We are only having a small ceremony of 31 and wedding breakfast,and with just 13 days until our big day we have had 4 drop outs ( 3 lastnight alone)and I'm still awaiting if the 5th is going to drop out. I could cry! It's so close why even bother RSVP'ing if they're going to back out, 1 of my friends,1 kind of relative and 2of other halfs friends,and then I'm not holding my breath on another of my friends backing out everytime I mention it I get a change of subject pretty sure she won't come. So now at £69 a head not only have we wasted money but if I ask others to fill the places I'm afraid I'm going to offend people and make them think they're 2nd best because they were only initially invited to the reception! What do I do? I'm having a flap!
CommentAuthorVerity
I was invited once as a 2nd guest. The couple had really small budget and couldn't effort to invite all they wanted, so they told us that's the reason why we can't come. Fair point, I was sad, but not upset :) When 1st folks opt out they asked some of us to come instead as places/food etc were booked and paid. We agreed and we were really happy we can enjoy the event. Noone of us felt offened that we weren't "the first chosen one". I would ask other people to come. Good friends will understand and will be happy to join for sure :)
CommentAuthorVelcro
You won't offend, most people understand the cost and restrictions with weddings. If they are anything other than thrilled, then they shouldn't be coming either
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Bump ppl up :-) I think it's horrible ppl have let u down this last minute tho x
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
Id ask other people from the evening if they would like to come to the whole day people wont be offended x
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I think people are very understanding of the cost of Weddings so I say bump people up!
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
hun i "upgraded " people .. when i was told about guests dropping out 3 days before the wedding ......no one was offended in fact they were chuffed to be asked
with one of my friend's wedding, we were only invited to the evening reception. Then about 2 weeks before the wedding, they said if we wanted to come to the registry office, then come! We were both delighted. That day however, the flat we were buying was completed and we had to fill out paperwork and pick up the keys so ended up missing the day, but we still went to the reception. In fact, they were congratulating us on buying our first house!
I wouldn't worry about offending anyone. If anything, they'd be happy that you thought about them attending your wedding! (Even if they weren't originally!) x
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CommentAuthorCoral
We just had 2 drop out the on the last day we could change the numbers but it was too late to change it ( and if we did I would need to pay cancelation fees), but we had people traveling down for the evening do so just asked them if they wanted to come for the whole day seeing as they will be in the hotel anyway There's always some one who will be happy to come even at last minute
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
Yep what everyone else has said. Just tell them straight that originally you could only have a small number but some people have let you down and you'd love for them to take their place or something like that :S
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I had this, hubby's Uncle and Aunt said they were coming, we then saw them about 4 weeks prior and he mentioned going on holiday for the first two weeks of October. I said to hubby after, that means he is not coming to the wedding, so hubby got hold of his Mum and asked her about it (it's her brother), so he then said he would see if he could change the flights to the following day or late Saturday. He could not, so three weeks before they called and said they could not make it. I was annoyed but this also meant I could upgrade two people from Uni who I really wanted there anyway. We then had another 5 drop out on the day, two of which did not even bother telling us. It was too late by then to upgrade anyone.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I don't know of any wedding that hasn't had drop outs in the final weeks. It happened to all my cousins, friends, sister and I.
Bump people up, they shouldn't be offended because they should understand that space and budgets are limited m if they don't then they're not worth inviting even to the evening xxxx
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorVictoriaB
Thanks ladies I'm going to ring a few people today and see if I can dill spaces x
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Hope it goes well, most people will be thrilled that you want them all day and that you can now accommodate them xx
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Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorBeckyU98
i had someone drop out yesterday with 4/5 days left to go. doing my best to fill the space but it means that i have to reorganise 2 tables and reprint some of the table plan :( dont feel bad about bumping people up ive done it a few times already. everyone i bumped up were thrilled to be invited x
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
The girls from uni who were first on the list if peeps dropped out were over the moon. I sent a text saying that some had dropped out and that they were first for replacing them and hope they did not feel bad I could not have invited them prior. They totally understood it and were thrilled they could attend.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorVictoriaB
Well I just asked another couple who are family friends and she's been poorly with breast cancer she said she would absolutely love to come and is so pleased it's made her whole week because she's been feeling so down about being ill! Just txt another of our friends and waiting on a reply, hopefully we should get the spaces filled! Feel like I've done a good deed now too haha Just have to make all new place card settings and get table plan re done now that's the biggest plain with only 12days to go so Becky I completely understand how frustrating it is you have even less time than me!! I hope that all the ones that wanted to drop out have already with notice because I'll be gutted if any don't show up on the actual day when it's cost so much and took so much preparation! X
CommentAuthorInDreamland
It's lovely you've cheered her up.
I'd always say to any bride to be prepared for drop outs right up to the morning of the wedding, I left the final table plan to a few days before the wedding just in case of drop outs, even after i made it a few days before we still had 3 drop out last minute, all from my side, I just left them on the plan and told the venue to not set a place for them, it's too much bother to change everything around at the last minute and I just didn't think it was worth the stress. My sister had 5 drop out last minute.
Hopefully you get all the places filled and everyone turns up on the day.
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Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I had three drop outs three hrs before the wedding, two never even told us.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Our cousin dropped out the morning of my sister's wedding and had no intention of telling us until her brother contacted her to tell us when he realised we had no idea she wasn't coming, he knew all along she wasn't coming but didn't know she told us she was until we asked him when she'd be arriving at the venue and what time her flight was from Aberdeen.
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorMel D
We had two couples drop out in the week before, and then one couple just didn't show on the day (no text or call either) and then they wondered why we were a bit off with them the next time they saw us!
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
I can understand people dropping out through illness or other family emergency but just not bothering to turn up really riles me.
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorBeckyU98
same here. my drop out had a genuine reason but its hard to fill one place - would be so much easier if it was a 2 places to invite a couple. now the person i have invited takes ages to get back! i would just leave the table plan but i cant as i have to restructure the table which leaves 4 people on a table which will look silly :( x
CommentAuthorsarah
I'm glad you were able to find someone to fill those spaces x
CommentAuthorSusie
I think after reading this, I will leave the final print of the tables until the Wednesday before the wedding! Eeeek! Hope you get the tables filled!!
CommentAuthorclairenina
I'm dreading this happening to us, as we only have 38 guests
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I would be furious if someone dropped out on the day...I wouldn't be able to speak to them afterwards!
Velcro...my wedding day twinny! The Two Kel's!
Got engaged 14/10/12 in Central Park NYC!
Became Mrs Macdonald 13th September 2014
Mummy to 4 girlies and baby blue boy Due 10/05/2016
CommentAuthorHelenW
This is one of the things I'm stressing bout most. There's a few people who aren't the most organized and didn't RSVP but when spoke to them they were like oh of course we r coming, just didn't think they need to tell us! So whether they remember to show up or not wenwill see. I'm not worrying bout it too much, at the end of the day if they don't come then they miss out not us. Xx
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