Hi ladies. Something is bugging me a little and I was wondering what your opinions are.
We got engaged in January. To us it was not a surprise as we'd been talking about it. We bought a house together a year ago. Been together just over 3 years, and survived H2B's tour in Afghanistan plus months on a ship, despite not being in the navy!! But I don't think family were expecting it. Some friends were kind of, but not all.
The reaction is what is concerning me slightly. My family sent engagement cards, as did some friends. But that was it. There was no kind of celebration. Even H2B and I just went swimming afterwards. Literally, normal swimming, not even anything fancy! Lots of other friends are engaged at the moment, some before us, a couple afterwards and one on the same day! And they have had celebrations. One friend was taken out for dinner by both sets of parents on different weekends, another's sister has emailed us about a surprise engagement party. All have had presents given to them. But we've had nothing.
Don't get me wrong, I don't want stuff!! I just want to be sure that people are happy for us. Am I being silly to be concerned that there has been very little reaction by comparison to what seems like everyone else?
CommentAuthorbrilly
I wouldnt worry too much hun we didnt have a celebration for ours and most people I know who are engaged arranged there own celebrations to which some people feel obliged to bring gifts. I wouldnt be concerned hun everyone will be happy for you its just alot of people these days expect to be invited to a party I know my cousin said whens the party when we 1st got engaged and i told her if she was paying for it no problem if not there wasnt one as it was a waste of money in my eyes lol xxx
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CommentAuthorNicoleee_x
we're not doing anything to celebrate. at least they've sent cards so you know they care, it's not like they've just ignored it/don't care. Like Brilly said, the only engagement parties i've been too have been organised by the couple themselves not fam or friends xx
CommentAuthorStaceyP91
We didn't celebrate either. Well we had my 21st party which some people brought cards. But I thought it was just another excuse for presents for engagement lol but that's what I think. We went out for a meal just me and hubby. As my family watched our little boy but except that, we didn't receive cards from them, but I wasn't worried...
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Nothing was done for us when we got engaged either, apart from the engagement cards, like yourselves. I shouldn't worry/take it to heart too much. x
We had a mix of a celebration party with some of the kids birthday parties as it all fell within a few weeks of each other. Just a gathering in the garden, BBQ and some drinks.
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CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
we never done anything for our engagement. We haven't had a party as we want to keep the moneyh for the wedding. We have had a few gifts but nothing extravagent. WE will be the ones taking our parents out for a meal so that they meet before the wedding and that suits us. Don't worry about wondering if people are happy for you as long as you are happy. HIs parents sent us a card with "congratulations" on your engagement...think the were being sarcastic as they dont like me but i'm not bothered as it is their son I love. ONly worry about whether you and h2b are happy xx
CommentAuthormym72
We didn't have a party or anything. We'd been together for 3 years and hubby proposed on the Thursday night (we'd talked about it, but it was still a surprise for me as I thought he wanted to wait til he'd moved in). We went shopping for the ring on the Friday, then visited my parents to tell them. We then told the rest of the family over the following weekend - but didn't have a get together or anything, just carried on as normal.
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
We only got cards too apart from the wedding book my mum got me and tried to arrange a celebration but my family started dictating to us where it should be and what time of day so we just forgot about it.. H2B did plan a romantic night for it though xxx
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CommentAuthorMrs Egan
We didn't even get 1 engagement card :-(
got engaged 14/09/2011
get married 31/08/13
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
We just got cards off family. To be honest, of all my friends/family that have got engaged, only one of them did something to celebrate it...I've always thought that engagement parties are a bit of a waste of money - not to mention another obligation for the guests.
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CommentAuthorDecember
Aww, Mrs Egan to be, I feel bad now :(
Thank you for all of the reassurance ladies :) Its just a little strange isn't it, getting engaged.
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
I wouldn't worry! Our celebration was a disaster! H2bs family were almost an hour late so we missed a meal slot, coz I hadn't eaten all day I was half cut and then the woman on the next table decide to have a heart attack and then when we left h2bs family ignored my mum an dad... So I wish we hadn't ars€d ourselves x
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I think it's just the minority that get a surprise party or taken out for meals by parents .... We arranged our own engagement party and I think if u want a celebration then arrange your own! You'll get exactly what u want that way x
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
When we got engaged we had a few cards, we had an engagement party at ours, nothing special just family and close friends and I put on a buffet and some drinks. Mainly so two mums and dads could meet. We didn't get any presents and to be honest I didn't expect any. My friends have got engaged and like you had massive celebrations. If you want to celebrate it I suggest you hold a party like we did. And the fact you got cards shows people care x
CommentAuthorElaineH41
We didn't have any celebrations, we did receive lots of congratulation cards from friends and family, we were together for 10 years before getting engaged so preferred to save the money we would have spent on a party for the wedding. We've only been to one engagement party and the couple arranged it themselves x
CommentAuthorsita_meena
We didn't have an engagement party (although my mum booked us a week away in yorkshire), we received some cards. I wouldn't worry about it hun xxx
CommentAuthorLegoWife
I think people are often really sceptical about engagements, us lot here on UK bride are probably a small amount of people who actually start planning a wedding after getting engaged. Tons of people get engaged and then never get married. So I think a lot of people don't start getting excited or happy for an engaged couple until it looks like they're actually going through with it. Like someone else said, the minority get made a fuss of and it's also down to what your families are like. My in laws made a bigger fuss about us getting engaged than my family did. Everyone's different!
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CommentAuthormillz090
We got a few cards from some friends and family which i have all kept, my best friends parents brought us a beautiful vase and my best friend got us a wedding saving tin but that's it. My parents brought champagne which we had on the following Sunday with dinner but nothing else.... we didnt want an engagment party as wanted to save the money.
I dont think people make the fuss that they used to but actually i dont remember sending my friends/family engagement cards so should i expect one back? xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
We had been together 7 years (I think! Maybe 6?!) when we got engaged and we got a card off his parents and my parents bought us some nice canvases to go on our walls. Other than that, we didnt really celebrate.
I think nowadays, people tend not to have celebrations as the majority of couples already live together prior to getting engaged.
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CommentAuthorMel D
We didn't celebrate at all ... I think a couple of friends sent us cards, but no family did. Anyway we decided not to have an engagment party as we set a date and got on with organising the wedding.
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
hun we got one card !!! ...that was from friend at school, Mr lalas family didn't even say congratulations
We've been together 4 years and got engaged last year. We only got a few cards (didn'y get any from my own family, just H2B). People keep asking about a party but we want to save everything for the wedding.
CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
We had a party but the only reason we had one was because H2Bs parents worked and are memebers of the local Tennis Club and managed to get the for us for the evening for nothing. otherwise I doubt we would have bothered.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
I wouldn't worry too much hun.
We never had any engagement party or celebration. We got some engagement cards from people and lotsa my mates suddenly wanted to see me for lunch/dinner etc. but nothing special, just a girly catch up really.
Family wise, his sister and BIL cracked open a bottle of champers at his niece's family birthday get together.
Other than that it really was very quiet.
I'm sure everyone is really thrilled for you both though. xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
We never had an Engagement Party but it doesn't bother us we don't need to have one I look at my Engagement Photoshoot UKB Gave Me as a Engagement Celebration we now have those photos those memories to cherish forever =D ♥ X
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