got a text a few mins ago from MIL2B saying "i have got you a little something for your wedding, sod the rest of them!". So i asked H2B what she meant by the sod the rest of them bit. He said he didnt know, so I asked him if maybe some people were talking about me buying stuff already when we still have two years to go, and he then said yeah, i might have said something to my parents about "I cant believe she is buying things already, two years seems a long way away to me".

I have bought hardly anything! i bought flower girl posies for £3, some scatter crystals for £5 and just got my invitations for £88 as they were cheap in a sale. Oh and a pair of embroidered pouches for our rings, which cost £3 i think. THATS IT!

AND the only reason I am buying stuff now is because we are going to Australia in September (was booked before H2B proposed) so we are not starting to save for the wedding until we get back. But when we get back its major saving and beans on toast time for two years! And as I have saved up more than enough spending money for Oz, i thought it best to buy a few wee things now, whilst i can!

am I being unreasonable?? WHY is he moaning about me buying things already when he knows my reasons for doing it?? If it got left to him nothing would get done. When I ask him who is best man is going to be he says "not really thought about it yet" Which says it all to me.

Many men don't get excited the same way women do.

Like the best man- mine took 16 months to chose his. He wanted to make sure he made the right choice. Whereas women know who they want to be bridesmaids before they are engaged.

It's a man thing linzi, they don't understand the organisation and finances that go into a wedding until they get it rammed down their throats - pay no notice to him, it'd be different if it was him spending money on something ;)
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Definitely a man thing hun, don't take it to heart x x x

No more planning after we get wed?
FABULOUS!!
Can I get married now please? lol
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thats why i like here...apart from my best mate who gets married on 14th august ..5 weeks before me..there's no one else really that can know how excited i am lol xx

Kieran rolls his eyes when I'm on here but it was his idea to join!
The wedding is a long way off, mine is closer and still feels an age away so I can understand that he thinks maybe it's a bit early. I do myself when I'm looking at bits! He will probably get more involved when there is more that can be done. As for asking his Dad, he'll do it nearer the time, in his eyes there's no rush. He'll say yes if he asks him next week or 3 days before.
When ever anyone says anything about me planning things early I mention that the VAT rate is increasing in January and I can get stuff 2.5% cheaper now. That usually shuts them up!

Not unreasonable at all! Theres sooooo much that goes into a wedding the more time you have to buy items the better. Far easier to start buying now and spread the cost than one huge spend closer to the time. Hes v much like my Steve in that he just doesnt get it. He wont take the time to sit down and look at all whats involved so he scratches his head as to why Im faffing about like a headless chicken and do lil dances when I grabbed a bargain. To fair with my h2b, after our marriage fees letter this morning, hes sat up and taken a lil bit of interest. Could be because he knows it could seriously hurt his wallet tho. Will give him the benefit of the doubt. Nice one on your MIL2B tho, at least it sounds like shes excited! xx

I agree with Suzi - a man thing lol x

I just hate the thought of him going moaning about it to his parents. They are not exactly fully onside anyway, as they think that spending so much money on a wedding is a joke. But as they are not putting a penny towards it I dont feel like its any of their business how much we spend! His parents are lovely, but a bit old fashioned and just dont realise what a wedding costs these days. They keep saying that we should consider what else we could do with the money. Thing is tho, if it wasnt for wedding we wouldnt be saving!

i am sure his parents think that this is the wedding I want, and I am pushing for all the bells and whistles and that Shaun would be quite happy with a registry office and a McDonalds afterwards. But this is the wedding WE want. He said he wants to give me my dream wedding no matter what the cost, and this is my dream wedding! Just wish I had a bit more support from him and he would stick up for me when he is alone with his parents and not go moaning to them about OUR wedding!

thats men for ya. they havent got a clue.

I have nearly everything and booked nearly everything I have my dress bm dresses the lot, I'd right everything you need down even all the little bits and show him just how much it all costs at least your spreading the costs! My partner didn't understand till I explained how much its all going to cost all in one go! x

mine still thinks its too early to book stuff.......

tbf the likes of the kilts dont hae to be sorted til a couple months before..but no harm in looking at tartans!!!

just as long as u get sorted the big stuff - venue, photographer, reception *if different from venue* cars etc

Glad you sorted it out! The making up bit is always fun :D xxx