Are you inviting work colleagues to the wedding?

We will be having two at the day time who we consider personal friends, however there are also several people between us that, although we don't see them away from the office and works dos, we'd quite like them at the evening do. We both work for the same firm and my department is quite small, I worry that if I invite say five of them, the other three would feel snubbed?

But I don't want to invite people for the sake of it....

What is everybody else doing? And how are they handing out the invites - I don't want to do it in the office and cause a big fuss....

Xx

Not a chance i would invite work colleagues and h2b hasnt either. We are not technically having guests at our wedding anyway and any party we may have when we get back would be family and friends only.
We are antisocial lol.

If you didnt want to hand invites out in the office you could always post them or just invite informally?

I am going to invite some but not all, I think the others should understand x

Difficult.
H2b isn't inviting any (thank goodness, didn't want a bunch of police officers turning up, h2b and BIL are enough). I'm inviting one colleague and her hubby formthe whole day but that's cos we get on so well with each other. I have a feeling my boss was hinting at wanting an invite, I like her, I do actually get on well with her but not sure I really want her there, it's a personal day and I don't want to really see lots of people from work even though I get get on well with many of them, it's just the one jn particular that I'm close to.
My sister for hers invited all her colleagues and they all turned up to the evening reception so not the whole day but she works for a tiny organisation so it's different.

I'd invite who you like, don't feel obliged to invite colleagues you don't want there xxx

if you like them, and want them there, invite them to the evening do :)

I dont work, but i have a couple of ex-workfriends who i will be inviting, we spend most of our time with these people at some point, id just invite the ones you actively talk to/get one with. think tom is extending the invite to some of his work mates, but hees not really that fussed. the evening guests dont make any difference, well, not much difference to the overal budget, so to is its not really an issue anyway

I'll be inviting a couple to the evening reception, h2b works for his uncle so his uncle and cousins who work there are all already invited all day so got no issues about extra ppl there x

i invited a few from our office to the evening do

Jon invited his friends from work to the evening do as well but he changed jobs about 2 months before so only one of them came

I work in a public health for the NHS, as part of a small health promotion team (me + 4 others) that sits within a larger department, and I couldn't invite everyone from the department. Therefore I'm only inviting those four in my team, plus two girls I'm really good friends with in the wider department, and they'll be getting evening invites. There isn't any expectation for everyone to be invited, another girl got married in 2011, and she only invited the people in the team she works within. No-one thought anything of it.

H2B also works within the NHS, but on the business side, and he is part of a very small team of three, so both his colleagues will be invited to the evening.

I think to the evening do then yes its not as personal as the ceremony but thats just me :) xx

We are, and will just ask those we've invited to keep it quiet, as we can't invite everyone (and also don't want to). In your case, I would either speak to those you've invited, explain the situation, and ask that they keep it quiet, or, if you feel there's a risk of it getting out, and that this could cause upset/tension, I'd perhaps invite them. I don't usually advocate doing this, but office politics can be difficult to navigate, and if I felt it might affect my job (ie make it difficult to work with certain people) I'd just invite them if it was only 3; they'll get lost in the crowd anyway, plus they may not even come.

The majority of my guests will be work colleagues & their partners! I do get on with all of them so well though, and consider them good friends. my bridesmaids are both work colleagues, I see them everyday anyway so it made sense for me to ask them :) But I do feel a bit awkward as there have been some new starters recently and I don't want them to feel like I'm leaving them out, as theres only 3 on the department who i won't be inviting :/

Well i work in a supermarket so obviously lots of people there but im only inviting a select few!!!! the few i get on really well with are invited to the evening only though, and the ones i couldnt trust etc are not invited but at the same time its funny cause these are the people that think they are automatically invited!!!! how wrong they are lol

I would say it just depends how friendly you are with them. There's no obligation to invite them just because you work with them, or if you do feel a bit of an obligation then I'd invite them to the evening :)

After being a student nurse for 3 years I start my first staff nurse job on 4th Feb so I haven't met my work friends yet!!! My H2B has 4 work friends he would like to invite to the day but we are already at 100 guests so not sure at the moment whether they will get an invite or not. If you are close friends with them then I would invite them :-)

Sarah xxx

Pammy, just give them an evening invite, not a daytime one. Questions may be asked, but I'd have thought they would understand.

Yeah, I think we will just have the close ones to the day and the rest to the evening...

Xx

im only inviting my boss and his mrs as he is playing me down the aisle xxx

Im only planning on inviting 2 work colleagues to the day, but these are my 2 best friends. Too be honest I'll never get rid of them even if I tried lol.
H2B and I work at the same place and we are friends with everyone there but I wouldn't go out for drinks on a weekend with them all but will be inviting most of them do the night as I have worked with for a number of years.

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We got OH's work colleagues, well handful coming on the night! he didnt want them there for teh ceremony as not that close to them & unfortunately i havent got work colleagues else theyd come to the night too x

I am in a department of 11 including myself so not too big, so to stop upset I am inviting them all plus partners because I already know that at least two won't come so that leaves room for me to invite two friends from other departments, but keeps my department happy as everyone got an invite : )

We're inviting everyone from my work to the evening (there's only 7 other people including the boss) but no one from my partners work is being invited x x