As some of you may know, a few weeks back we found out I was pregnent (unplanned), will be about 10 weeks now (going off how long I have been sick for, can't work it out the usual way as I don't get lady time of the months).

At the start of this year we had a misscarrage and it litrally tor us both part, so when we found out I was pregnent again we where both a little concerned (doesn't help the fact I have epilesy with no trigger signs, and fighting 3 eating disorders), and OH said as awful as it may sound to some of you, he won't let it sink in until he holding our baby in his hands and he hears it crying.

Well we are doing up our house, I'm starting off my own business, making christmas cards and pressie for the whole of our families like every year, making litrally everything for our wedding, making things for babies room soon too (as I like been prepared so won't be leaving it to last min).

Anyhow the reason for this post is down to what happened today...

I collasped twice and blacked out. Luckly, OH was there the second time and he caught me. Luckly I wasn't at the top of the stairs when it happened. Luckly when I blacked out and threw up OH had turned me on my side... but I won't always be that luckly.

So after a very long chat, we decided I needed to drop a few things as it might help.

So what to drop? Well my mam has now decided to pay someone to come do the house up for us, so thats one big chunk gone, but also a fair bit of my mam anddads money. Dropped making christmas pressies for the whole family and just sticking to the cards, but that means we are now going to have to scrip and save so we can afford to buy pressies for people (thats 31 people, not including gifts for each other). Can't really drop the buisness, or the soon to be baby things. So what does that leave us with the wedding... yes that would take a massive load off my plate as like I said I'm litrally making everything and I mean everything, you name it and most likely making it. But it's just so awful to think that if I do "drop" doing the wedding things it's gonna takr forever to have a wedding at all.

And I don't want to sound selfish at all I know right now my health needs to come first, but I just wish there was another way...

X

I agree with Laura that you'll have a good amount of time after baby is here and you're both healthy and safe to do everything for your wedding xxx

Weddings can wait, yours and babies health can't and is too priority... Thinking of you x

Concentrate on yours and the baby's health for now.
Once you have the little un safely you can then focus your thoughts elsewhere.
Even if at the end of the day you have to put your wedding back I'm sure it will be more than worth it to keep both yourself and the baby safe.

Wishing you all the best xx

Sweetie you don't have to scrimp and save for christmas prezzies!!! We had a baby last year (our little surprise) which meant H2B had to uproot and leave Northampton to be with me and babba. We struggled last year with him just getting a new job, we had a new house (which was a mess when we got it) and a new baby. Our families understood that we couldn't afford christmas prezzies and were really understanding about it. We bought a prezzie for our niece as we felt being a child she shouldn't miss out and we bought prezzies for our son and each other but that's it. I am sure your family will understand, you don't need the extra stress.
You and baby are the main priority, you will still have enough time to plan your wedding once baby is here even if you have to push it back a while, you won't regret it xx

Yes try to relax all this stress will make things worse, are you on regular medication? they may put you as a high risk pregnancy i hope all goes well for you although you may be feeling a bit disheartened about cancelling the wedding the baby and planning for him/her will take up most of your time, you never know you may decide to keep the date after the baby arrives good luck xx

if you cannot cut down on 31 presents, how about something handmade?

I'm using my niece n making salt dough hand impressions, I'm then painting santa on it and threading a ribbon through so its a gift to them as a xmas decoration. i think its a cute idea since her hands are so small and sweet.

i bought ingredients paints etc all cost under £10 and did it for 20 people!!!!

something handmade may be the way forward????

Seriously.
Selfish b*tch.

There are thousands of kids in this world, all deserve the same love and affection as any other. Your child will be well loved as so will the cousin of your child. Hopefully they will form a wonderful bond. Even if your future SIL is unhappy. I can't believe what a complete idiot she really is. Someone needs to take her off her high horse, she should be congratulating you. I would purposely go out my way to p*ss her off LOL. Get everything she may not of, 3d Scan, Pregnancy Photo-shoot, Bump Cast ect Well and truly knock her nose off her face.

MUHAHAHAHA.

I still think that you'd have time to sort everything out once your Little one is here. If not then could you just postpone for a couple of months?

Taking care of yourself and baby definitely comes first. Plus as has already been mentioned, you will have a little pageboy/flower girl! Xxx

Im so sorry to hear what you are having to go through. Your health and baby musy come first. Wedding will wait for another time.

Is your medication something you need to think about now you are expecting?

My 3yr old has been diagnosed with generalised epilepsy this week. Cant even imagine how you are dealing with this as well as being pregnant. I can barely deal with that and the rest of my life at the moment.

I hope you stay well and wish you all the best for your pregnancy xxx

Firstly I think you have both made the right decision to put baby's and your health first

Congratulations!
As for BIL2B wife, well she needs to grow up and learn not to be such a childish selfish spoilt brat! What a female dog!


How much do you normally spend on materials for your homemade presents? Could you maybe spend a little on tokens this year and also do joint presents for couples? I'm sure everyone who is kind and has any love for you and your h2b will totally understand and be supportive xxx

That's a good idea xxx

That really sucks Button; At the end of the day; your health does come first so how about still doing wedding stuff but limiting what you do? You have 21 months till your wedding so you will have plenty of time after the baby is born to do the main diy things (sure you can fit it around looking after the baby).

Good luck :)

OMG sounds like your fsil is a total bitch face, how can she say that! its terrible, and Like i said how about just buying for the kids and not the adults that would take the stress off a bit!

If we bought just for the kids, it would take it down to about 7. But I would feel a bit shocking on everyone else, this would also mean we wouldn't get gifts for anyone on my side of the family.

We have has some good news today OH's dad and step mam are giving us a crib, moses basket, pram, play pen, bouncer seat, unisex clothes, high chair and a few other bits and bobs.

But slightly stressing out due to Monday, telling his mother that we are, and trust me I would rather sell my soul to the devil.

X

How did it go today honey? xx

Jesus, she sounds like a right piece if work!!

I think its amazing that most mil's are all the same, they seem to all have the same temperament, the same lame excuses, the same behaviour.... its ridiculous.... i hope i dont turn into my mil2b when my boys get married :-/ i couldnt live with myself! sorry you are yet another b2b suffering from mil2b syndrome!