Ok to properly explain this i need to give a quick rundown of my family, its a big one, i have 3 aunties on my mums side. Now I wanted 3 bridesmaids and my maid of honour at my wedding- my sister, who will be nine, H2Bs sister, who will be 11, my best friend, who is my age, and my auntie H who is close in age to me as my maid of honour. Now auntie G isnt happy about the maid of honour situation but has said she will be fine with it and auntie A is fine with it. But auntie H has spoken to my nan- without talking to me first- and my nan and auntie H want me to have flowergirls as well now and nan has offered to pay for their dresses, but for flower girls i can only have auntie G and auntie H's girls as Auntie A's will be 12 by the date, which would then mean that auntie A isnt happy, but i cant say yes to hers being a bridesmaid as then her sister will want to be one, its a case of where to draw the line, and i cant even talk to H2B about it either as it was only brought up yesterday and he is in the army so unavailable this week- I want to say no since not all of my own siblings have a role in my wedding but i dont want to offend anyone, especially my auntie H and nan since they have offered to help pay for things so i want their input. It might be worth pointing out that auntie H ended up with 8 bridesmaids because of all this and we simply dont have the budget for gifts for 8 and extras for 8 never mind the dresses for 8.
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CommentAuthorSonya
This is one of those situations where you just have to do what you want to do and forget worrying about pleasing everyone else. When planning a wedding you are never going to please everyone so I say just concentrate on pleasing yourself, it is your day!
If you don't want flowergirls don't have flowergirls.
H2b's mum fell out with me over who I've picked as flowergirls but I put my foot down and she wasn't happy but what can she do? We're making the decisions to do with OUR wedding and you should do the same.
If you give in over this there will be something else that people expect you to change to suit and it will just spiral!
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CommentAuthorAna40
I would just tell people that you and your H2B have previously discussed the plans and that your happy with what you have decided. X
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
I agree with Sonya, it's a foot down and bite the bullet moment... I had to tell all of my 4 girl cousins (8-12YO, 10-14YO by the wedding) that I am not having bridesmaids as we cannot afford all of the dresses and accessories.. (Plus I didn't want them all (inc their mums) at my house while I'm trying to get ready lol) xxx
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CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
We have a similar problem in terms of our bridemaids and who to pick for the best man as he has three brothers and three sisters. Luckily I only have one sister so I do not need to choose. At the end of the day; it is yours an your h2b's big day and you can't please everyone. You should have the day as you want you it to be.
As Georgi said; you might just have to bite the bullet and say no to certain people or work around it as best as possible; you may upset people but you may just have to.
Good luck and I hope you manage to figure it all out.
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OO Bryony we have the same name spelt the same way too :) I would put your foot down hun, sit Auntie H and nan together and explain you don't want to offend anyone but you cant have one without the other and you simply cant afford the extra bridesmaids wether they pay for the flower girl dresses or not. Explain you dont want to hurt their feelings but you have chosen who jyou wanted and thats the end of the matter x
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
I have been in the same situation Bryony, but we just had to put our foot down and state that we were having who we were having, no one else (We still have 2 adults and 3 kiddies!). Unfortunately when it comes to weddings everyone you are close to starts to believe that it is their right to be a part of your bridal party, and you just have to put them straight. Remember it is your's and h2b's wedding, not your families!! xxx
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Just say no! Explain the situation to ur nan and auntie alone and they should understand!x
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CommentAuthorBryonyEminson2Be
Thanks for all the advice ladies, it will be hard telling them no but it has to be done or I will end up with too much to handle at the end of it, i have over 2 years to plan this and they have 2 years to keep trying to change my mind instead of jumping down my throat now, im sure my nan will understand and so will auntie H, its just putting up with them till then, I hope that all your family-related problems are easily dealt with as it is difficult and unfair that you have to be under so much stress from the ones you love just to have a nice day. Thanks again <3
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