I have just got so annoyed about my sister trying to steal my thunder yet again, She has been with her partner nearly 10 years they have been engaged for 9 years and now all of a sudden since i have booked my wedding she has finally give in and said "Yes Le we can set a date"

Before this happened (last night) She has said to me that she is not comfortable being my Maid of Honor because she will have to wear a dress and stand up in front of being and doesn't like the fact that some of the attention will be on her (what she think going to happen when its her own wedding) she also said to me "I wont be having a meal at your wedding I cant eat in public" what she going o do at her own wedding?

I am so frustrated and had a shot with my mum about it saying all this and I got told Just let her get on with it" .. even though all my life i have been to blame for all the bad things that have happened in my sisters life basically just because i was born shes one of those people) but im that horrible of a sister she seems to want my life (i dont understand it either something wrong in her head if you ask me) every time i get something new she has to get better, i had a business dream and she tried to steal my dream from me so i gave up and went into my second option thats not my dream but i can live with

Horrible to say and i hope i am wrong but i even think the reason i have a niece is because i had a child !

From being young teenagers she has always been career orientated and has ALWAYS said I am never getting married I am never have kids yet i have a kid then she has a kid i have another and she starts trying to plan another I get engaged she was already engaged but happy enough to stay that way for the rest of her life because She is not the marrying kind (her words not mine) i book my wedding and now look she is booking her wedding ... Oh and she already tried o spoil my engagement party!

And with all this going on I have to just let her get on with it !!! some times with i had millions of pounds so i could move to the other side of the world

Sorry fr the rant but i had to get it off my chest !!

It's really difficult sometimes when you have sisters (I have 3) and things get testy even though you love them. Just leave her too it, like millz090 said, maybe seeing you plan your big day, has made her realise what she wants finally. Try and stay calm and just smile and nod if she says anything critical. My youngest sister is getting married in November, and although we've have similar tastes our days will be so different, and planning together has been fun!
Stay positive hun, and try to think of your amazing day x

I wouldn't let her "get on with it" I'd have it out and explain everything, how your feeling etc, but if it's as bad as that I'm surprised she's your MOH
Good luck x

Well the only reason I asked her to be maid of honor is because family said she wold have to be and i am a very shy hate confrontation type of person so i just went along with it

She is definatly a person that would get married because i am getting married no 2 ways about it. She is that bad that My Dream would be to have a cake business i have been taking classes and selling cakes to family and friends for just over a year now and guess what girls my sister is now decorating cake and even tried to say she wants to set up business together ... she had no interest in decorating cakes until i was getting the attention for it

Oh she is that bad that when my dad who is only 51 and usually fit and healthy got diagnosed with cancer last month that she caused a huge family row making it all about her self and during this time she told us all her version of home truths and basically i have ruined her life (i must add that i am the youngest and she is the oldest there is just us 2) basically by being born because since i was born i have getting everything and got spoilt when in fact it was the other way round sh was favored that much that my own Grandmother told me GOD MAKES CHLDREN LIKE YOU DIE

Im jut sick of it iv had it all my life and now shes trying to spoil my wedding none of the family seem to want to stick up for me because it will cause an arguemet i honestly feel like canceling my wedding as i dont matter

SORRY FOR THE EVEN BIGGER RANT

xx

Sometimes you can't figure out for the life of you why some people are jealous, but they are for their own reasons that you would never realise. Not they would ever admit to themselves let alone you! After having a great friend help me understand, smile, knowing this, knowing that you know better and not to take it so personally as I had done. You can't change the way people feel, but you can change how it affects you. Because if you do that, then then your life will be a whole lot more peaceful! I'm waffling, its a lazy day in with a stinking cold and nothing better to do, sorry! xx

That was what I was going to say but forgot to add. I could tell my friend where to go. I'm sure its the kind of person you are that shes jealous of. Because by the sounds of her, she needs to work on hers a bit. Just from whats been said! not to offend x

It definitely does sound like she's jealous of the life you have, despite having the material things herself, she obviously craves more than that and it sounds like you have it ! I'd love to say something to my SiL but don't want to hurt my brother xx

I dont have any sisters, and my circumstances arent as severe as yours, but all I can say is I now understand how vindictive some women can be.... Hold your head high, dont stoop to her level and basically adopt a 'sod her' attitude hun..... You've been much more tolerant than I would have been x x

I can see where you're coming from, my sister has always been the one to trump everything I do. When I got tickets to see Robbie Williams, she got backstage passes, when I got engaged my h2b hadn't bought a ring so that very weekend she announces that her mother-in-law has given her a new engagement ring (her 3rd) the diamond alone is worth £30k. We booked our New York honeymoon for July, guess where she's going in May (it's always been my dream to go to New York), there have been countless things in my life that I've been really proud/excited about that she has over shadowed but at the end of the day I'm 33 she's 42, it's been like this for long enough that it'll never change so I can only focus on all that is brilliant in my life. If I dwell on all that bothers me it will bring me down.

As far as your cake dream goes, don't let her pee all over that. Not just for your sake but for the people that you could potentially make cakes for. I've had a look at your pics and they are amazing. I doubt she could do as good as you because she lacks the passion for it as it is YOUR dream.