I was maid of honour for my best friends wedding, we have been friends for about 12 years now since school. We always said we would be and when I got engaged and before we have talked about it. My problem is my sisters (both younger) said to me so who is going to be your maid of honour and when I didn't answer immediately they said I bet it's mrsM isn't it? Omg it is! And now eh keep bringing it up and saying it should be one or both of them. I said I didn't think it was a sister role and my friend was best for it. Also I don't want 2. My mum joined the discussion and said that it is a sister role. Now I don't know what to do about it... Help!
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
so dont have a maid of honour .....nothing to say you have to ...... you just give each one a area of responsibility
Just say you're not having two and you're not choosing so they're bridesmaids (if you want them) and she's your MOh.. Whatever you do don't start pleasing everyone else but yourself this early on else people will keep taking advantage up until your day !! Xxx
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CommentAuthorSarahW361
Yeah I think I will stick to my guns the H2B said I will regret it for the rest of my life if I don't stick to my guns, my sisters are just giving me a hard time about it and I hate confrontation hahah
He is right and when your sisters know that your serious they will hopefully just accept it. X
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
stick to your guns, have who you want, If you want your best friend , then have her, if you want you sisters have them, if you want them all then like said above, split the responsibilities and give one to each, one do hen do, one do signing registar, one hold your flowers and ring)
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CommentAuthorSusie
In all honesty, if your sisters are causing aggro this early on by bringing it up and whining etc, then they are not likely to be very good bridesmaids! Your bridesmaid, whether a maid of honour or not, are meant to be there to HELP you from the start to finish and aid you (if you desire them to - depending on the dynamic of your relationship) with preparing a wedding to how you and your h2b would love it to be, they are there as your friends, as a calming hand so to speak and need to be people who are a calming influence, not bring up topics of conversation which they (being your sisters) will know causes you to be uncomfortable, since they should know from experience that you do not like confrontation. Do not give in girl, stick with your heart on this one.
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
GREAT POST ^
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
the thing with having bm's/moh who have not been married is they do not understand their role, and they they are supposed to be helping you with plans and helping you not making things more difficult, If you have you Best friend I would think she would be fab as shes already done it, so knows all the stresses etc that goes along!
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Stick to your guns - I don't think its a sister role, and having two MOHs kinda defeats the object...
They should feel honoured to be bridesmaids, not nagging you already! Xx
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
If your bullied into making them co/moh then its not really an honor!
just put some links on my wall reguarding MOH duties etc if anyones interested, one of them is really funny!
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CommentAuthorSusie
OOooh Lana, some good tips on those, got it in my head now about the maid of honor having the grooms ring to hand to me. Off to have a wee think about it!
CommentAuthorsarah
I agree with the others; stick to your guns and pick the MOH you want.
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
Stick to your guns! You don't have to have one but if you do it should be your choice!
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CommentAuthorFernP61
It's your wedding its up to you x
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
I have 3 bridesmaids, my 2 sisters and sil2b and i have told them all that there will not be a MOH. Don't need the hassle if they dont like it tough xx
CommentAuthorangel830609
I agree with the other's hun, stick to your guns xx
it's been a long hard road, but hopefully we're getting
somewhere :) xx
CommentAuthormiss_finch
Stick to your guns... how annoying and so unfair to make you feel like this!!! I think its a privilege to be asked to be a BM not a right!!!!! I have 5 bm including my MOH, she is my cousin, and even though she has never been married she has been so helpful! I think she is more excited than me!!! Don't let your sisters or your mum put pressure on you!!!
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CommentAuthorValentinaK
Hmm... I think it is a sisters job... and because it would have been tricky to choose one or the other from my two and they both bring good stuff to the table, I made them joint MoH, it would have been nice to have my bessie as my MoH but in my eyes and family eyes it's a sisters job... or else you don't have one!
Kinda worked out in the end though. Best mate not too bothered...less pressure for her!
And we lived happily ever after!
CommentAuthorVelcro
It's not a sister role at all, its a best friend role if thats a sister then it's a sister but if its not then the words sod off come to mind
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CommentAuthorRachelG93
Maid of honour traditionally a married woman! have sisters as bridesmaids
CommentAuthornadia13
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I've 3 sisters and 2 sister in laws!!! I had none of them as bridesmaid & none complained. I had my best friend as maid of honour my niece as bridesmaid and best man's daughter as flower girl... However one sister( niece mum) did play a lot in my wedding, she did my hair & did up my dress both she did really well
CommentAuthorInDreamland
My sister was mine and I was hers however, we are extremely close (we finish each others sentences or say exactly the same thing at the same timr, hubby and BIL think it's weird). That said, it's not necessarily a sister role, is the role of the person the bride feels closest to and has confidence in to do the challenging and demanding job and do it well without grief. Therefore, stick to your guns and have who you want and seriously consider not having your sisters if they are already playing up xxx
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CommentAuthorMattsBride
My best friend is my MOH.. My sister asked why and I explained the duties of a MOH and she said "oh i wouldn't want to do that anyway" she's as unorganised as I am :']
My sister and my h2b's sisters are all bridesmaids so they're all important to my wedding. I just think a MOH should be the person who knows you best. Whether they are related or not doesn't matter.
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I would say its totally ur choice,it doesn't have to be one of ur sisters at all! I get along with my sister great but she's not even a bridesmaid and that's just the way I wanted it x
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CommentAuthorSarahW361
Thanks for the advise everyone i am going to stick with my best friend=D
CommentAuthorCharlieBe-Cool
My MOH and my 3 other BMs are my best friends, I didnt even ask my sister as she pays no interest in my life and wouldnt take an active role in the wedding, I know what she's like. I told my mum just because shes my sister doesnt automatically make her a BM in my opinion. She wasnt too miffed plus saves her having to worry too much on the day.
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CommentAuthorSonya
Argh!! Why do other people think they have a right to tell you what to do on YOUR wedding day?!
Just stick to what you want hun!
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Glad you have decided to stick with who you want! x
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together, May 2010 Moved in,Jan 2011 got pregnant,
August 2011 Got our own place, 2011 Had our Baby Girl,
Dec 2011 Got engaged, July 2015 Getting married! Yay!
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
Yeah same here Lana; glad you stuck to your guns :)
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Got together on12th May 2011, proposed on the 12th May 2013
When you get knocked down; smile and pick yourself up again!
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CommentAuthorGillianE
Its your day and your choice what you want to do. Dont let your sisters cause friction between you all. I would just tell them they re bridesmaids and your treating them all equally. xx
CommentAuthorPrincess2be
Its completely up to you hun, its your day, your choice. x
CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
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I have 6 BM's and from those 6, one of my very best friends (who I have known the longest out of my friends - since I was 11) is my Chief Bridesmaid. My sister has not even kicked up a fuss, she is just excited that she is a BM. the other of my BM's are the rest of my very best friends again who I have known since I was 11/12 and I simply couldn't get married without them all there with me.
My Mum hasn't said anything to me about my choices or number. In fact she guessed who my BMs would be lol! My Mum, had 6 BMs too and she has 2 sisters and her friend I believe was her Chief Bridesmaid.
If you want your friend to be your Chief Bridesmaid then I see no reason as to why she can't be. Its up to you after all.
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