Hi all after having such a crappy day yesterday i think h2b and me has decided to postpone our wedding for yet another year. We were first of all meant to be getting married on the 10th of June this year and then i found out that i was pregnant so we had to postpone it to this year cos there is no way that we would be able to afford having a baby and getting married. So we were planning on changing it to 2012 in June. We picked a different wedding venue from what we wanted orginally but their Friday and Saturday dates are fully bookend from April to October in 2012 So we were looking into getting married on a thursday or a sunday but now with all our debts and bills to pay it doesnt look like we will be able to afford next year either. Im so upset and i really want to be Mrs McAdam that id be happy to go down to the registar office and do it there but i know h2b and other members of our families wouldnt be happy with that. I did want to get married in our local church and i convinced h2b to get married there so now he's happy to get married there and have all his family and friends there he doesnt want to change that and wont budge about cutting down the guest list but instead he's added people when we looked at it again at the start of this year. Ive even applied for Dont tell the bride but i doubt that i'll hear from them. I knew that i didnt have much of a chance of winning the wedding from here but i was really dissapointed.
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CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
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Awww hun..
Can understand why you are upset.... but see it from your OHs point of view... you have debts and there is nothing worse setting up married life with debt, also of course he wants all his family n friends there, to witness you both declaring your love and saying your vows to each other.
So many people i expect apply for DTTB... i for one would be horrified if OH have applyed and we got excepted.. as i wonna do all the planning.. thats half the excitement in my eyes..
Relax and enjoy your engagement and H2B as it will soon come around luv trust me..
xx
CommentAuthorUnknown
sorry to hear this. i can understand why he wants his family around him but you 2 being married is the main thing here.
sit down with him and explain to him how you feel. how about you have a registry office wedding on the cheap so you are married and then a blessing and full reception in 2013 when he wants to get married. ask him to compromise and see what he says xx
CommentAuthorClarabella
I see it as there is only 3 people that really matter who is at our wedding that is h2b, me and our daughter. Im starting to think if anyone really wants us to have the big wedding then they can pay for it. My dad and his girlfriend of 22 years even got engaged on xmas day and they are planning on getting married at the end of this month. They said they wernt having a big wedding like what h2b and me wanted and its just a quiet thing but i wish i could do that as well
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CommentAuthorClarabella
He'll just say its not the same thing. He really wants to be married to me and hates having to wait but he wants to do it properly which i can understand cos we're only going to do this once but its just upsetting to go on FB and see other UKBrides planning their weddings and i have a few friends planning their weddings as well so they put updates on there as well
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Im actually thinking whats the point in getting married at all if its just making me so upset thinking about it
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CommentAuthorUnknown
doing it properly is only the preception of other people. as long as you are married that is all that matters. me personally i dont think there is anything wrong with getting married in a regisrty office and then having a blessing in a church.
it is what my mum did and it was lovley!
sit down and explain to him that it isnt about the money and everything it is about you two becoming married. i think sometimes people forget about what is important in weddings and that does include me sometimes xx
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
maybe u and hubby go on holiday with your lil one and get married on your own while your there just your "family" thats all that matters hun good luck and i hope everything works out for u and if u do decide on waiting nuckle down save save save and then maybe u can have an even bigger better wedding than u was goin to have just keep savin open a wedding account that u cant touch without a months notice and needs both of u there that way u dont get tempted even if u just set it up weekly at a small sum of £20 a week and then keep upin it as and when u can realistically afford :-) xxx
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CommentAuthorlinzi
can you mabye contact the venues again and ask to be notified as soon as there is a cancelation? so long as its a good few months in advance, you could still get it, and also a lot cheaper!!! if you just carried on saving as your are just now, then you would be ready to go and arrange a wedding in a few months. I bet a lot of the girls getting married next year are changing their dates for one reason or another too, so a date might just be free next year now?? its worth phoning
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CommentAuthorClarabella
Thats the problem we cant even afford to put any money aside to save and anything we have put aside for the wedding has had to go on something like the car or fuel for our heating as we ran out last month so it just seems that something is popping up all the time so we cant save towards it
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CommentAuthorUnknown
i really do feel for you after reading everything.
if you really cant afford it to save now you cant afford it get married. it does take a lot of saving to afford it. if it really is important to you both your h2b should be willing to get married anyway!!
maybe show him this so he understands how u feel xx
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
ah hun, its horrible being in that situation, i thought we were going to have to postpone but ive jus been bargain hunting and finding things cheaper so i can have the day i want, when i want. Have a look around and see what you can do, im still getting married in a church xx
CommentAuthorClarabella
Ive done nothing but look for bargains but it feels like a waste of time when i know we cant afford to buy anything.
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CommentAuthorsuzky123
if you have debts I can see why he is waiting but I see where you are coming from that how are you supposed to afford it if he keeps adding guests to the list and wont budge. Come up with a full budget and show him.. im sure when he sees how high figure is for the whole picture he will adjust. Compromise is they key and keep hunting for bargains where possible. See what you can 'beg steal and borrow' from friends as Im sure they have lots that you can use.
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CommentAuthorUnknown
some b2b sell stuff on here. might be worth keeping an eye out xx
