Hi girls! I was weighing up the pros and cons of getting married abroad (looking at the Caribbean). I have looked at all inclusive resorts that do weddings and it all looks amazing. I know it would be a wedding COMPLETELY different to one over here but these are the reasons I am contemplating it: Weather = bound to be gorgeous Marriage on the beach/overlooking the sea = lush Already at your honeymoon Wedding lasts a week rather than one day! (guests to stay for a week, me and tom to stay for 2) CHEAPER! - We are looking at £4000 for the wedding AND our two week stay (oh and its all inclusive)
I was just wondering what to expect if we were to decide to have a wedding abroad - if anyone would be opposed to it and if we would be expected to pay for people? as we are expecting people to say for themselves. I understand there will always be people that wont be able to make it that usually would if we were to get married in england, one being my other halfs older set of grandparents, I doubt they will make it. My parents are pro abroad wedding, as are toms auntie and uncle, but other than that we have not spoken to anybody (as it was their suggestions not us bringing it up)
Anyway sorry its long winded - i know there are general posts about abroad weddings, but none specific to guests and your opinions!! :) xxx
CommentAuthorRachie :D
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I would if it was someone I really loved but I would expect them to give me plenty of notice
even though we're getting married here Rich's brother lives in Australia so we've started planning now so we have a definite date so his brother can get organised as it costs around 4k for their flights alone xxxx
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CommentAuthorSharyorks
we went to mexico last year and this dominican this year and we watched weddings at both places - they were gorgeous.
we have been tempted to go abroad although h2b thinks that the 'build up' to the wedding won't be the same.
i really don't think you are expected to pay for anyone. i would be prepared for people to say they can't go espically in todays current econmic climate. although if you book it far enough ahead so people know what you are planning then they can plan ahead too!
good luck in finding what you want. there are a few people on here who are getting married abroad. x
CommentAuthorsammys
Thanks It was what I was thinking really, I haven't spoken to H2B about it yet, but he is open to ideas...
CommentAuthorLynz_9
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If it was a close friend and I was given plenty of time to save then I would definitely go, but would also be slightly miffed about having to take my two week holiday at the time of the wedding.
We looked into it, and to pay for all the people we would want at our wedding (bridesmaids and family etc) it would cost just as much. I knew it wouldn't be the same without all my close friends and h2b's close family there so it ended up not being an option.
I want to get married abroad. I always thought I wanted the big white wedding with all of my family around me but after falling out with my mums side and having a 50th birthday for my dad and only 2 of his brothers turning up I have realised they are not important to me. Could you put the link of the company on my wall so I can have a look cos I havent been able to get any idea of prices xx
CommentAuthorChrissy
Have to agree with raekim84 on this one xx
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CommentAuthorAtaraxia
I'd pay to go to a wedding abroad - that's the magic of doing it far away, it deters the people who would only come for the meal or whatever and you have an excellent reason for keeping the guest list small!
We're getting married abroad, but only Spain so we're getting the STDs out soon so people have time to prepare, but it's not so bad as flights to Spain aren't pricey at all!
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
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I would i would hehehehe
I was planning my wedding abroad (disney florida) but due to my ffil being a complete a ss and him calling me selfish my h2b has changed his mind and now wants to get married here instead. Apart from him everyone was really pleased for us when we told them our plans my sister said she couldnt afford all four of them to come but she would pay fr my nieces as they are my bridesmaids and my mum was weary about the flight but quite excited about the whole thing. BUT were not now because matt reackons its causing his dad stress??? If you want to know more theres a thread somewhere about this as im not gonna say any more cause i'll get upset again lol
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CommentAuthorjodie b
We're getting married abroad so I would go to one I think with enough notice it's ok xx
CommentAuthorsammys
Yeah I will link it to you angelan no problem :) I think there are people who wouldn't come who are family members but would come if it was in england who I wouldn't really be worried about inviting if i had the choice!! As for being miffed about taking off a weeks holiday for work, if I had a guest whose main concern was that over my wedding I don't think I would want them there really!! (besides its a holiday?!)
CommentAuthorsammys
the links on my wall (as awaiting confirmation of friend request) and don't want to forget the link!
CommentAuthorbtb2011
We all paid for ourselves to get to my sister's wedding in Barbados. It was only family that ended up going but I am not sure that they asked any friends anyway. They did have a party for everyone when they got back too.
CommentAuthorsammys
yeah we will definately be having a party after. I was thinking about getting blessed in church when we got back, and a party afterward. Our wedding would be carried out by a minister over there, but I still think it will be nice to be blessed at our local church, and that way anyone not coming can still see us kind of getting married :)
CommentAuthorangelan1986
Thanks love xxx
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
First wedding Pidge and I went to was in Italy... A lovely three day holiday near Venice! (English guy marrying Italian girl, so it was in her village). The night before they had an Italy vs UK football- it was fun! The Italians took it a lot more seriously though- the Brits had beers on the sidelines, they had water and energy drinks for example. So yes, if we could make it, we would pay.
