It's only just occured to me that people have ushers at weddings, how many is typical? I can see more money going on the suits for the boys than my dress and the bms combined!!
I'm really hoping the answer to this question is 2 haha!
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
Normally it will either match the bridesmaids, or would be one person for each side of the family (so two). We are having three but cant afford suits for them so they will wear their own suits and we will buy the waistcoats, cravats and buttonholes xxx
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CommentAuthorVickie
We are having 5 ushers and 1 pageboy. I am only have 2 bridesmaid and 1 flowergirl.
We are hiring the suits for them but having BM dresses bought/made.
It doesn't really matter how many you have each side as long as though they are important to you.
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CommentAuthorButtonAndBoo
So far our ushers are OH brother's there are 3, OH was wondering if it would be strange to have my brother in that list too...
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
We're having a best man and 3 ushers,they are hiring their suits and shoes which come in at £700 for groom, best man, 3 ushers, my dad, grooms dad and grooms grandad xx
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My 2 brothers are both ushers along with OH 2 friends and 1 brother. 1 of my brother is doing video too. Our quote is £900 for 9 hire suits.
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CommentAuthorChanelP
I think it is really up to you :) no set rules its your special day!! I am having 2 bridesmaids, best man, and 3 ushers(my two brothers and H2B's close friend) :)
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
We're not having any...
H2b has five best mates and I have my brother, so it was either have six or none. We're only having fifty to the day, and to be honest I'm not really sure what ushers do, so it didn't make sense to fork out six hundred quid plus on suit hire.
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CommentAuthorStacyT
id like to have the same amount of ushers as bridesmaids, its the suit cost thats putting me off, their suits are going to cost more than my bridesmaid dresses! we are trying to keep costs down and this may be a place to cut it x
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Another thing to bear in mind is that they traditionally get gifts too...
Sorry I'm sounding like a right tight bum here lol!!
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CommentAuthorKaren22
We're having two best men and five ushers as H2B can't choose between his brothers and best mates so is having all of them!!! Xx
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CommentAuthorChanelP
I am asking ushers to pay some towards their suits! I would love to be able to pay for them all but it's simply not possible. They are more than happy to pay some towards x
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CommentAuthorLauraB437
We aren't having any, our wedding is pretty small and we don't really see the point of having ushers!
CommentAuthorPenguinJ
we are having 1 best man, 2 ushers, maid of honour and 2 bridesmaids. I have asked all people who we are hiring suits for pay £50 towards it to help. they have all been more than happy to :) xxx
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CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
We're having 1 best man, 2 ushers, maid of honour, 2 bridesmaids & 2 flower girls. We will prob ask the ushers to pay/hire their own suits & like Linzi, we will get the waistcoats etc. But there aren't any rules on how many to have & some people don't have any. It's entirely up to you & your budget of course :) xx
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CommentAuthorJanie
I HATE it when people tell me oh you have to have this many bms this many ushers etc. What i say is do what YOU feel happy with. these days millions of couples dont stick rigidily to old fashined wedding etiquette. dont have any if you dont want any! it all cost more and more doesnt it, we have asked ours to wear black trousers ( what man doesnt have a pair) and white shirts (dead cheap from asda etc) and buying a waistcoat and cravat. cost us about £13 each usher max that way
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CommentAuthorVelcro
i dont have anyone from my side that could be an usher hahahahaha! theres only mybro, but hes giving me away!
i think il just tell the boy that 2 will do as he'd not thought about it either. I know he'll have his brother as one. Maybe he could ask his cousin to be the other. what do ushers typically do? tell people where to sit? as im not arsed where people sit as his side outnumber mine quite alot, so it's pretty much a free for all ceremony wise
I was thinking of putting them in fancy dress outfits anyway lol instead of suits. problem is the decent storm trooper outfits cost a bomb lol. This is open for negotiation though lmao.
