I recently came across this on the net about people who are short of cash getting sponsored weddings. They contact local businesses and they offer them a discount/freebies to use your wedding as advertising. So a business may offer free invitations/place cards etc if they can apply their logo on to it.
Also i heard (dont know how true it is) that a couple couldnt afford their wedding so they wrote to local papers and magazine and local companies donated things for free so they could get married.
How many ladies out their would ever consider either of these when arranging your wedding plans if you were short of cash?
I dont think id mind a sponsored wedding if it was little things such as just a logo at back on invite or place card i wouldnt want big noticeable logos or advertising though.
CommentAuthorSpecialSundae
I suspect that for advertising, you'd have to be planning a wedding that they'd be excited to be involved with.
And for them to give you donations, you'd have to have one heck of a sob story.
I'm not saying either is impossible, but there has to be something in it for those giving you freebies.
CommentAuthorJilly17
I have a whopper of a sob story ha ha but I dont think I could ask for help like that. I am not sure how the advertising would work as the number of people who would see the advertising could be relatively low but it must be possible if other couples are doing it. Either way, I dont think it would be for me
CommentAuthorPaula
If people are happy to have an odd logo on invites, place cards ect and it helps them out then I dont see why not xx
CommentAuthorUnknown
i would never do it....if you cant afford to get married then dont in my opinion. may sound nasty but just how i feel
We are all entitled to our views and I dont think its right to judge other people its important to some people to get married it could be part of their believes x
CommentAuthorlovelylainee
I dont like the sound of it. I think it commercialises weddings. It is bad enough that now adays 1 in 3 weddings end in divorce so advertising with your wedding is just making it ajoke and taking away from the sentiment of getting married. I can see why someone may do it if they had planned their wedding and suddenly had something disastrous happen that they needed a last minute resort to help them get through a crisis so they could still have their wedding, but it is not something I would do
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CommentAuthorKatie
I think for some people it is a good idea. I would have done it as I am desperate to marry my H2B and if I thought that was the only way to do it I would do it :-)
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CommentAuthorEcoFreak
I wouldn't write to the paper, but I might get a company involved for sponsorship. But it'd have to be a specific company, not just anyone, and it'd have to be discreet/relevant.. So basically I'd do it but be rather picky so tbh it probably wouldn't happen lol! xx
CommentAuthorloubyscooby
Just been reading about a couple who got engaged this year and wanted to get married next year but soon found out how much their dream day was going to cost. Realising they couldn't afford it they decided to approach a variety of companies and in exchange for advertising their services/products they have managed to raise £15,525.50 of their 20k wedding cost. Having banners advertising florists/suits/rings etc around your reception and on your invites may not suit everyone but I have to admire their entrepreneurship. Hope they do have a lovely day though but its a bit too high a price for me to pay just to have the big budget wedding.
The story is in the papers today....
CommentAuthorKayteeG
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I'd feel so grim doing that - and believe me - we're as skint as they come lol! I think I'd rather just go to the registry office and then to the pub afterwards if I couldn't afford anything more! Surely the most important thing is that you're married at the end of the day x
CommentAuthortweedwedding
I'm not it's something I'd go for, but if it was the only way I could get married then yeah, I think I'd go for it!
CommentAuthorWeeMintyMonkie
I wouldnt mind if it was just a little logo.
I would worry that the business would take over the plans etc.
xxx
CommentAuthorMrs Brakes
Everyone is different. For some people having the big day of their dreams is as important as the actual act of getting married and some people are happy to pop to the registry office at lunchtime, get it signed and go home after. We knew what we wanted our wedding to be and that's what we're having and luckily it hasn't cost 10's of thousands, just thousands. (just she says) I don't think you can write off people's dreams based on your own opinions. If the dream is a big wedding but you don't have the means to pay for it then I think the sponsored wedding is the way to go. Think of it this way...If your parents give you money then usually you would tell people what they paid for and if you get a nice dress from a good shop then you would tell people. In this case it's the provider telling people on your behalf and you get it cheaper.