BUT... be aware that the weather is not guarnteed to be perfect- tropical storms/ hurricanes are a lot more severe than British weather- choose your season carefully! I felt sorry for a bride on our honeymoon... Everytime they tried to set up, there was another storm! And the wind was... shall we stay strong. It cleared up in time for the wedding though. And be aware there may be sunbathers near by, and people in the sea.
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CommentAuthorNuttytart
I Would be happy to pay, its a holiday aswell!
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
im just going to be honest here ataraxia..but i wouldnt be happy if i got 8 months or 7 months notice to go abroad!!!!!
the prices may not seem "pricey" to you but have you thought about that it might be for others? esp with this economy situation just now!!!! also ..if ur only getting save the dates now, folk have to then go try book time off work and its usually the start of the year that people book them so always the possibility they might not get it off work! usually its about a year - year and a half notice thats quite a good time line for giving people notice..
this is not meant to demean you and upset you im just raising some concerns ...different story if you have told ur guests the date and they have had time to save up though
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CommentAuthormummyto2
i would pay if it was a very close family member like my brother or even best friend but dont think i'll pay all that money to go and see a cousin get married, but even then i would need atlease a years notice with having the kids
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CommentAuthorhaylsmccrone
my h2bs sister has just decided to get married abroad in august next year, she decided like the week after we booked our wedding, i looked and was going cost about £6000 for us, so he has told her theres no way we can go as got out own wedding etc to pay for and were moving in together next year so its just not possible for us to be able to do it
CommentAuthorsammys
all very good opinions :) its the kind of mixed bag that I was expecting :)
CommentAuthorKimi
I'd pay to attend a wedding abroad because we could use it as a holiday for us too if we book it for a week :)
The days are flying by, can't wait :)
CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
I would pay depending on who it was. ie immediate family/best friend
CommentAuthorNorm
Hey we are planning on getting married abroad and told friends and family that we would love to have there but can't find out exact prices and book it until next march/april. I know my Dad will definately come with us but have said to my close friends and family that i wouldn't expect them to pay that much for a holiday. If they could come along I would be chuffed to bits but have promised to throw a big party for everyone when we get back.
Amy xx
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
I would for a very close friend or member of my family
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CommentAuthorKaya
I'm with Emsy.... only for a VERY close friend or family member x
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CommentAuthorsouthern
It would depend who it was! I went to my cousin's wedding in Canada, but couldn't afford to go to her brother's a couple of years later. They won't be able to make my wedding as they now live in Australia.
We thought about getting married abroad and then having a UK party afterwards, but both our elderly grannies are here in the UK and wouldn't be able to make the trip.
Have the day YOU want, wherever you want it :)
CommentAuthorFordie
If I could afford to do so I would, I would deffo try for close family or friends, but in reality doubt I would be able to afford to pay for me and my kids to go, no matter how gutted I was at having to miss it. I think deffo try and give as much notice as possible, and for those who genuinely can't afford to make it, a party in the UK afterwards is a great idea...we attended a Las Vegas themed reception for a work colleague's party after they married abroad a few years back, it was great fun!! xx
CommentAuthorlelbel1
I definitely would pay, as long as I had enough notice, I would just make it my holiday for the year. After seeing some of the weddings in the Dominican I can understand why people do it. Hassle free and beautiful. x
CommentAuthorKerrylou
The first thing I did when we set our date was to tell our friends from abroad, so they had 2 years notice if they wanted to come. Most of them said they couldn't come which was sad but we understand why but we do have a couple of friends who have saved every last penny to make it here to see us get married.
Any wedding abroad does need plenty of notice, a trip to the Carribean is a luxury few can afford in this financial climate, all in all you're probably talking a month's mortgage payment (taking outfits, gifts etc etc into consideration), not many people are in a position to spend that sort of money. Having said that, anyone who really thinks anything of you will do everything within their means to get the money together and be there.
We were offered an almost free wedding in Mexico (I love my MOH!!) but we turned it down because I know my parents and my brother would never be able to afford to be there. I suppose it as much boils down to who you want to be there and who can actually afford it xxx
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CommentAuthormini me
We are getting married aboard next year. We were loking at the really nice hot countries but we decided in europe as this is really close and we know that 90% of both of our families could afford 1 week all inc for £500 each we gave them all 14 months notice and they we have only had one couple who cannot attend at the min.
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
It can be expensive to attend weddings in the UK to.... we spent £400 on accomodation alone back in Jan going to a wedding ( had to be there the day before as Pidge was an usher!)
