I know it really silly but it's something I'm dreading already as
Im really not cool with a naked bird as they are these days in someplaces all over my HTB to be honest it makes me feel quite sick.
I want him to have a fun when his stag comes around but going to a stip club is one thing if they are just sat watching a show but when it comes to private dances and anything more then watching them on a stage I would really hate it.
Am I the only one and has anyone else given HTBs rules or anything? XX

I would not be happy at all if he had a private dance! I'm lucky though because our son is his bestman and I have already warned him that as bestman I will blame him, lol

My H2B doesn't want a stripper but I'm worried that the stag party might do it for a joke. I'm like you in that I wouldn't mind him watching but a private dance I wouldn't be so keen on. I just think those kind of interactions should be kept between a couple Just my opinion

I agree I think it's very sleazy.......

That the thing as much as the stag says he won't do it some one will always do it any way and my htb has a friend I dread him being with any time as he's the kinda guy that plays away from his wife and the additude is what goes on tour stays on tour. I'd be completely heart broken if I found out after we were married or something that I'd been lied to as my htb knows my feeling on the matter I'd feel cheated on.
I agree it things a couple should do not something a man goes and pays for behind his girls back XX

I also think it's gross as alot of stags will have the brides family members there.

leafy it aint about the stripper its about h2b drooling over another women, and being that close to another woman, it makes me feel sick

I trust him completely and he's well aware of my additude toward it but he has friends who really couldn't care less how I'd feel.
I love my htb millions but he is a nightmare when drunk with one friend example he went out with this friend for a few one night before we moved in together I was pregnant with our son at home fast asleep until 3 am when a extremely drunk bf at the time let himself in my house got in bed with me then started telling me what a useless checkout girl I was? WTF I'm not a checkout girl lol it became very clear he had no idea who I was. Next day he was so sorry he had no idea how or why he got to my house not his but this friend of his had been buying him shot after shot all night. We laugh about it now but I know that going to creep to mind the day his stag comes. Add being abroad into the mix I know I'm going to worry lots x

makes me feel sick as well. i have told him that if he even goes to a strip club the wedding will not happen and i will leave!!

about 18 months ago there was a comedy night near us which had strippers there. i was fine with h2b as had assured me it would be fine and he wouldnt do anything as i was worried at first.

anyway i met him after and he said he had a good night. some of the boys he was with showed some photos of them down on her and licking cream of her. i asked if he had done anything and he said no.

well little while late i found out he had licked cream of her! i can not tell you how upset i was. even more that he had lied to me.

i have told him that ifhe ever goes to a strip club or anywhere where there are strippers i will leave and i really do mean it. he says he doesnt want to go anyway which i am not sure whether to believe or not.

just got to trust him that he wont go to one xx

i really hope not! just his friends that will put pressure on him

its not the watching part its the 'messing around part' i.e. them all over them boobs in the face etc. its an intimate act that should be left for the two of you I suppose. I really would not like some girl grinding on my H2B crotch if you get me... I really dont think its acceptable.

I feel that some men (and women) think that because it's a stag do or hen night, that gives them the right to misbehave. If my other half licked cream off another woman I would be fuming and it wouldn't matter to me whether it was some random woman or a lap dancer. I

Ye I wouldn't like any of my friends to book me a stripper. I just find it tacky and a complete waste of their money

just curious thats all as i used to work in a lap dancers bar hostessing and know alot of lap dancers/strippers

youd be surprised if you went how tame it is really .... and the girls unless the fellas there dancing for are loaded, drug dealers, famous or gangsta types that they couldnt tell you who the last dance they did was for... they see it a 3 minutes of their life just doing their job.. alot of the girls see it as easy money for the sad desparados that go in their ...the men arent allowed to touch and if they do the doormen are very protective of thier girls!... just thought id stick up for the whole industry because its not as sleazy as you think ..... but dont hate me thats just my opinion.....just alot like topless sunbathing on holiday!! oh and part of being a hostey was interviewing potential dancers and you have to wach them audition and they dont get that close!.... but then again ive just worked in one ... but the one i worked in was a high class one ...

anyways just thought id ask

I think it's probably more to do with the h2b than it is of the girls who work there.