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Iwould want to know how the advertizing is done ..... do they have banners on the wall ? maybe the bride will have a sign on the back of the dress with ...."supplied by ......" etc ...there is a wonderful saying that i think more people should think about ........" living within your means " i was brought up with the ethic of if you dont have the money you dont have the item... this doesnt for one minute that i had everything i wanted ....it means i saved , even with my first saturday job at 16 i had to split my wages into 3 ....a third went to my parent for my keep ....a third went to the bank and the last third was mine to do with what i wanted
This is what they have agreed to - "In return, guests will be shown a board detailing what each business has contributed. Firms will then be further advertised on the wedding invitation and in the speeches and will be allowed to hang up banners at the reception.It's hard work organising everything. For example we plan to include leaflets, plugging every company, to go out with the invites. I have also already agreed that, as well as providing advertising, I am going to volunteer for a few days for one company. "
Just can't imagine the speeches......."my wife looks beautiful in a dress loaned by **** , shoes supplied by *****, undies by *** (come on love show them or we aren't advertising properly)
I too think you need to be realistic and in my opinion this is a step too far.
CommentAuthorKayteeG
That's a point well made lala! I suppose the world would be boring if we were all the same. It's not something I'd want to do, but if it what makes someone else happy - that's up to them!
CommentAuthorIgnition
That is an excellent point lala. MY H2B and I have been together for 8 years engaged for just over 6 and struggled to live for a while , we still do now, but we are paying for our Wedding bit by bit. We are going slightly outside what we should, but we think it's only Fair, because I only intend to do it once, and to be honest after losing a child, having Kidney Disease being on Dialysis and waiting I don't know how long for a Kidney Transplant, having a mum who isn't bothered and a son with ADHD all before the age of 27, I think I deserve it.
So we are are going for what we can, bit by bit, everything is being bought and paid for as and when we can afford it. I couldn't imagine having banners and things everywhere. It would drive me crazy as to whether they were gonna look any good or would they lower the tone of my Day. xxxx
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CommentAuthorBOB
Hi All, as you are all discussing my wedding that you read inThe Sun Newspaper, I thought I would join in the discussion. Feel free to fire away with your comments and questions. Just for reference, I am in control of how these business advertise at our wedding.
CommentAuthorBOB
Speeches - I did have to laugh at the comment made by loubyscooby. Obviously we will be annoucing thanks to our sponsors in the speeches but do not think I will be flashing my underwear. Speeches are usually about toasting to the bride and groom and then thank people whom have been activley involved. Well in our case we obviously have a few more people to thank than just the Bridesmaids and Grooms Men.
CommentAuthorsuzky123
personally, i dont like the idea and I can see why some people do it to get married. However, even if you dont earn a fortune, people can still get married but should just wait until they afford it. We already live in a debt ridden society that expects to have everything they want instead of earning it and this is PART of the reason we got here as people demand what they want when they want it instead of waiting and earning it. I think if two people want to get married so badly, then they should work for it and save up like everyone else. I think people today take it for granted that they can get what they want! (awaiting the backlash but thats how I feel and im sure im not the only one).
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CommentAuthorsuzky123
i do like loubscooys idea tho of volunteering as she is then working hard and earning the extra support. I have no problem with that and would encourage it. What i don agree with is people who just play the sob story and dont work for it and just expect to be given what they want!
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CommentAuthorBOB
There is no 'sob' story to why we are doing what we are doing. When you attend a wedding do you know who has supplied the flowers or who made the cake? Usually not! So people appreciate the opportuniy to be able to advertise while they demonstrate their services.
