Every wedding I've been to the first verse and chorus or so is just the couple dancing, then everyone else joins in for the rest. Our first dance song is not at all typical, the vast majority of people at our reception will not know it, much less appreciate what it means to me and h2b, and it's not the sort of song that you can just dance politely along to, if you know what I mean! I really don't want people to dance with us before the end of the song, but I'm worried that because me and h2b will probably look a bit awkward, people will feel obliged to join us, making a whole dancefloor of awkward looking people who don't really understand what's going on! Is it weird to ask people to stay off the dancefloor for the first song, and how would you go about saying it, and at what point? Or am I just being silly?
CommentAuthoricklejaney
I don't think you're being silly at all! If you're having a band you could have them say something along the lines of "this dance is for the bride and groom only" when they announce you. And if your bridal party knew in advance then if they stayed off the dancefloor then im sure others would follow suit! x
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CommentAuthorhello-kitty
no your not. my first dance is a surprise for everyone and is choreagraphed so i will be really annoyed if people try to get up and dance with us. maybe when the first dance is being announce it could be worded as such. for instance the first dance will be a spotlight dance between the bride and groom?
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CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
i think often people join in because they have been primed beforehand, i.e. 'please don't leave us out there on our own for too long!' haha! We'll certainly be prompting people to come and join us part way through, but thats because we'd like them to. I'm sure if you haven't mentioned it to anyone they wouldn't just waltz up and join in! how rude! :o)
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
I am going to have my DJ announce that the first two dance are only for "Bride and Groom first" and "Bride and Sister only" as they both are viennese waltz, requiring the whole dancefloor, and I do want my little moment on my own with my husband, then with the loveliest sister I could ever have (my dad is not coming so it replaces father/daughter song). So you are so entitled to it.
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I dont want people joining us for our first dance until about half way. I want to spend the first half atleast with my h2b and then let our son join us, once thats done people can join in if they like, unless i change my mind again x
CommentAuthormummy2Olivia_Lisa
honestly if someone had of joined my first dance id of booted em away lol, i think a first dance is a very special intimate moment between a new bride n groom n i think its something that should be admire and looked upon but not disturbed so id suggest ask ya dj/band family memeber to announce the dance as ur dance only xx
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CommentAuthorJill
I dont think people would get up and join in unless the bridal party got up. Normally it's the parents/bridesmaids/groomsmen that get up after bride and groom and then other guests follow suit so if the bridal party dont I cant imagine why anyone else would think it would be ok.
As icklejaney said, the dj/band can make it clear when they ask you and your new hubby up to the dancefloor without it sounding like a demand or condition.
I'd personally like people to get up and join in, I know our son will be joining in with us and that to me is perfect as he's the perfect example of what our love is all about.... awwwwwwwwwwwwwww lol x
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CommentAuthorvicandsimon
our son and daughter will be joining us too, im not too worried about people joining me on the dancefloor im happy to share! i can always do some special dancing in our room after!! lol x
CommentAuthorOfficialMrsField
No I'm definitely having it announced that no body is to join us on the dance floor. The way I see it...that song that you and ur hubby choose is special to you, no one else and that 3-4 minutes is about the two of you and no one else, the guests have the rest of the night to dance.
We went to a wedding not long ago and everyone piled on the dance floor within the first 30 seconds of the song starting and the bride and groom ended up shoehorned into a corner of the dance floor as everyone took over their space.x
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CommentAuthorkimmy
Tell your dj to announce it.x
CommentAuthornicole85
Your dj normally announces for people to join you on the dance floor, just ask them to annouce before the song that the 1st dance is bride & groom only. Im only having me & h2b on dancefloor for our 1st dance x
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CommentAuthorElliekitty
I would'nt like anyone to join us on the dance floor either, its one of those moments you just want to yourselfs! (trying not to sound selfish) I do like it when they join for the next song though.
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CommentAuthorSammi_with_camera
I wouldn't expect anyone to join in with the first dance unless the newly weds themselves start pulling guests in themselves to join them. I would assume not to join in unless requested to. We are having our first dance with just us, but then as the song gets near the end and starts repeating itself over and over again that's when we will start getting people to join us! And that's only because its a very long song! lol! x
CommentAuthorTop Cat
I thought it was wedding etiquette that the best man & maid of honour/chief bridesmaid were the first to join the bride & groom on the floor. So if you prime them aswell as tell the dj/band you should be fine x
Tracey x
CommentAuthoremmaaa
Cheers people, haha, it never occurred to me that people had been pre-prepped for what to do during the first dance, I just assumed that that was just the tradition for everyone to join in unless announced otherwise... doh! Glad I found that one out, also glad so many of you are thinking along the same lines as me! Don't get me wrong, if it was a more traditional song I wouldn't mind, because I do think it's nice when people can celebrate their own love on our day, but they can do that on our second song instead!
