im gona apologise now cos once i start typing this i know its gona end up being a short story.

Im soooo fed up, im excited about the wedding but the whole thing is just making me ill. i really dont know why we're bothering sometimes.
My mum has showed pretty much zero interest in the whole thing. When we first told her all she kept saying was maybe you should wait, why are you rushing it. I wouldnt mind but we're not actually getting married until October next year and we've been together 5 and a half years and have 2 kids together so its not exactly rushing is it?!!!
When we went to the venue i asked her to come, so she could see it but she refused, said she';d stay back and look after the kids. I went out the other day to try on dresses for the first time. I asked her to come but all she said was that she had a bad back. All she had to do was sit there. She's showed some interest but only when other people are around. Hes mum is pretty much the same. Whenever the wedding gets bought up all u get from her is an "ahhh right".

I have a health problem and all the stress is making it flare up and im just feeling generally run down and depressed.
On top of all that i had to change my colours and flowers cos my friend had the same. Im stressing about my MOH's dress and what she can wear as she quite big. I could just sit here and cry and think if it werent for the kids i probably would. I just feel like no-one really gives a shit that we're getting married so why are we spending so much money doing it when we could bog off somewhere just us and kids and do it for a fraction of the price.

I dont meant o sound ungrateful or anything like that. i am happy about getting married. Im exstatic (sp) i just wish everyone else could get as excited about it as me or at the very least show a bit of interest. The onyl person i speak to about it really i my neighbour who's a close friend. She was the one who came with me dress shopping on saturday. Which as fun as it was, was again quite depressing as all the other girls that were there had their mums with them!

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggggggggggh. if it wasnt for this site i honestly think i would of just given up on it all. I come on here and everyone is as excited about it as i am and is actually interested in what im saying (or at least you're all good at pretending you are lol) i havent really got that away from here so thank you ladies. And thanks for listening to me moan & rant xx

First of all, big hugs! Mums can be funny things - mine isnt really interested either, yet. I think she will be as it gets closer, it still feels like a long time away yet. Its hard to say why they can show so little interest - maybe there are other things going on for them that are stressful? Maybe they are worried they are going to have to contibute? My MIL2B is ace but a nightmare to take shopping as whenever I pick up something for the wedding she is immediately reaching for her purse! Even if its something I'm just taking a look at and not interested in buying! So it works both ways! You'll most probably find that as time goes on their interest will grow, to us our weddings are just around the corner, to them, its a long way off! The person most excited about our wedding is my best friend - she is on the phone to me all the time asking about plans - bit like you and your neighbour. And when I've been in dress shops most of the other B2Bs have friends with them, or BMS, rather than mums, so you are not alone!!

Just concentrate on the wedding and everything will fall into place, I'm sure.

Hey i know what you mean, there is only my sis and two friends that are interested about mine, my mum doesnt say much, my dad doesnt give a s**t. And to top it all of when we anounced our engagement to my h2b mother, she asked him who he had got engaged to..... i have been with him 14 years and we have four kids.... who the hell did she think he was gonna marry??!!!!
All i can say are families are funny things, do this wedding for you, and f**k everyone else... it is there loss if they dont want to share in the joy and excitement of the build up to your wedding, this is supposed to be a happy time for us all, just a shame our families cant see that. Bigg huggs hunxxxxxxxxxxxxx

First of all ((((hugzzzzz)))) Im sorry you feel the way you do because of unsupporting family.
Second of all if they choose not to make a conscious effort with you then stop talking about it.
I dont mean that in a bad way but if you say nothing they may then think why isnt she mentioning the wedding.
If they ask you about it I personally would say "Oh! I thought you werent interested?" but thats me.
Your wedding Day is about you, h2b and your children, dont let people (family or not) spoil the excitement
of the planning and everything. You are going to look and feel spectacular on your special day and if they choose
to not be part of all that excitement then there making the biggest mistake ever xxxxx

aw hun you poor thing.

to be honest i had a similar thing with my mum. until a couple of months ago she was actively trying to avoid getting into a conversation about weddings and made it pointedly clear she wasn't going to talk about it. she even did the whole 'why don't you wait' thing and really upset me when she told me i should be putting my wedding off a year to buy the house we're in now.

then we got to the 12 months till the day mark and it was like a lightbulb had gone off. suddenly we were dress shopping she was researching flowers. i had been so upset and then i just thought maybe it was just too far away for her to get invested in? i'm the only girl with five brothers and i think it's just one of those things that it's not real until it's on top of you. perhaps? maybe it's just a safe distance away for her at the minute and she doesn't realise it's hurting your feelings?

Thank you all for your support :)

My h2b says the same thing, stop talking about it to her, dont include her. its her loss. But when its your mum u want them to be excited for u. i dunno. maybe im expecting too much too soon. I mean we still have quite a way to go so maybe she'l get more excited nearer the time.

i got quite upset the other day when i got back from dress shopping cos i rang her and said i;d go over and show her the pics my friend took of me in the dresses, her response was "oh, well im going in the bath in 20 mins"

She did show an interest the next day and wanted to see the pics but not when it mattered iykwim.

bless you. x you will have the best day ever its your day don't let anyone spoil that. family are a funny thing im sure it will get bettaxx