CommentAuthorAngelaeris
I think if you've got the guts to do it then why not. Each to their own as they say. Those businesses who have offered their services are not doing it out of the kindness of their hearts. Weddings are big business and how many people go to weddings and like what they see then want the exact same thing for their own. The difference in this wedding will be they will Know the suppliers! I think it's a well thought out idea and if done in the right way then why not. Kinda wish I'd thought if it tbh lol
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CommentAuthorBOB
We both work. I am starting my own company. This is not a story greed but is supposed to be a motivational story that. We are all struggling in today's society. Instead of moaning about what we can not afford though, we are trying to show people that if you want something enough then you can achieve it. There is no such thing as luck in this world you make your own. It is about finding the compromises in life, for example if your partner is a builder and you find a venue that needs some work doing, offer the work for free. Find situations that benefit everyone. In our case we are all benefiting as we get our dream wedding, the sponsors get advertising and other brides/anyone in any situation on a budget get inspiration and hope. I appreciate that some people may find this not the correct way to do things but this is right for us. It will not be tacky. Also for the record, i never said "we can afford it" what I actually said is, "it is ambitious to asume we can afford it".
CommentAuthorBOB
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Here is a list of all our current sposnors; If you are on a budget and you quote our story you may be offered some form of discount. Dress: ********* Rings ************ Venue: ************* Caterers: ************* Photography: *********** Videograpgher: ************** Fireworks ************** Dentist: **************** Flowers: *********** Harp: ************** Beauty: ************** Toast Master: *************** Banners: ************** Hair: ************** Mens Suit: ***************
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CommentAuthorsuzky123
Bob, I don't know your case and have not read it in the paper so I wasn't referring to you directly but I can see your slightly miffed and it may be due to my comment. However, if you read the second comment I made, as long as people are working for it I would condone that and do not have a problem, you have mentioned in your new post you are compromising and working for bits of it. I agree with offering services etc that is fine as then everyone wins and people aren't trying to get something for nothing. What I dont agree with is certain people who do this but DO expect something for nothing with every part of it. I just feel that in day to day life, and not just with weddings there are far too many people that have the attitude of not working for something but getting it anyways. However, if you are trying to get married and are compromising with the firms and offering your own services in an alternative way then good on you as you are still earning it!
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CommentAuthorBOB
Also wanted to ad that I am not getting something for nothing! Doing this is hard work I am effectively working behind the scenes as a PR Manager. As you will see I have offered Voluntry hours. I have also stated and it was not printed in The Paper that should we manage to achieve a big sponsor that offers some funding sponsorship. If there is any money left over once the full cost of the wedding is paid, we will donate it to charity. Believe me, anyone considering this option should know that if is an awful lot of work to please all your sponsors and that as well as being a bride organising you wedding you will be working overtime!
CommentAuthorBOB
Suzky123 Thank you for your comments.
CommentAuthorsuzky123
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i dont think you are reading my responses properly so will just leave it there then. As I said, if people are working for it in an alternative way then great. If not and just relying on sponsors without offering services then yeah i would be annoyed as there are so many brides on here, both small budget and big budget that work really hard for what they get but they earn it. And I strongly admire all of the small budget brides especially that manage to have amazing days when the purse strings are so tight. They pick what is important to them and work hard for it.
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CommentAuthorAngelaeris
Bob when are you getting married? Also you might want to edit your post with all this suppliers before the mods see it as on this forum there is no advertising allowed lol
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CommentAuthorBOB
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With reference to the first comment on this chat, I did not write to local newspapers, magazines etc and ask for them to donate stuff for free so we could get married. I rang all of my sponsors in person and asked if they would sponsor us in return for advertising their service at the wedding. I only asked sponsors who I would of contacted anyway even if I was not having it sponsored as you need to get on with people and be working to organise your wedding with people you like. A lot of this is about my sponsors believing in me as a person. For example, ****************************, Quote line for the story "After saying No twice on the telephone before meeting Khrystal, I quickly changed my opinion after meeting her". She is one of the most shrewed business woman I have every met in my life and possibly the hardest interview I have ever had. For her to of made this comments suggested to me that she believed I would be working hard on her behalf to get her name out there. This is possibly the UKs Longest standing bridal dress shops, she started her own company 25 years ago after starting out with £2.50 in har pocket. So to have been awarded with her support, is not just merely about having her display her company at our wedding it is about relationships too.
