To give you a bit of background, I'm 5' 1.5" (the extra 0.5 makes all the difference), I was always a size 10 until I went to uni, met my now ex-bf and put on a tonne of weight and went up to a size 14/16 - now at my height that is really bad! Very very overweight and I looked terrible and was so unhappy. Anyway, after a 5 and a half year relationship we split up, it took me 3 years to get over him and one day something clicked I was so over him and I took back control and lost 2.5 stone and went down to a size 8 within 8 months. I was so happy like that - ok, so I may have taken it too far at one point lost a little too much and looked gaunt but I gained a few pounds and my weight stayed the same for the past 4 years and dress size remained at a size 8.

In January H2B proposed and since then I've quickly gained half a stone and my clothes are either too tight or just don't do up now so it's really noticeable.

Since losing the weight those years ago I've been so scared of gaining any and becoming "the fat girl" again which is what a lot of people called me.

Anyway, my sister is 2 inches taller than me and a dress size 6-8 with bigger b00bs and my best mate has since January lost lots of weight and is back down to her original dress size of 8-10 and is still losing weight so will be just like my sister in about a months time! She's taller than my sister!

Basically, I have an issue with the weight I've put on anyway and I'm struggling to take back control of it but I'm also so worried now that given my two BM's are both taller than me (and in their heels will be even taller as my sister is planning on wearing heels 2 inches taller than my wedding shoes) and dress size smaller than me, they're going to look super skinny next to me and I'm just going to look short and fat and dumpy next to them. I'm convinced they are going to look so much more stunning than me on my wedding day and upstage me because they're taller and skinnier and just have the perfect figures (they're both really attractive).

This is really getting me down. I'm self conscious about my body anyway and this makes it worse.

I told them I felt short and fat next to them and they told me I was silly and was ok but they just don't understand what it's been like for me battling with my weight, always being the fat one, the half a stone I've put on since January really bothers me, how my clothes are now and how I just feel about my body is really negative I hate it.

Sorry for the moan - I know a lot of people will say I'm silly being a size 8-10 but at my height I don't look skinny -I actually have a belly that sticks out like I'm 5 months pregnant and I have never had a kid x

Oh Tracey, you really should'nt be so hard on yourself. I've looked at your photo with h2b and you look stunning. So your worried about half a stone you could easily shift that if you put your mind to it. On your big day you will be the bride and center of attention and you will be so happy that you will be radiant and everyone will be looking at you and h2b not your bridesmaids, they will just be there as extra decoration. You have to stop worrying or your gonna make yourself ill. Just eat healthily and cut out the junk and you will be fine x

They can't upstage you because you'll be the one in the wedding dress and thats who everyone will be looking at not the bm's x

oh im the same im only 5ft so im soo tiny looking and iv managed to go from a size 18 to a size 10 witch is great xx

but my 2 bms are size 8/10 but gotthe hight so look slimmer xx
even thout im the lightest x

but tbh im pass caring anymore x
im still lossing weight and toning and have 8 months to loss more n get what i want exactly and so do u if you really feel the need to loss weight and be happy then do it however dont do it just as others look slimmer its ur health remember and its your day no one will be watching them just you on ur day in your stunning dress x

p.s wear lovly heals.... and put them in a very small heal in yous will all balance out xx

Also know how you're feeling, just shy of 5'3 myself my BM is like 5'8. It's not weight that bothers me so much, I think my BM and me have similar looking figures when you take out numbers. But she wants to wear heels and a full length dress and I don't want to take that away from her cause she's had loads of friends get married but never been a bridesmaid. But I also worry she's going to stand out more than me, she's so tall compared to me which'll make her look much more slender and I'm worried I'll look fat and dumpy.

Thanks ladies.

My sister and best mate are amazing and I want them to feel special on the day too I'm so close to both of them. My sister is basically wearing the same sandals that I wore when I was her CBM/MOH, not exactly the same pair, they are identical style but with half a size difference, her feet bigger than mine, they are 4" heel, stiletto J.Choos that I bought her for her b'day (and treated myself to a pair whilst I was at it - they were 50% off in the sale so it was like buy one get one free). They're incredibily comfortable and I know she is dying to wear them as we don't get to wear them very often (why I wore mine for her wedding). My best mate doesn't really do heels often and prefers flats so will prob wear 1 inch or so to probably end up approx same height as my sister.

I've bought my shoes already with 2" heels , I didn't want to go higher for my comfort on the day and also H2B is 5' 8" and if I wore massive heels I'd be almost as tall as him and I don't want us to look odd like that.

I've not got their dresses yet, I will get them something they're both happy and comfortable in though, I want them to be happy wearing them on the day.

I am so glad that others understand exactly where I'm coming from though and how I feel.

Congratulations on your weight loss Mrs Sheppard2B and Nic! That really is fantastic! I really should be inspired to get back down to what I was at Christmas.
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I totally understand this....glad its not just me! My sister is my only bridesmaid. I am 5'5 and a slim size 12, she is 5'8 and a size 6/8. I have always been the "chubby" one and my grandma always takes great pleasure in telling me "your big boned love, you will never be as slim as your sister!" To add to this my sister lives in Oz and so she wont have seen any family members for 18 months and so i think they will be more excited to see her than see me get married!

I think you have nothing to worry about. You have time to lose weight before you get married if that's what you feel will help. Could your BMs not wear flatter shoes so you feel a bit better. After all it is your day and should be up to you what they are wearing.

You have plenty time to lose that half stone. From what you're saying maybe it would be an idea to maybe talk to a counsellor about your image issues. If you truely think you are fat when people tell you you need to gain weight, it may help you to realise how beautiful you are and give you more body confidence. x
I have a similar situation. I'm 5'3 and a size 18 presently. I am losing weight though so hoping to be a 12/14 by my wedding. My 2 best friends are my bridesmaids, but both very differnt in shape. One islike me, short and round and the other is a half arab size 8 stunner. She could wear a bin bag and pull it off. Of course I don't want to be upstaged, so I've told her she's not allowed to wear skyscrapper heels as she'll tower over both of us, which she is fine with. And we're going for a knee length dress, so I will be the only one in full length. But tbh. I love them both to bits. They are like my sisters. I just want them to be comfortable and look fab in what they wear, cause I will be the one responsible for making them look that way (I'm buying their dresses).
And as someone else said, she will always be gorgeous, I won't ever be able to get her figure as it's just not in my genes or height. So I will be happy when I get down to my pre meeting my h2b, weight.

Thanks ladies.

I know they're probably my issues I need to deal with, good idea Halebob85 about the counselling, might consider it.

It's tough when I just am not happy with the way I look surrounded by gorgeous people!
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