Just had a thought after reading the "what to wear as a guest" thread, i have heard before of brides banning certain colours or requesting guest don't wear certain colours and noticed a couple of people mentioned it happening as well. I've never known anyone personally to have done it, so really what i'm asking is how do you do it? Does it go on save the dates and invitations? Just the invitations? how do you word it? I'm not trying to be awkward for my guests but i would feel so much better if i could ban/request them wearing Purple. Help please C
CommentAuthorclaireandpete
sorry that was unclear I want them NOT to wear purple
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
You could put something like the dress code for the day is...................
or we would kindly request that the guests refrain from wearing purple as this is the bridal party colours.
CommentAuthorSpecialSundae
I'd been considering telling people not to wear white or ivory, but then I'm not so I'm not sure if I should still. I think it's very rude to wear white/ivory/cream to a wedding but it seems daft to mention it if I'm wearing gold.
I don't think it's unreasonable to ask.
CommentAuthorclaireandpete
I'm not wearing white either, which is why i have this problem. I just don't want people realising that i'm not wearing white or will majority of guest just assume it is to not clash with the bridesmaids?
I'm Putting 'at the brides request please do not ware red or black as these are the bridal party's colours'
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
hey if ur einvites are purple people shud get that its a pruple theme??? thats wat am doin
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CommentAuthorclaireandpete
Is that on your invitations or save the dates and invitations?
CommentAuthorSpecialSundae
It might be worth mentioning it. I would have assumed it was so that they didn't look like a bridesmaid.
CommentAuthorclaireandpete
Our invites atm are going to be photographs of us done by our photographer. We looked at invitations but still haven't even managed to find back up ones that we love yet just in case we're not happy with photos from engagement shoot. I suppose i could put black white and purple just to make people assuming i'm wearing white.
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I would send it in the invites rather than save the dates. I'm doing the guest info on tags and tying them together with my wedding ribbon. It has info like the menu choice, hotel info, directions etc so it would tie in nicely with all that if you are doing the same sort of thing.
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
I have a similar problem, I hate the colours green and orange, it hurts my eyes literally, so I am going to request guests not to wear it but not because it is the theme colours, how should I word it? As for all of you girls would you mind if an ordinary guest wears your colour theme? I am not sure I would mind as much as if they dared coming in my forbidden colour
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I think its nice if they don't come in the wedding colours as you want them to stand out from the rest of the guests but it wouldn't make or break my day if someone came in them. I'm hoping they will take it into consideration though and wear something that compliments our colours but again its really up to them.
CommentAuthorclaireandpete
I wouldn't mind guest coming in colour scheme colours if i was wearing white, but i'm not and i can' deny i will be annoyed if someone is in the same colour as my dress and i specifically request for them not to be, think it would just be rude of the guest to ignore that request, but that is just how i feel about it.
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
we are requesting that all our guest wear black and white only ,,,,,, we have been saying it for the last year , it is on our website and will be in the invitation
Ok so it is something that happens regularly don't want to come across as bridezilla
CommentAuthormartay (marie)
No matter what i put im pretty sure my SIL2B will wear what she wants, and now she has received invite im sure she will take our colour scheme to heart and wear black & white, just to P me of!
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
i`m of the veiw that those people that really care about us will join in with the theme of the day as asked .......those that wear different colours will show that they dont care about our feelings
Yeah we have 1 guest that i know will do anything to upset my day but thats another story there already 2 thread about the problems she has caused us already
CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
i would put it on guest infro with your invites. i do not want women wearing white especially white dresses, i think it takes the pee a bit. however if they wore burgandy i wouldnt be too amused but it wouldnt be the end of the world. at leat they would be making an effort x
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
Just stick it on the invite- my sister did it to request that no one wear black. Having said that, my extended family is of firm belief of "don't listen to the bride" and some did end up turning up in black *cross face*
CommentAuthorJane
To be honest I wouldnt mind what people wore, as long as they are there! My mum is wearing a black dress with a hint of gold and its lovely, a couple of the men (not bridal party) are wearing bow ties just for the fun of it, and the Best Mans daughter is wearing an knee length emerald green dress (she wore it to her prom) and he was over the moon that it would match the bridesmaids floor length emerald green dresses. My mum thought I should be offended, but I'm not, its fine - and I'm flattered that she wants to match the bridal party colours. Maybe I'm just too easy going.... I've even said my cousin can come in Emo black clothes because thats what she is comfortable in.....
CommentAuthorUnknown
i have sked guests not to wear purple. i said something along the lines of...purple eing the chosen colour and we want the bridal party to be seen so we ask that guests dont wear purple. wasnt those exact words but i have forgotten. most people were ok wth it but a couple have said it is rude but it is my day my way xx
CommentAuthorMel D
We haven't asked anyone to avoid any color ... I would assune no one will be wearing a white dress ... there's no way I'd ever turn up to a wedding as a guest wearing white or ivory. I'm not particularly bothered if people turn up in the same color as the bridesmaids.
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CommentAuthorRingo
I don't know about wear to put the info about not wearing the bridal party colours though I've heard some people put that on their websites if they have them. But as for the white I would think people would know not to wear white to a wedding, I would absolutely flip if somebody did and tell them to leave! xxx
CommentAuthorSteffie
I've seen an invitation with a colour pallet at the bottom and the invitation states, please choose your attire according to these colours
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CommentAuthorbluefish
I wouldn't dream of asking guests not to wear a certain colour. There is going to be no question that I am the bride from what I am wearing and also it will be obvious who my bridesmaids are.
I think it is another thing entirely to request that guests wear black and white... because that's a theme, like "medieval" or "30s". That seems acceptable to me.
It's your wedding and you must do what feels right, but I wouldn't say "no purple" or what-have-you just because it is a colour you have chosen. Guests must wear what they wish.... so long as it is fitting for a wedding, which to my mind is formal. If I was wearing white, personally it wouldn't bother me if someone else was also wearing white. (I'm wearing gold.) I wouldn't feel that they were trying to hog the limelight. It's just a colour.
If everybody turned up in gold, I'm imagining that would be a little weird. That is all.
CommentAuthorStave
Colours have caused me to have massive fallings out and change my theme colours twice over already! :-(
CommentAuthortilomilo
i didnt know about the not wearing white taboo, and i spoke to a few of my friends and family, and they didnt know either.
The two weddings im going to this yr, both have said that they dont mind if white is worn (i am looking for other colours though lol), and at my wedding i dont mind what people wear either (well to an extent, i dont want people in trackies or jeans lol)
But if you dont want people in certain colours, or you have a theme and want people to dress a certain way - i dont see anything wrong with that - its your wedding, people should do what u want.
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CommentAuthorKimi
I dont really care what colour people wear tbh - my bm is wearing red but its a formal dress and she will have other things to make her stand out anyway. I've got enough issues trying to keep my guest list straight than to be bothered about other nuances (to me).
