Hi ladies
We are having a best man and two ushers. The suit hire packages are 75 each is it acceptable to ask them to pay for or at least contribute some money towards this? FIL is having one too and offered to pay for his own however I declined this as he is already giving money towards the wedding. H2B thinks that we shouldnt ask the ushers to pay anything because he asked them to be ushers! My argument is 1/ 1 usher couldnt be trustednt be trusted to turn up in a decent suit if we didnt get him one 2/ the same usher couldnt be trusted to have smart, clean shoes (we are hiring these too) and 3/ my bridesmaid is paying for her own dress and is also offering to pay for her own accessories, make up and hair. 4/ The same usher is being awkward everytime I ask him to do something for the wedding or try to discuss his duties on the day he asks me if I'm joking, glares at me, or argues with me. I feel like he thinks he can just turn up on the day and look pretty and get a thank you gift for doing so. Advice or opinions please...

we are asking ours to contribute, but are going with black, so they will already have the shoes and pants, so this will bring the cost down, nan in law is making waistcoats for them all so thats a big YAY!
they are all scared of me too - so none will dare come not properly suited and booted :)

my ushers have offered to pay for theres which i thought was brill of them!! they are angels really!!

why don't you tell him that unless he starts getting involved with things you will ask someone else to be an usher as it is an honour to be an usher not a chore and if he can't be bothered then there are lots of people that would gladly take his place, it might make him buck up his ideas.
xx

Yeah you are right I personally wouldnt have chosen him but H2B just went ahead and asked him. I have asked H2B to have a word with him but he hates confrontation and would rather just let him do nothing! I may have to do it myself, AAARRRGGHH. Why does all this wedding stuff turn us into bridezilla's

Ours are paying for themselves, they've said they don't mind so that helps to save nearly £300.

our ushers are paying for their suits we just said to them it's £60 to hire the suits so if you want to wear the same as the goom bestman and fathers would you be able to pay for them as we can't afford to pay for them all and they all agreed thats what they wanted to do :) x

all of the grooms party are paying for their own suits, its the normal thing apparantly these days, everyone did at my brothers and my friends wedding to x

We are paying for ours as they was all saying they had suits etc but I didnt want them all mismatched and my colour is Navy so I felt I have to pay as its my choice what they will be wearing xxxxxxxx

we are having four ushers, four bridesmaids, two flower girls and a page boy, the ushers and bridesmaids are paying for their own outfits, not asked the best man or the person giving me away yet, but we think they will pay for their own hire, we will probably pay for the flower girls and page boys outfits but hopefully they will not be too expensive. We didnt actually ask the bridesmaids they offered themselves, but we did ask the ushers, two of which are my children, but they were fine about paying for it and have plenty of time to save for it x

there are 8 men in our wedding party so at £80 a suit im quite pleased that they are all paying for their own!!!

dads and ushers are paying for own.only best man is being paid for by h2b as a return favor from when he was best man for him.
All bridesmaids are paying for there own also.