I am looking to see if anyone knows how I would be able to plan my wedding without the groom knwoing as I want it to be a surprise for his 30th Birthday in July-the only problem is I've been told he needs to fill out the M10 form :-(
Is there anyway I could plan our wedding without him finding out??
Please help as I really want to surprise him :-)
Thanks everyone xxxx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
not really hunni .... did you want to have a church or a registry wedding .....
There is a lot that he has to do so I don't really think it would work. I like lala's idea of him knowing but not knowing the date! x
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CommentAuthormym72
I'm guessing you're getting married in Scotland, given you mention M10 forms. We got married in Gretna so had to do the same. We both had to fill in a separate M10 form and send them into the registry office. Just looked on the Gretna Wedding Bureau's q&a page and they say:
"Can I arrange a 'surprise' wedding for my partner?
By law both parties have to fill out separate marriage notice forms prior to the wedding. This means that both parties must be aware of the wedding beforehand, however we can keep the details of what you have booked a secret, pipers, cars, accommodation etc."
hi PamelaB85 i tried to do this with my wtb but its against the law now she has to know at the most 16 days b4 the wedding and you both have to sign papers to agree to get married sorry if it has upset you it upset me and also upset my wtb as she didnt want to know anything at all unless your getting married in a church i dont know about that you will have to check that out with the church
CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
I blame programmes like don't tell the bride for this kind of thing even though they know they are getting married it just makes it all look like you don't need to know the legal stuff beforehand.
Reginald I would assume church weddings need more than 16 days. Also OP you do realise that without telling him when it is he might miss out on having a stag night with his buddies, now this might seem insignificant in the grand scheme of things but it is something that a lot of guys really enjoy doing and he may just regret not getting the opportunity to have his last night out with the boys before getting married.
CommentAuthorPenguinJ
i think keeping the most of it a surprise would be great. i think that would be nice anyway xxx
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CommentAuthorSazzell23
The reason why both the bride and groom need to be involved with the legal paperwork in the UK is so that both parties are fully aware that they are getting married and both definitley want to do it. Its to stop people being married under duress or on the spur of the moment and then regretting it the next day - like Britney Spears did that time in Vegas! :) If one person could plan a whole wedding ceremony completely as a surprise and no involvment from the other person with the legalities it would be terrible. Imagine the scene..........all the friends and family are there and everything has been set up with lots of money spent, the majority of people would feel they had to go through with it!! Even if they didnt want to!x
CommentAuthorReginaldD
I'll-be-36 the 16 day rule aplies to get married through a registra but with the church i dont think you need to tell the other party im not sure on that one as me and the wtb are geting married at venue sorry for any confusion
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
In a church the vicar will not marry a couple without talking to both of them together and them filling out paperwork. They also have to attend their Banns being read which at my church is one sunday for the three months before, where they say the date you will be marrying and the congregation will often say a prayer for you. So there is no way you could have a church wedding without the other one knowing (you will notice that even on dont tell the bride a lot of people are refused a church ceremony). In Catholic churches the couple also have to attend a marriage course so again, the other party need to know (plus when marrying in a Catholic church you still need to give notice) xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsA-J
Awr its a shame thats looking like a no....you could ask him to fill it in for "the future"
be like o i thought we could save time later?
I know its stupid...just trying to find ways of helping you!
xxx
CommentAuthormym72
The 16 day rule still applies (as does submitting the M10 forms) in Scotland. We got married at a venue but with a minister (in Scotland) and you could submit the forms between 3 months before and no less than 16 days before the wedding.
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
He'd certainly need to know the date, but you could do everything else as a surprise?
But as I'll-be-36 said, it will mean he misses out on some of the things.
