Hi everyone,

We sent our invites out about 3 weeks ago now. We have sent them out early as we have about 15 people who may or may not come. So i wanted to hopefulllly get them out early, get the rsvp's back and then do a round 2 when people have given me a defo yes or no.

The problem is- i cant over invite. We have a small venue and 70 is our max. I have invited 70 and so far we have only had 3 rsvp's!

Why arent people rsvp-ing? What did i do wrong and how do i get them to rsvp without getting annoyed. They do have until 1st May to rsvp but why delay in reply. They can either come or not! Grrrrrr. I am annoyed that after 3 weeks people just arent letting me know! xx

did you have a date to reply by ? if so wait till this has paseed then call/txt/email/fb....etc saying that you will assume that they cannot attend if you dont have a reply and as you have fixed numbers they will be taken off the seating plan so if they show up they wont have a place or a meal

I would wait until the cut off date that you gave them and if they haven't responded get in touch and ask them if they are coming or not as you need to know for numbers. Tell them you need to know now not next week etc so you need a definite yes or no. You can then take it from there.

People forget ... I waited until the cut off date then about a week after that I sent out an email to the people who hadn't yet rsvp'd ... then a week after that another email and FB messages (now chasing people every other day). We are the same, and wanted to invite more people if we got any No's. Ours were sent out end of Jan with an rsvp date of mid-March, and I still haven't been able to get hold of some of them. It's REALLY annoying!! I'll start phoning next week.

I gave them a postal address, mobile number and email ... people are just cr4p!

if you gave people till the 1st of may most wont reply till then sorry hun but for some resason people wait till the last moment to rspv

I'm in the same position. reply by date is also May 1st but want to pester people saying as to why they've not responded immediately. I never used to respond straight away to wedding invites, but will from now on! We had a real flurry at the start but has slowed down now.

maybe send out a final notice!! that if they dont reply they will lose their seat or something

pretty much as soon as mine went out I started chasing people about it to stop the stress

my cut off date is today and still havnt had some back. we have been told by people that they are coming but want the rsvp cards so that i dont forget anyone and over invite more people! i put it on facebook that if i dont get rsvps's by today then i will assume your not coming but only had 2 more back this week. i had my cousin decline on facebook but i knew she wouldnt come anyway as she lives in florida so it is too far. I have had 57 confirmed but still another 14 that havnt replied and i asked for them back today. so annoyed!

i would wait till cut off date and then chase people up. I chased up one friend for the rsvp card as he had already told me he was coming and h had a go at me saying wait until the date that is on the invite!xx

I'd just wait till your date has passed hun really. Some people do just leave things till the last min. I know I'm terrible for it. Also, there are a lot of people who work weekends now, so some must just want to make sure that the have the time off sorted.

oh hun I am probably one of the worst for replying to things, I was given an invite to a wedding about 6 weeks ago now and I still haven't sent an rsvp back! Not because I don't know if we will go but simply because I keep forgetting! I saw the invite again this morning and thought I must do something with it!
I am also like you with people not responding, it is annoying but I guess there are loads of people like me out there that have a lousy memory....drop them a line and ask the question, it is pretty doubtful they would be annoyed. xx

People like buying cards - and they think you will keep it as a memory or somrthing. I've had married couples apologise for missing the rsvp date saying it was one of their bugbears when they got married, and yet here they were doing it to us!

you are all filling me with dread!!!! lol i posted my invites today...and i am a vey impatient gal to boot!!! not good i think

Don't worry it's the same for everyone ... even the married people don't pull their fingers out!

well my rsvp date has been and gone and still we havnt recieved some. one invite we sent last week i got the rsvp today. if they managed in a week how have others not with 6 weeks? so annoying!

i put a message on facebook yesterday saying i need them by end of week or i will assume they arnt coming so they have tomo and that is it! i will be going through the rvsp cards and the people that i know are def coming but not sent card back and work out how many other people i can bump up to the day! xx

how can bm decline?

Well we are what the erm 15th april and i have had 1 poxy RSVP in 2 weeks. What a load of RUBBBBBIIISSSHHH!

My rsvp date was by the 1st may so still got another week or so but seriously please people....REPLY!

LOL.

Sorry just needed to vent! xx

I sent all mine out on 1st March....
i put RSVPs MUST be returned by 14th April.... which gave them almost 6 weeks and i had every single ones back by 4th April... as im getting maried on 18th june.

I have yet to have a few evening ones back but im really not bothered about them, as im having a buffet to cover 100 ppl anyway..

if you dont recieve them back chase them up! xx

I'm just about to post mine off tomorrow so I will see what happens. They have until the 17th of May to get back to me or they won't be coming and someone else will be invited in their place.

im in the same boat.. sent some of our day invites out and we are still waiting on rsvps. told and told and told h2b to ring his uncle just to make sure they'd received invites and im still waiting.

ive told people our web address and yet im still not getting them only had 5 so far. one i am waiting on is the parents of my MOH who ive specifically said i need MOH brother to let me know, as 26 yr old lads need a kick up backside.

it is so frustrating.

lmao @ smoke signals............we havnt had al replys bk but all guests have been told very strictly if theyre not back in 2 weeks no later then they will no longer be invited......its not hard 2 send a text or email so if they cant be ar5ed then i cant be ar5ed to look after them on the day x x x

It must be so frustrating, especially when you need definite numbers! x

Crickey! I hope we don't get crap like this when we send our invites out, though to be honest nearly all the people on our list we trust to actually want to be there.