Hi, our wedding plans have been on hold for lots of reasons one of which is due to family problems on h2b side. H2b now wants just the 2 of us to get married by ourselves but I just cannot get my head around this. If we could elope abroad I would probably be ok with it but I cannot travel due to my health. I just cant imagine getting married in the UK without my friends and family ......... is anyone else getting married and having no guests?
CommentAuthoriluvcakes
We have thought about this several times Jilly17 and are still contemplating it! Think if we did go ahead, I'd still have my sister and her H2b and 1 or 2 close friends but that would be about it. Planning a wedding with family problems can be so stressful so I can see why your H2b has said this .... How about if you just had a couple of close friends or family to act as your witnessess and then all of you go for a nice meal afterwards? xx
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Can't wait to do it all over again on the 4th October 2017!!
CommentAuthorMrsKisywisy
there's a girl on here who was eloping to scotland with just her h2b for their wedding.
we were going to get married in cyprus with just our kids, but some family and friends wanted to come.
why don't you elope and throw a party after it??
I'M MARRIED!!!
I am now Mrs Bananaman!!!!
13/09/2012 in Peyia Town Hall, Cyprus
CommentAuthorvicandsimon
we thought about it as there were alot of arguents with regards to OUR wedding. Everyone wanting their say and it got too much we nearly called the whole thing off just before xmas. I would of happily got married just us and the kiddies but we decided that we had spent so much time and money on the wedding so far that we would go ahead and stuff everyone. if they argue they can do it between themselves and if they dont like it then they dont come. You need to do what makes you happy, dont regret it! x
CommentAuthorkrissy905
h2b would be quite happy to slope off to registry office and get married and back home for tea his mum would be quite happy for us to do that to shes already said that my wedding is to big and i should have a smaller wedding to make h2b happy i am only inviting 36 guests from my side by the way and they are all brother, sister, nieces, nephews and there children so not like I'm inviting 100s. i have compraised and said no one but the bridal party at the actual ceremony and every one will be coming to the wedding breakfast.
a friend of my brother in law to be got married with just him, the bride and their parents and immediate family, brothers etc then then had a huge party afterwards. they didnt even get a wedding dress or anything just wore nice clothes but you could get a white dress and everything but it just be you guys and then just have a party with all your friends when your ready
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1st September 2014 our little family grew by one
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CommentAuthorMrs Badger
We thought about it but in the end decided to just have a small guest list of close friends and family. We decided we would renew our vows just the two of us in a few years time. xx
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CommentAuthorJilly17
Thing is it would literally be us as I would not ask my brother to be witness and tell my parents they could not come and I would not have a friend (even if I could choose one!) over my brother. We cant do close family as it is his parents that are the trouble. His dad has a good heart but is completely overbearing and patronising as well as a crashing bore but his mum just says whatever she wants, regardless of anyone else's feelings. They have not done anything bad enough to not invite them and if they were not invited it would be the end of the relationship with them and h2b.... hence why I feel he kind of wnats to run away!
CommentAuthorPB
Our friends went to Scotland with just their two children and got married there.They told everyone they were doing it beforehand and were originally going to invite my h2b and i and another couple but their families were so put out that they decided to have no one there.They said that not inviting their families was the best descision they ever made as they would have ruined it-they wouldn't have done it on purpose but nevertheless they would have!
CommentAuthorJilly17
That is exactly it Poulton bride...his parents wont mean to deliberately spoil the wedding but they most definately will! At our engagement do my friends were asking if his mum had mental health issues because of the way she behaved...she really was that erratic! and his dad cornered 2 couples and just stood and blah blah blahed at them the whole time and didnt even bother speaking to my family or friends at all. Any fucntion becomes about them and I could not bear it! I just dont want our wedding so indirectly controlled by their bad, unsociable behaviour but the big wedding with enough people to dilute them is out of the question as I need a level access wet room and my health improves...bleedin famillies!!!!
CommentAuthorHa_x3
Cant you just invite your family & not his?? Its you & your H2B thats important, no one else xx
Mrs Lunn
08/05/12 was the best day of my life
& I love my husband with all my heart xxxx
CommentAuthorlinzmum
our registry office on a weekday will only allow up to 30 guests which won't even cover the family as theres alot of us lol. we have instead decided to just go with the witnesses (and maybe parents) then do a 'mock' wedding later in the day either outdoors/on the beach or in the reception venue depending on the weather.
Soon to be joined together as the Wheeler family, can't wait
Doing thing our way xxxx
CommentAuthorJill
Could you invite some of your parents friends, that way their focus will be on their friends and not on speaking to other people? We're inviting friends of both sets of parents... keeps them entertained and to themselves x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorMrs Davro
My mum wants a big wedding too but unless we win the lottery or put the wedding back about 10years we just don't have the money so we are just having parents, siblings and partners and that totals 22! If you can't go abroad and get married why don't you go somewhere different in the UK. A couple I know eloped to cornwall and it was beautiful then they had a party for everyone when they got back.
CommentAuthormrs_houghton_2012
Sounds romantic to me.. go for it!! x
Got with the most wonderful man on 1/09/05
Got engaged to my sole mate on 1/09/06
Getting married on 1/09/12
Looking forward to becoming Mrs Houghton!
