does anyone have a problem with their mother in law not letting go of their son, in order for him to live his life and make his own choices??

ME!!!! my MIL is the devil - no joke, but i have started to learn to ingore her and her comments, she has actually got a little better since my H2B says if she doesnt start respecting me then him wont visit and will not be invited to the wedding haha.
Although we will see how long her 'good behaviour' last for when we start planing mroe wedding things.

x

OMG... i'm NOT alone! that's a relief... my H2B's mum is mind-controlling over him and you can tell when he is and is not talking for himself... she calls him every week and want's to know where he's been, what he's been doing - she just can't let go!

she makes him feel guilty if he doesn't see her all the time, so then he drops everything and runs round there - he would never do that for me!

i dread to think what monstrous article she will be wearign at the wedding - probably all black like a funeral. i'm telling you!

i hate going to her house - she makes it clear i'm unwelccome. my mum said she suffered the same problem, just 35 years ago instead!

lol trust me you have to let them rant on and try to ignore it then your other half should finally realise how mad she is,well worked for me anyhow!!dont let her get to you,hes yours not hers anymore and she will get over it!! :-)

My mother had a MIL from hell, and they lived on the same street!! now they get on fine, but for many years it was very hard for my mum.

I feel like the luckiest girl alive.
I moved in with my H2B and his mother and step dad to save money so we could buy our own home (which we have now done)

i lived with them for over a year, and became best friends with his sister (who is a year older already married with baby)

his family made me feel like their daughter. i love my mil so much, and even had her come along with me to a dress fitting just me and her.

I often spend time with her just me and her, and H2Bs sister is my cheif bridesmaid.

My h2b is soooo close to his family i think if they didnt get on with me or me with them our relationship may not have turned out this way - but he is very lucky to have a wonderful mother and family!!

I think i made sure i liked her too so that i wouldnt end up in the same boat as my mum and her MIL.

But i also think the reason Im so close to them is the fact that I live very far away from my own family and hardly get to see them at all.
Maybe four quick weekends in a year! (?) so its nice to have a family here, even if they are my family in law.

im soooo sorry you guys dont have that, i think i will make a promise to myself and my (not yet had them) children that i will not intefear with love.

Eek- that would be awful!! My H2Bs parents are both amazing!

No but my dad seems quite reluctant to let me go lol :) xxx

My mil2b is used to being the dominant one of the family, which includes my h2b. He is very wary of confronting her about anything or telling her what WE want. He wont stand up to her and she always gets her way. if things dont go her way she gets v upset. So my h2b walks on eggshells....stuck in the middle of 2 dominant women! Poor guy! xx

Nope! My h2b mother joked that she would be changing the locks after we moved in together, saying that he was my problem now, lol. Think she realises she pandered too much to him all through his life and is quite glad to see him move on, but now h2b has to realise that I am not his mum and he can do some things his bloody self, lol. x

my MIL2b keeps sayins its her weddin n gunna wear a big hat so its well in pictures! and she keeps sayin to my mum etc that they r gunna help wiv wedding 2 but havent told us what like my parents have

YUP YUP. I work full time and see my mum once a month if that and talk when i am not at work and she is not at work which doing shift work is not all the time.Martyn can ring is mum every day she sees him every wednesday and friday. Dont get me wrong we get on but he has to tell her everything. Some times when she ring to have a ''chat'' it will last an hour and i will speak to my mum and it can last an hour but i get told i spend to much time talking to her

thanks guys for all the comments so far - this is really making me feel like i can deal with it now - however hard it may be.

i think this is going to be very trying on me in the future!

the MIL2B that wants to wear the big hat - put "not hats" on your invitations!! LOL! our wedding is all indoors so don't have that problem... well... hopefully we wont!

Argh... i love my H2B to bits - we are the best of friends and to think he has been domineered and doctrinated by his mum for the last 35 years (only moved out christmas 2009 - that's how much she made him feel guilty for ever leaving her - whereas i moved out aged 19!!!)

i could rant on about this woman forever - there are levels to her that don't show on the outside. maindly because you only see the frosty exterior from the outside... brrrr!

lol that expression is bang on! i've never heard that before TEE HEE!

this is a real room divider - i think half the men will always please their mothers despite being married and possibly having kids by then... and the other half always do as their wife says...

there must be some kind of homing device genetical thing going on...

some women really control their boys - in their thirties - let them have a life! as it would have it, being mollycoddled all his life has made him very stubborn, always getting what he wants - which is what he learned from his mum. didn't learn any manners though!