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CommentAuthorChrissy~MrsFaulds2b
If we were to get married abroad then whoever we wanted to be there we'd pay for. At the end of the day we would be the ones choosing to go away and it's not fair to expect people to find goodness knows how much money to be there with us. We do the asking it's us that should do the paying, the same as it is having the wedding at home. That's just the way i am though xx
CommentAuthorLynz_9
I agree mrsfaulds2b, we are doing the same for our wedding in the UK, paying for the wedding parties accommodation :-) xx
CommentAuthorMichi
We went to H2B nephews wedding in Miami earlier this year and he gave everyone over 1 years notice so that everyone had time to save. But we went for about 10 days so we had a holiday as well :)
CommentAuthorMrs Hinch2B
I'd pay hun x
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CommentAuthorsammys
I would pay for my guests if I could afford to :( I just think this way we can actually afford to get married and have a honeymoon. I would not be upset if people said they cant come because thats the way it is! I think im just worried there will be people that will be upset that we might choose to go abroad but its what I want and we would never be able to afford a honeymoon to the Caribbean and a wedding at home. it would be one or the other, and I feel that if I did have a wedding at home, I would feel like I HAVE to go full on all out with everything and spend a fortune on things that I don't really want and people that I don't really want! I know it sounds harsh, but its true!! We were thinking about a reception in a marquee on a farm, but there will be a time in our lives we will do that, weather its a party or something else. I will never get the chance again (hopefully) to say my vowels on a gorgeous island!! :)
CommentAuthorsammys
mini me, who did you book your all inclusive wedding with? would you be able to put the link on my wall if they have one? thanks! x
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i'd pay x
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CommentAuthorxxsophieMxx
were getting married abroad, and all of our guests have been willing to pay, we too booked 14 months in advance so everyone had plenty of time to save. we have a few friends comig, and the rest is my family-nobody expected us to pay. were having a church blessing and having a big reception in feb next year so nobody will be missing out on the big white wedding that i always wanted x
CommentAuthorsammys
where are you getting married sophie? and how much is it costing you (if you dont mind me asking)
CommentAuthorxxsophieMxx
getting married in jamaica, the total cost of the holiday was about £4500, thats for 5 star all inclusive, all legal fees/marriage licence, reception, decorated location, flowers, wedding planner, it includes some photo's although were paying for extra, room upgrade, holiday and wedding insurance, extra luggage allowance and loads of little luxuries like champagne in the room, breakfast in the room morning after the wedding and stuff like that. it can be done cheaper than this though, we upgraded the seats on the plane, have use of the lounge in the airport etc,if we didnt have the extras, we could have done it for 4 grand. if you think of the price of a normal holiday, wedding packages are usually around £800-£1000 on top of that. xx
CommentAuthorRags
We discussed wedding abroad and decided against it, due to friends and family members finances, school teacher family and the fact that the honey moon is with your wedding party! Also why would my mum want to pay for a holiday with her ex-husband?? It would av caused too much stress.
I'd pay to go abroad for a hen weekend, but following the advice gotten from a friend whose just been to america for a wedding I would think very carefully before agreeing to go to an abroad wedding, but If the person was close enough then I would pay for my self.
Agree with Becca that 7-8 months notice is very tight for getting holiday from work and getting the money together :)
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CommentAuthortwirler
we are getting married abroad and gave our guests a years notice so they can save up. not one person ever expected for us to pay and some are even staying for 2 weeks so they can have the whole holiday experience. We tried a few companies but none did the service in the ceremony location we wanted so we have done ours all independently the family have booked through virgin we sent out what we thought were the best deals available at the time and got them to choose 1 and they have all booked the same hotel as us so we will all be together. we are then having a reception when we return to the uk for friends and family as we only invited close relative to the ceremony.
I would definitely go abroad to a wedding if invited and agree with Dove some wedding in the uk can be really expensive xx
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CommentAuthormomari
I like to do that BUT we have children so its will be hassle with them so no.but if not children deffo YES
CommentAuthorMRST
too much to read here, so im just going to comment. When my fiances brother got married abroad we only had 9 months to pay it, get spending money and clothes, which we managed! we decided at the start of this year and told everyone, booked it in april and it doesnt need to be paid till july next year, so i think if you give people enough notice then they will go, we want a small wedding and have a small family. but only 2 people have booked so far, they are willing to pay to come but not yet x
CommentAuthorangelan1986
i only want a few people there but i think it will end up costing me far more for the wedding abroad than a uk wedding and there is no way i am willing to pay for them to get there. all my guests earn more money than me and h2b so if they think theyre getting a free holiday they can forget it haha.
nah i am the same as you, i dont see the point in spending all the money on something you dont really want just to please other people when i dont really want most of them there. its so difficult xx
CommentAuthorAtaraxia
TY Becca four your point but we're only having family and a few very close friends at our wedding so most of them have known for a while that we're doing it and where we're doing it and all the other stuff.. I know it seems like short notice but I have told most people already, just sending them to make it a bit more official and so that nobody forgets! :)
Strangely enough our wedding works out cheaper for everyone involved if we do it abroad - h2b is Spanish anyway and most of his family live there IN the village we're marrying in, it's where h2b grew up. And it costs the same amount to fly out to Spain that it does for my family to get a train to where we live now, and it's exactly the same travelling time as well, about 2.5 hours! My family have been given notice to save up and book time off work, and h2b's family are all pretty well off anyway and usually spend time in the village during the summer anyway - we've made everything as easy as possible for the guests... we're even doing all the accomodation research for them and paying for airport transfers.
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CommentAuthorloubie100
I would definatley if it was close family and they gave me enough notice to save up the money x
CommentAuthorMonicaGeller
my friend got married in the dominican republic and i took my mom to the wedding. we all had the best time. we went out the week before them so that we could have 2 weeks without clashing with their honeymoon time.
