party limos! It's something we'd never do in the UK, but that's the whole point, we think! Then after that we'll stop off at a diner and grab some true american fare! Can't wait! Can I go now, please?! x
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CommentAuthorKatya
if it was a member of my imediate family and i had the money to attend then i would, however i have never been abroad except on a holiday where my uncle paid for me, i am on a low income (my partnerworks and pays for me & our 2 kids) so i would not be able to afford to go abroad to attend a wedding but if the funds were available then i would want to be there for the couple
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CommentAuthorAli
Wow you've got loads planned.
I'm waiting for the Venician to get back to us about taking a gondala ride after the ceremony (they noramlly want you to book it on the day, but won't have time so hoping to book it in advance) Got hair and make up from GlamSquad and they're coming to my room the morning of the wedding.
We land on the saturday and get married on the monday so its gonna be tight getting everything sorted, but will do the marriage application on line so that it saves time and will do that the day we arrive (hopefully) h2b collects his tux on the Sunday as it was easier and cheaper to hire it then take it over with us.
Who are you using to do your dress? I've bought a travel steamer and my folks are carrying my dress for me as they're travelling business class so can take it on board with them, plus they will be flying out before us to hopefully give the dress chance to flatten. Did price up steaming but it was 50$ and i thought that was a bit expensive......
Think we will be going to the Steak house in Circus Circus, the steak there is fantastic and although the Stratosphere sounds great both my mum and i are petrified of heights and last time i went up i nearly had a panic attack, so don't think i'll be doing that again lol.
We're staying in the Imperial Palace (cheapest hotel and no resort taxes) as its right in the centre of the strip and as we won't be spending hours in it we're not too bothered about paying a fortune for a room....although my friend is putting us in the Belagio for our wedding night..can't wait for that.
Think the day after we're married we are going to hire a car and drive to the Grand Canyon, when i went there i did the helicopter, boat and bus tour but we can't afford £350 each and hiring a car is only £45 a day.....
So can't wait, like you i want to go now please!!! x
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Ali - I'll post details of the dry cleaner later as their details are at home and I'm (supposed to be!) at work at the moment (and not on the bride's addict website!). x You sound pretty sorted too - all sounds good! x
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CommentAuthorAli
cheers hun, will check them out.....
I'm supposed to be working too, but on my own and been office manager i've decided to play today.........and every other day lol x
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CommentAuthorTinsel
This needs a poll... I love this!
Forum Poll
Destination weddings
Would you attend a destination wedding?
Poll Results
Total Votes:
17
Yes, but only if the couple helped with the costs/paid for us
0%
Yes, if it was an immediate family member or very close friend
41%
Yes, if it was somewhere I wanted to go
12%
Yes, if we could comfortably afford it
41%
No, too many reasons not to (write below if you wish)
6%
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CommentAuthorTinsel
Ooh, 5 votes!
Thanks so far :o)
Hope this is useful though... :os
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CommentAuthormcquire81
I dont think i could afford to attend unless it was for a very close family member or friend, plus i am PETRIFIED of flying!!!
CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Ali - details on your wall of dry cleaning co x
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CommentAuthormacrose
I love the idea of getting married abroad - the guest limitations are an added bonus! True, it is only fair to give people as much notice as you can to allow saving and perhaps send them some affordable accommodation options. We know that some may not be able to afford joining us or have small children and can't travel but by having a big party when home (with children welcome)seems to appease. I plan to save a small subsidy for each travelling guest and insist on no gifts, I'd rather have their company. Perhaps it helps that I'm ignoring having flowers, decorations, bridesmaids etc and going for a low key immediate family and close friends wedding abroad. At our engagement party I realised how little time you get to spend with anyone in order to see everyone, and bear this in mind when inviting people abroad who don't know/get on with everyone else. If they can't spend time with you, what do you expect them to do? And would you go to a wedding abroad at similar expense if each of your guests asked you? I think you need to think long, hard and honestly at each guest. The ones who want to come but can't will understand, and the ones who don't will probably not be missed on what will otherwise be a great time. Plus if you get to spend the wedding trip with your family they will understand when you spend more quality time with non-travelling guests at the party back home!
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I went to my brother in law's wedding in september which was out in Portugal. We stayed in a HUGE villa with 10 other people (all friends and family which was brilliant), stayed for a week and it was the best holiday/wedding I've ever been on. Flights were about 100 quid a return, we paid 100 quid each for the villa and we just split food costs between all of us. Spent the days in the pool, sunbathing, at the beach like a normal holiday! I think h2b worked out for the whole thing we spent around 600 pound xx
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I voted I would for a close friend or family but it would also depend on if I could afford it too so you would have to give notice so that people had time to save up etc. I would be prepared to go without things to save up for someone that was close to me.
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
ohhhh `im loving the post about getting married in vegas ...as most of you know we go out there every year ( going in August this year) and we are lucky enough to have 2 apartments there for those of you who have arranged makeup/hair etc would you mind sending me the links to the peopl you are using
we are getting married in the valley of fire which is about 55 miles outside of vegas there will be just 6 of us going april next year but hen we are having the big blessing here 6 weeks later for all the family anf friends ...best of both worlds
lala - did I send you the link to my lady already? Johanna is her name x
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CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
i think im gunna get done for reading this as i am now wanting a wedding in vegas ooops x
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CommentAuthorUnknown
me too stressed to max b 2 b! sounds like it would be amazing! x
CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Do it! Go on, you know you want to ;) x
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CommentAuthorkateh3
i went to Zante for my friends wedding in 2009 i would just say maybe give people an idea of how much it would be per couple (ask the travel agents) when asking them so they dont say yes we will deffo come and then when they find out the price they may start to feel bad for saying yes they will come then realise they cant afford it my friend was originally goin to Italy but when we all found out the cost we couldnt afford it she changed it x
i would love to do that tho theres just so many family members that wouldnt be able to come it just wouldnt work for us jealous!!
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
heather i got told to stop looking when i told him and started looking at site's lol x :
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CommentAuthorTinsel
Would most of you having a destination wedding have a big party when you returned? Would it be to please people that didn't/couldn't go or just an excuse to wear the dress again?
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CommentAuthorAli
Lala I've put the company i'm using on your wall :o)
Tinsel, we'll be having a party on our return, not becasue we necessarily want to but because family and friends would like to celebrate with us......hoping to sell the dress in vegas before we come home so won't be wearing that lol xx
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CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
If i could Sail there then yes..............
but if i had to get on a plane to get there then its a big fat NO!
i hate flying and refuse to get on a plane to go anywhere!
CommentAuthorVicky
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I think yes - We are getting married in Guernsey not the Carribean but its still costing people about £250 per person to get over there. I thought some of my friends would back out but so far the response has been amazing!!
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
That's exactly why we're having our party - so our friends and the family that can't make it out still feel part of something. We'll be having a non-religeous blessing in our local park too, so H2B's parents feel as though there is something that they're part of rather than just a party too. Plus, as you say, I get to wear my dress for another day!!!
i think im gunna get done for reading this as i am now wanting a wedding in vegas ooops x
heather i got told to stop looking when i told him and started looking at site's lol x :