If they are in suits then yeah i think il do the same, get them in their own trousers/shirts and just get the waistcoat and cravats.
Cool
thanks ladies! It hadn't even occured to me haha!
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Get them to buy their own! That's what we're doing, they won't mind I'm sure if u give them plenty of notice! Yeah ushers guide ppl to seats etc x
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CommentAuthorVelcro
Cool, well il see what the boy thinks about all the options then, and if he decides to ask afew friends, what they think too! :)
i think he wants to get a couple months saving under his belt first to see how he gets on with it. So il have to leave it with him haha
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CommentAuthorSamantha
Im confused why some ppl are having their brothers as ushers. Shouldnt they have a more importnat role like a groomsman? x
CommentAuthorVelcro
what the bloody hell is a grooms man!?
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CommentAuthorSamantha
In the wedding party you have the bride and her bridesmaids and the groom and his groomsmen. Ushers are just the people who show the guests to there seats at the church x
CommentAuthorVelcro
oh what. i clearly have no idea what im doing.... what does a groomsman do?
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I thought groomsmen and ushers were the same thing...we haven't got ushers,we've called ours groomsmen... Men of the groom lol
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CommentAuthorVelcro
Hahahahaha this is the most confusing thing ever
whoever it was that said its easier planning for a baby is RIGHT!!!!
I think we'll do what you have done, have groomsmen but get them to do the usher jobs lol
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CommentAuthorSamantha
Ive never known them to be the same thing. Ushers arnt even really that important. They dont get suits, sit at the top table or even get pictures taken with the wedding party. there just like helpers lol x
CommentAuthorLulu1388
They say that its usually 1 usher per 50 guests or some rubbish like that!! I thought a groomsman was another name for an usher - i take it im wrong?!
We have groom Best Man 2 Ushers & Page Boy. OH couldnt decide between best mate or bro for best man so decided one would be one and one would be the other.... still needs to confirm whos who! but thats it! I want my brother as an usher as want him as part of wedding party... so 6 men and 4 girls (inc me and groom) x
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CommentAuthorSamantha
I never even thought of getting the groomsmen to do the ushers job lol fink I will cuz I really didnt know who I was gonna pick to be ushers anyway x
CommentAuthorVelcro
Do they have any particular job to do then? ....i might just leave this with tom....
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CommentAuthorSamantha
I found this online that might help with the confusion lol
A groomsman is one of the male attendants to the groom in a wedding ceremony. The term usher is more common in the UK while the term 'groomsman' is more commonly used in America. Usually, the groom selects his closest friends and relatives to serve as groomsmen, and it is considered an honor to be selected. From his groomsmen, the groom usually chooses one to serve as best man.
For a wedding with many guests, the groom may also ask other male friends and relatives to act as ushers without otherwise participating in the wedding ceremony; their sole task is ushering guests to their seats before the ceremony. Ushers may also be hired for very large weddings.
CommentAuthorLulu1388
so technically really theyre the same thing haha. just groomsman sounds slightly more upmarket! x
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CommentAuthorSamantha
Im going with the second paragraph as over a hundred guests would count as many guests. Fink im still gonna get the groomsmen to do the ushers job though :) x
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Tbbh I'm not having groomsmen at the top table either,just the best man and chief bridesmaid x
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CommentAuthorLulu1388
as for toptable... only best man and maid of honour will sit on there! other BM, Bridesmaid, FG & one of the groomsmen/usher are all one family so will sit at table together anyway. and the other is my bro so he'll be at a table with his gf anyway! so all works out well i think! xx
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CommentAuthorSarah1865red
Just Ushers for us!! I have heard of groomsmem but thought they were the same thing. We have 2 best men and 1 chief bridesmaid - should they all sit at the top table as it won't be very balanced? We have 2 bridesmaids, 2 flower girls and 2 page boys who will all sit with family.
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CommentAuthorVickie
Groomsmens and ushers are the same thing, usher is Uk term and groomsmens are american term.