If I set rules for my h2b, he wouldn't follow them or at least his mates would make sure he didnt follow them and therefore i'm not going to follow his rules!!! It's one of our last nights out with our mates where we can have a laugh so I want him to have fun and plus I'm determined to have a great night on mine!!! I dont wanna set rules on our hen/stag dos!!! It's best that they get that s*it out of their systems before the wedding cuz after the wedding they won't need to pay for a gorgeous lady dancing naked for them! ;)

most men dont get turned on by them ( the odd sleaze that go in on their own that look like they need a bar of soap).. the lads egg each other on and buy dances for their mates to try and embaresses them .... its a guys way of making a fool out of the other guy (stag) its how men bond so to say ..... thats the way i have witnessed it my self from stag dos that went into my club... just thought throw my 2 pence in to try and ease your minds should your fellas go to strip bars...

not trying to offend anyone ... just giving you an insiders story to try and reasuure you that there not all about s£x these places

just let blokes be blokes for a night!!! thats what I say!!! my h2b just told me that blokes don't get turned on by the dancers its just and ego thing and they need to be seen as an alpha male and that they arent under the thumb! a dance dont mean anything! xxx

exactly steffie.... good post

plus most strippers under the slap aint all that to be honest

Lol at last post that makes me feel much better i think I'm picturing billie piper as belle in secret diary of a call girl too much, I know strippers are different but that's my image of strippers sexy enough to pay to see naked XX

Let them have a laugh! Cos thats all it is....having a laugh. They are coming home to you at the end of the night.

me personally.... i love a good strip show!

I wouldn't mind if h2b had a stripper - probably end up having one myself lol (mainly cos my girlfriends have their hearts set on it already...!) and like Goff said, it's just a laugh! x

Luce21 - I'm not being funny but who the hell does the best man think he is?????? I think you have every right to know what is happening, especially if he's going abroad!

Lisa-I totally agree- who does he think he is- but unfortunately he is my H2B's best mate!!!! But yes, grrrr to him. My H2B has changed abit you see since he has been dating me. He is 34yrs old and the oldest in the group of friends. But he had been single for years. So up until meeting me alomst 3 yrs ago, he lived the single life. Nothing stopped him from going out and he went out partying every fri,sat and whenever he felt like it. Obviously since being with me, he has changed because he is in a relationship. We saw eachother more-so he didnt go out with them as much. Then we moved in together (he used to live with his parents) and money was tight therefore we/he cant afford to go out as much. In a nut shell his friends blame me and say he isnt the man he used to be. Well no, he has gown up!!! x

I don't think I'd worry too much about my h2b going to a strip club on his stag do IF he's going out with a bunch of guys that can be trusted and who I know won't try and do anything that'll jeopardise our relationship. Unfortunately, my h2b's eldest brother is the opposite. He's the type of guy who would egg you on to do stuff and try and make you feel small or a party pooper if you didn't do his dare so I'm not looking forward to that as I know he's that much of a douchebag to try and cause controversy or friction. At the end of the day even if I tell h2b I don't want him to go to a strip club it's going to all be up to his mates and brothers who are going to organise it so I can't do anything but trust him and remind him if he touches or licks or any physical contact with the girl, even if it's just a dare, I'll skin his manhood, soak it in vinegar, chilli, salt and sulphuric acid then bbq and feed it to him. Lol. No seriously I'm just being realistic... I think if the lads surprises him and takes him to a strip club even if he doesn't want to go I don't think he'll be making a scene and tell them he don't want to go inside. He might as well tell them he's gay! So as long as he knows what he can and cannot do and that one mistake and I'll leave him and take my daughter away.. Then it's all up to him. If he cheats on me or does anything stupid enough to risk losing me and my daughter then it's his loss and I shouldn't be marrying him anyway.