CommentAuthorBOB
What are the Mods? I am new to this? How do you edit a post? Thank you.
CommentAuthorsuzky123
go to the RHS of your post near the top and there is an edit icon that appears.
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CommentAuthorAngelaeris
Mods = moderators (a mottley bunch hehe) you can edit your post at the top right hand corner of each post.
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CommentAuthorBOB
If someone said here is £20k to let me advertise at your wedding by displaying them tastefully, how many of us Brides would say Thank you and jump at it?
CommentAuthorBOB
Thank you Angelaeris. Our wedding date next April.
CommentAuthorAngelaeris
Yep lol only if it was tastefully done though lol.
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CommentAuthorBOB
I have had a banner done already with all my company sposnors logos on, hang it at the enterance or something of this nature and I will mention them in the speeches. It is not going to dominate the whole wedding, maybe a table of leaflets, with the guest book next to it. All within my control.
CommentAuthorsuzky123
as long as we dont get into a rant then I personally wouldnt. I would like to have the pride of doing things for myself and working hard for it, and if that meant I could only have a 1k wedding compared to what I am getting then I would choose the 1k wedding. This is my honest opinion only and I'm sure some people will agree with this and others wont but as mentioned, i think there are too many people who take things for granted and I would like to see a society like it was back in the day where people worked bloody hard for what they have and appreciate it. My family has never had money, I am the only one in the family that does and they are so proud that dave and I are working for it even if it is taking 2 years to pay for it. It was our choice to have the big wedding and we are being responsible and paying for it ourselves given it was our choice. There are even brides on here that are waiting 5 years just to pay for a wedding that is small budget and I respect them so much more for that. I am sorry that my comments are probably not what you want to hear but this is my opinion. I can understand some small budget brides that may need a gentle push from the odd sponsor but a big wedding that is solely about sponsorship then im sorry but I dont agree with that. If it cant be afforded then why have it. Fireworks for sponsorship? I actually know a few wedding suppliers well enough that they will be honest with me.... they may appear to give something away for free but nine times out of ten, they just add the money on to their services to make up for the money lost so it is the other brides that get hit!
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CommentAuthorBOB
See it is not so bad! I hope a few Brides on a budget can take away some hope from our story that you can have the day you dreamed of, just find a way... any way! It can be done, be brave enough to ask. Confident in yourself and know that you can make your own luck. S
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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Hi it nice to have you here andthe fact that you say you are open to questions ....
so .....
why when you state in the reprted piece that you can afford a "20k wedding" did you feel the need to have others pay for it instead?
i dont get what the sponsors are getting out of it. How many people have you got coming to your wedding? if i went to a wedding and thought the flowers were nice, i wouldnt necessarily book them for my own wedding. And most of the people coming to my day event are already married, so would be very unlikely to use the services of any of my sponsors.
you must be some saleswoman to convince the suppliers to go for it!
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CommentAuthorClarabella
Bob can you put the list of your suppliers on your wall and unrestrict your page as well so we can see it please
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CommentAuthorlinzi
surely if these suppliers just spent the day going to a wedding fayre, they would get more business than you mentioning their name during your wedding?
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CommentAuthorTinsel
Hey BOB.
We're getting married in April too - where in the UK are you? Sorry, I didn't see your story in the paper.
I do agree with Suzky - not my cup of tea, but well done to you for your entrepreneurship!
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CommentAuthorClarabella
Oh i admire that your letting companies advertise at your wedding. I wouldnt have the guts to ask people to sponsor at our wedding. I dont like rejection so to have so many companies saying no to me would be so upsetting for me lol
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CommentAuthorTinsel
But, Linzi, did the newspaper mention all the sponsors? That's where they will make there money back x
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CommentAuthorRachie :D
I appreciate what you're doing but this to me is not my dream day.
Me, Rich and my parents have worked really hard to save the money we are spending on our Wedding, our guests wont have advertising thrust at them from left right and center.
This is no way me having a dig it's just my opinion.
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