hey i have 7 bridesmaid....dunno how i got talked into it but i did, 4 kids and 3 adults, it was suppose to be my MOH - my best mate and 4 kids, but then my h2b has 2 best mates that are being best men he wanted their wifes to be bridesmaid as they all really close so i finally agreed!
so now 7 bridesmaids and no colour scheme because the mother of 3 of my bridesmaids being a nightmare!! 3 of the kids are ginger (not thats a problem) but they 3 different shades of ginger. strawberry blonde, copper and brownie ginger and no matter what colour i decide on she kicks off about telling me that it wont suit them because of there hair colour!
she always says oh no u cant have lemon it will wash them out, so thats my first choice gone and my fav.
then oh u cant possably have sky blue as it will look silly on the middle one as she got copper colour hair.
i cant have pink as it wont look right on the oldest as she got brownie ginger!!
basically she says that i cant put them in anything that make them look silly or she doesnt agree with, she says that she wants them in black!! if i dont they cant be bridesmaids, but i see these kids all the time and they gonna be gutted and wont understand its coz there mum being difficult.
thing is if it was just what they gonna wear and didnt affect anything else i wouldn't mind but it sets the whole colour scheme of the wedding and i dont want black.
everyone keeps saying its my wedding i should have the colours i want and if i dont im gonna regret it. they prob right to ive always dreamed id have pale yellow / lemon as my colour theme as it the colour i love.
any ideas or advice as im so stressed out its driving me nuts!!! any1 else having bridesmaid that are ginger? what colour did u have??
CommentAuthorloustew2012
hey
as everyone says its your wedding and if you want your lemon colour scheme there shouldnt be anyone telling you different. what ive done is make the adult bm in the colours were having but my fg is in ivory with the colour in a sash.
im not saying you have to do that but find ways like that of working round it.
good luck and hope you get it sorted
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
One of my nieces is a copper ginger who is my bridesmaid! My original choice of dress was burgandy but i was unsure if this would suit so we tried it on and it looked GORJUS! It looked fantastic against her hair and made her look stunning (shes 14). Since then however the date has changed so if these dresses not fit when we need them then they will be wearing black dresses instead with red shoes as my colour scheme is black, ivory and red roses hehehhe
my advice DONT discard ANY colour until you have tried them on the girls because what you think wont look right might turn out to look stunning, like in my case so take them dress shopping and try all sorts of colours on, then go from there!
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CommentAuthorAshlie-Louise
just get the girls to try the dresses on! that way, if they look great n the girls are happy, their mum cant raise the whole "they will be sad and look stupid" argument! you shohuldnt have to change your colour scheme because of another woman demanding her opinion be heard, especially if its your dream! i always wanted blue, my partner is giving up wearing a red waistcoat (his dream) cos i didnt want a red n white scheme (not that i demanded or asked for this!!) ... it is yours and ur partners day and you 2 are the only people who get a say in colour, not some other person! as a mummy ... if someone asked my son to be involved in their wedding, i would just be proud ... not demanding over what he wears! shes goin too far xxx
CommentAuthorLinzie Liverpool.
its ur wedding u decide co;our and if she dosent like it tough, she will have to tell kids then aswell. if kids ask u say it was their mothers decision. xxx
hey hun, just take the bridesmaids out to try on as many different colours as you can take photos of each colour and go from there!! thats what i did i originally wanted baby pink but found the cadbury purple suited them all better. it is your wedding hun and ultimately the decision is yours hun, good luck xxx
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CommentAuthorLittleMissBossy
It is terrible how fast you are reduced to feeling like Bridezilla and in reality you are not.
The mummy seems insecure and very protective over her children which is fair enough but she does sound a bit unreasonable. How about you invite them to try dresses on. Tell her you are unsure where the theme is going and then see for yourself what suits them and what you like. And also important - the kids can say for themselves if they feel hideous. I personally think they will look gorgeous in anything as long as you don't put them in pale pink. But I am very partial to red hair and think it looks good with almost every bright colour.
Or have you considered navy and pale yellow? I think the colours really complement each other, it looks very classy and it's not as harsh as black. You could have the girls wear navy with yellow accents. Would that make the mum happy?
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CommentAuthorTori-Mrs.Mitchell2b
thanks girls, do u think it would be alright to make an appointment and let them dry on dresses? ive got so long till my wedding not sure if the shop will be ok with it.
there's some great ideas here thank you def gonna try all these out. hopefully without there mum being about. i dont mean to sound rude but what ever i suggest or tell her about she dont like. she makes me feel like 1 of kids.
its was really getting to me, was starting to think i was in the wrong and being a bridezillia.
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
Ginger hair looks gorgeous with lemon! Her excuse is ridiculous. I know it doesn't help much but this girl has ginger hair and is in lemon.
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CommentAuthorTori-Mrs.Mitchell2b
she does look amazing in that picture :) deffo gonna get em to try on lemon dresses now :) thank you xx
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
My niece is only 8 months old and has no hair but what hair she does have is very ginger and she has very pale skin and dark eyes but she looks adorable in lemon and does not wash her out or anything. Sky blue is another colour that does look gorgeous with ginger hair! Anything soft and gentle will work and anything bright and lively, you really need to keep away from dark colours
Black would be the worst colour to put them in..
If she keeps moaning, just put them in ivory but lemon is perfect, honestly, once she see's them in it she will change her mind!
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CommentAuthorTori-Mrs.Mitchell2b
hehehe thanks girls u cheered me right up, what would i do without u all! i feel positive now rather than just wanting to back out of getting married and just running away and doing it abroad. I know it sounds selfish but id like this one thing to be my choice and its what id always dreamed of! im gonna make an appointment this week to go try dresses on for bridesmaids while they on half term. thank you so much xxxxx
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
If they are child bridesmaids then you could always try a white dress with a sash to match your colour scheme. That's what I plan to do.
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CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
stick with the colours u like and if she protests that much she can explain to her children that she doesnt want them in the wedding, i doubt any mum would want to deny them that! my sister is ginger and i have chosen royal blue for my bm although if i cant find royal blue it will be another blue as i want blue! lol i dont think ppl should be restricted with colours just because the colour of their hair! def go to a bridal shop with them and get them to try lots of colours on and go from there! a shop should be more than happy to do this. i also have a bridesmaid who has dark black hair with a blue tinge, i dont know if she will change her hair colour b4 the wedding but she has been red aswell, she has olive skin aswell and my sister is pale so its about finding a colour that suits all, black is just a cop out! good luck with it all and have fun! thats what its about x
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CommentAuthorLegoWife
I agree with Shirleygirly. If she's really going to kick off about the colours surely she cannot complain about white, or ivory?
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CommentAuthorlinzi
one of my BM's is ginger, and we are having dark lilac. Blue also goes well too. agree with pink, green and red being no no's
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CommentAuthorlinzi
thats a great idea Shirly
I would also say to her, "sorry, i really dont mean to be rude, but do you realise you are dictating to me what the colourscheme for my entire wedding should be?" she should have NO say in anything
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CommentAuthorTori-Mrs.Mitchell2b
thanks ladie if we cant find something that looks good on them then white and a sash might be in order :) also linzi maybe i should say that after all this lady being quiet rude, it is my wedding, she should be happy her kids were asked. xx
