A few months ago someone mentioned to me that she has a secret money stash so she could treat her family to a holiday. So got me thinking and I started a secret wedding pot. I try and put money in when I can afford too whether its a £10 here or £1 there. It has been SOOOO hard not telling my h2b or even my mum lol. But I want to keep it a surprise as long as I can. So one day I can say here's £...... Towards our wedding. So thought I'd write this discussion as thought might be something you ladies might be interested in. As I know how hard it is to save with partners as household things usually drop up. This way I just act like the money doesn't exist to stop me taking money out of it. So far I have saved up £226 :) can't wait to surprise my h2b when the time comes xx
CommentAuthornatalie2614
I dont have a secret stash as such but once the weddings over im starting one of those teramuni pots for a baby. Each time I get a £2 it will go in, and h2b will do the same. hopefully by the time we come to have a baby there will be a nice pot for us.
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CommentAuthorb2bnicola
I have a secret stash of wedding "accessories" we'll call them ha! They are at my mums house. Every now and again if I see something I like for our wedding and can afford it I'll order it and have it delivered to my mums house. Not massive things but lil things like scatter crystals, candles - that kinda thing! Then on the wedding day I can just give to them to the wedding venue who said they will accessorise everything for us and h2b wud just be like "wow look at this room it looks so nice" lol - thats what i hope will happen anyways haha x
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
i like all your plans its the best way to do it, i think i will get one of those pots for a baby
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CommentAuthorMrsbayliss2B
Me and h2b start pots of really well and then something happens and we have to use it! I really like the baby pot idea, i think we would b much better with this, because we would feel really guilty taking any money from it:-) x
good idea i do it with xmas stuff 2 make the xmas shop cheaper ish lol n i did with the kids christnings he waited till week b4 n said dont u need stuff 2 do it up n give me £70 so i went upstairs n pulled binliners full of deks papper plates the lot n took his £70 lol x
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CommentAuthorTatty
I have a secret money pot that is locked, I don't even know how much is in it at the moment so when I do decide to break into it it's a surprise for me too :)
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CommentAuthorPrincess2be
this is SUCH a good idea!! x
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
We have a £2 pot too which not sure what its for yet. And a water container for loose change, but wanted the wedding stash so I won't feel bad spending the money on the wedding. The wedding accessories is a great idea, we well I have decided to collect little bits as often as I can, so as we get closer to wedding its just big stuff to sort. I've decided on invites I want but gotta buy all the bits To make them, so that will be early buy and stuff like that but the secret money will proberly go towards caterers or whatever we decide. I'd like to have £1000 or more before telling OH x
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Well done on the saving up. All helps.
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
i paid for my bm`s dresses like that ...at the end ofthe week what everchange i have under £2 coin goes in the pot ... my dad does it to ..in his bagpuss money box !
great ideas might start one to help pay for church x
CommentAuthorOWB
I do it with my tips jar from work. I'm terrible for dipping in for my lunch though, so I picked up one of the pots that you have to open with a tin-opener. It's over half full in 4 months.
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CommentAuthorDonda
I started a secret stash in January. I had my son's 21st birthday in august and my Mum, son, H2B and myself went up to Loch Lomond last week for the 2nd anniversary of my Dad's passing. The tin has paid for my Sons £300 birthday present, paid for my share of our trip and it's just paid half towards my H2B's wedding ring :) I am keep going to put money in, like you say £10 here or £1 there, its come in so handy. My H2B doesn't know that I'm carrying on saving in it so it will be a nice surprise for him when I can give him it the day before the wedding as a help towards our honeymoon spends xx
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CommentAuthorSamanthaG76
This is a good idea! Ours isn't a secret stash but we do simular thing, h2b hates having any sort of change in his wallet so he always empties it into a jar. 2 months ago we had just over £300!! x
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
I would love to be able to do this but unfortunately h2b and I don't even have a penny spare at the moment! Why do things have to cost so much? xxx
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CommentAuthorSam
What great ideas to get savings going and growing :)
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
I don't no linzi but ur not alone I feel I'm putting pennies aside rather than pounds at mo lol. Just hope my OH can find new job soon or I'll have no secret stash left :( also be nice if I could work but hey ho. Must say having a Christmas saving card at a.s.d.a helps at Xmas time too x
CommentAuthorMrsA-J
oooo i did this!! It served me well! lol the oh got super excited when i told him id saved half the wedding reception fund. His face was actually amazing, ott as always hehe. I put a set amount each month away and saved all the 1ps n 2ps in a big jar :)
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
This is a great idea, we have a pot for the wedding which we can't open but h2b knows about it x x
CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
i did this when we first got engaged and was sorting out budgets etc and just kept throwing money into a pot and left it alone by the time came that we had chosen our date and venue i'd saved £700 and that paid for the deposit of the venue, chair cover and DJ I was pleased. I do it now but then spend it on things i want for the wedding e.g bridesmaid gifts, little special extras i want or things to go in the present box for H2B xx
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CommentAuthorKristina
I have made my own pot and decorated it, i am planning to start saving next week, if i can get any funds to do it with.
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CommentAuthorToniR92
It's not a secret stash but we do have a pot, I bought the other half a pot for Xmas last year that adds up the contents as you put it in! So we are using this as a way of extra saving, we have been doing it for 3 months and we have £300 so not doin too bad! It's a really good idea as you don't miss the small change!! Xx
CommentAuthorRosyF77
Ii have had a secret stash before not for wedding but just for emergency or something and it worked really well but when My partner found it.....he seemed rarther offended that id kept it from him...ooops xx
CommentAuthorlizzylou
Good idea. x
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorJo
Good idea I'm goin to start my own x
CommentAuthortrikstaniksta
Fab idea x
CommentAuthorFionaR41
My daughter bought me a pot a few Christmases ago so i started to save £2 coins in it. I couldnt bear the thought of smashing it when it was full - its pink and sparkly - so when i have run out of cash i managed to slide some out - totally defeats the object of saving but does coem in handy !!! - i then got one from a friend last year so made that one into a wedding fund and put any spare £1 coins / notes in that. Needless to say i am very tempted to try and get some of that out but have resisted ... so far... Hopefully i can manage to at least fill that one. I gave one to my H2b daughter when she got engaged that has "wedding fund" on it plus a £2 coin to start her off as think its a lovely way to save. :) x
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CommentAuthormrsheavey2b
i have all ways had a secret stash lol my mum did and so did my gran lol when we decided to get married i changed me secret stash to me wedding stash i love it because the look on h2bs face when i give he money to pay of stuff is fab he works so hard bless him to pay for every thing we would like and having 2 kids one with special needs and only 1 wage coming in its hard work for him . its nice just to ease the stress a little i cant offer him much as i dont work but a little hear and there all adds up :)
CommentAuthorMrsRowan2be
We got bought 2 terramundi (sp?) pots as engagements presents, 1 each... so now we have made it into a competition as to who can fill theirs first. H2B's feels heavier at the moment although I have been sneaking a few notes into mine. Everytime we get a £2 coin it goes into the pot.
Now just need to decide what to spend it on... thinking rings?? xx
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CommentAuthorIzzy_w
I had a little stash before getting engaged..... I was saving for a new car, but H2B was pleasantly surprised when I told him I could pay deposit and first payment for the venue. It just means I have got into the mindset of saving regularly which I previously struggled with!!
We also have a coppers pot that my OH regularly puts his coppers and 5p/10p/20p in, you'd be suprised how quickly that adds up. If I am feeling a bit poor, I chuck it all in a plastic bag and take it to the supermarket and chuck it in one of those counting machines. Regularly I walk away with more than £50 x x
