Okay it's pretty long, anyway my MOH is my fiancés cousins (who is also best man) gf. I've known her for a few years now and even though we aren't extremely close, we got on well and she used to give me the impression she was uber organised so I asked her to b MOH. She seemed thrilled at the time but after a while she lost interest. It became apparent jealousy was a huge issue as her bf isn't interested in marriage and told her so. Anyway she became a total nightmare, doing nothing to organise hen stuff, putting me in a position with the people she had asked, sometimes even losing us good deals because she couldn't bothered. We have fell out so many times over it all! Anyway she hasn't once done anything bridesmaidy at all, hasn't helped me try my dress on, I've had to organise a lot of the hen do myself and every single bit of wedding drama she has caused! She nagged and blackmailed my fiancés cousin so much about a proposal he felt made to get engaged, though he finds great pleasure in telling everyone he will NEVER get married and also the reason why he is engaged! Last weekend they had a massive falling out, she attacked him, and they split up for a DAY. She told me in this space of time she wanted nothing to do with my wedding or be weekend, throwing the whole weekend in jeapordy while also making me lose a bm and waste all the money I've spent! She changed her mind two days later when they made up, moaning at me she assumed id kno she was back in the wedding! Also her future MIL has vowed never to tlk to her again after she decided to also attack her and her husband the night she attacked her fiancé and unfortunately her future MILis also my fiancés aunt who is also attending the hen weekend!!
The final straw has been tonight after months of knowing and after me having my hair and make up trials, she has decided she doesn't want it done because she can't afford it. ( the same person who last night was boasting about looking into boob job, clear braces and liposuction!!) she doesn't work but her fiancé funds her lifestyle just now. It means if she pulls out, my make up girl won't come out as she does a minimum number and my hair will rocket in price as I'm already subsidising the bm's! I am so sick and tired and tired of sobbing into my pillow and arguing with my fiancé becos of her! Sorry if any of this doesn't make sense,I am actually so angry and upset right now. I wonder what she will do next to ruin my day. I just want to look forward to my big day now! Not even looking forward to hen as its clear she has made it a weekend for her and her pals she invited, that I stupidly agreed to. Not one thing has been organised for me for this hen and instead we r doing everything she wants to. :( :(

I would pay the extra cost if I was you just to get her out of your wedding, she sounds a nightmare. X x

I just don't want anymore drama! I can't take her out of the wedding altogether as it would cause my fiancé and his best man to fall out too! Plus I really can't afford anymore!

She sounds like a right piece of work!

I'd bump her all the way down to guest, or you will be worrying about her ruining your wedding constantly. Could your h2b maybe have a word with his cousin and try to get him onside first?
It sounds like her and her cousins relationship might not last the distant, and then I guess that in ten years times you would probably not even speak to her?

Maid of honour is a very important position....you don't want to be looking back at photos and thinking 'why the hell did I pick her'?

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Sack her! Right now.

Offer the hair and make up to your Mum / aunt / some other female person who you know would appreciate it but wasn't going to have it before. Then at least the extra money won't feel wasted.

And don't have any further contact with this nasty piece of work unless you have to, in which case polite small talk is all that's needed. Walk away if she starts any other discussion.

Sorry, but it sounds like she's dragging you down, and doing nothing but ruin your happiness. The less contact you have with the type of person that would attack people the better. You could end up dragged into all sorts of nastiness.

Hmmm you are in a difficult situation there Hun. Would it be worth telling her a White lie and making out h2b never wanted to get married but look at you know. I know it's a bit wrong to do that but with only six weeks to go you don't want her jealousy ruining your big day x

If its minimum numbers that are the problem for the stylist, what about having your mum or MIL have their make up done? They might do it at a reduced rate for the mums, I know mine is, and you could all get it done together, and you could get rid of that selfish woman! My mum is paying to have hers done and its going to reduce my costs to do so.

OMG hun.
Firstly, huge hug!
Right, slap her! Sorry did I say slap? I meant sack!
You and your h2b do not need the stress or the thre5 of her ruining you day and the build up. In fact I wouldn't even have her as a guest! So if your hair is more expensive I think it's better than having that toxic girl around, I think it's a small price to pay to get rid of the trouble xxx

I agree with B2b's above, your wedding is supposed to exciting not something you are dreading because of someone elses behaviour. Same with the Hen night - do you have time to organise something else with the girls you actually want there?? Maybe just going for dinner and drinks or something instead of a whole weekend that she has organised as if its her own hen do!! May not be what you had always wanted but at least you would know that the people there actually want to be there for you, not your her.

Its your hen night not hers I would cancel it and get rid of her as a MOH she does not deserve the position and has made it very clear she does not care at all about the wedding its just bought out her jealousy he is jealous over you. Make your H2Bs cousin pay for her since he funds her lifestyle then she can get her hair n make up done but that's if you still want her to be your MOH. Also if you feel she will some how sabotage your wedding boot her out completely but as you have said before it will cause a rift between your H2B and his cousin there is always family drama at a wedding unfortunately you cannot make everyone happy that's a FACT!! But you and your H2B deserve to be happy on the best day of your life!! The decision is totally up to you hun hope you sort this fiasco out soon keep us updated =D ♥ X

Yes i would get rid of her, bump up one of your bms to moh and pick another friend to take the bms place, as for your hen nite i would go and enjoy yourslef and then have a nite out with all your mates and dont invite her, good luck xx

I'd definitely pay the extra and sack her! What an absolute nightmare for you :( hugggg!

Some people just aren't happy unless they're centre of attention all the time.. she sounds like the Queen of these people!

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