I'd like your opinions...I really dont want to provide a separate toast drink as I don't really see the point. We're providing a drink during the drinks reception and wine with the meal. Half my guests dont drink alcohol (at all) and so they will be having sparkling grape juice.
In terms of the toast drink do I really have to provide ANOTHER drink for them to raise, can guests not just raise the glass they've already got?
Or am I just being stingy??
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It's up to you to be honest. We did but only coz I knew that the two bottles of wine on the table would go rapidly. It was only a glass each but still worked out a lot of money for it.
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CommentAuthorTatty
If half your guests aren't going to drink anyways I don't think it would be an issue. As long as everyone has a drink in their hand when you are doing the toasts you'll be fine. x
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CommentAuthorJoanna
This may be unpopular but yes I do think you have to provide a toast drink. You're asking people to raise a glass for you so it's only right that you give them that glass. Also, if you start your speeches and people haven't got a drink they'll have to go to the bar and get one and it could be chaotic and some people will miss the speeches or just not have a drink to toast with.
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
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The ONLY drinks we are providing are hot choc and milk n cookies during the photo's and then jugs of water on the tables during the meal and that's it. Everything else is a cash bar so I say nope you don't have to, it's all down to personal choice and budgets!
Oh and we are not having speech's either ;-)
Not many people coming drink wine or champagne so I know alot of it will be wasted so I'm saving my money and letting them get what they want from the bar instead!
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Personally, I think if you are having speeches then yes you should provide the toast drinks xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsGothBride
i dont think it matters, most if not all Will have a glass anyway, why waste your money?
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CommentAuthorRachy
Everyone will have a drink, just not a separate toast drink. They'll be plenty of water on the tables so worst case scenario they can raise a glass of that! Oh I don't know, I'm not sure what to do. I can imagine they'll be people there who will wonder where their toast drink it. But then my mum says who cares, they're getting fed! Lol x
CommentAuthorMrsGothBride
at a wedding I went to recently they give out paper slips to be used at the bar to get a drink instead of putting one type of alcohol on the tables.
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Personally I'd be wondering where the toast drink is...xx
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CommentAuthorTori
Why not just provide the toast drink rather than the during the meal drink x
CommentAuthorJoanna
Personally I would wonder where the toast drink was. I would rather have a toast drink and get my own drink for the meal if its one or the other so maybe consider doing that?
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CommentAuthorPenguinJ
i am providing toast drinks as its involved in the package and its a great deal and would like to so yeh. i wouldnt be bothered either way if i was a guest but i suppose some might be xxx
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CommentAuthorMelanieR15
I would also say if you are having speeches and having a toast to the bride and groom during the speeches, then yes, the toast drink should be provided.
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CommentAuthorAmyK
hmm.. I can empathise with this problem... all too often you see that toast drinks that have been supplied (and quite decent in size!) are left on tables untouched as a lot of people don't drink them for one reason or another... sometimes people have 'started' on the ale and don't want to mix drinks, or they're not wanting another alcoholic drink & they're wanting their coffees instead, or they simply have a sip and nothing more. Sometimes they get forgetten as the drink the guest has paid for is in one hand, and handbag or jacket in the other as they leave the table while its cleared away.
However, I would say consider small glasses of something bubbly or a non-alcoholic alternative, as a gesture. but I wouldn't go for anything other than the cheapest available, as fine champagne would be a total waste of money.
CommentAuthormillz090
I think if you dont then you will start the speeches, people will realise they don't have a drink as all gone and go off to the bar. Personally i like to raise of something to the bride and groom plus its traditional so i would be looking for a toast especially if you have provided other drinks throughout the day.
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CommentAuthorNearlyMrsFountain
I think a toast drink is needed but why not remove the wine on the tables, that's what im doing as neither of mine or h2b family drink wine and half of our guests don't drink at all.. So I'm providing sparkly or sparkling grape juice for toast. Although saying that we are providing 2 drinks each beforehand as we are getting married in a castle so they are getting drinks there as that's the main photo place then when we get to reception we are providing another and then toast. Xxx
CommentAuthorHannahD47
I don't think it's necessary. I don't think we will be providing one. Also, are you having a toastmaster? As he will declare that speeches will begin shortly so people will know if they want a drink they need to go get it.
I think you're fine without :)
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CommentAuthorMrsC
We're not buying toast drinks as we think they'd be wasted (as we've seen so many times before)
