Hi everyone,
I'm starting to get really blue about my engagement ring. I don't like it.
It's my own fault, when we decided to get marred and told everyone I didn't have a ring and I pestered h2b to get one as "it would make it more real" we spent only one evening in town and I basically choose the only one that wasn't horrendous that we could afford (which was very little in e ring terms!) that I could take away in my size that day.
Our friend is a jeweller and is making our wedding rings, which are lovely but I just don't like my e ring! I'm not sure if I ever have. It looks cheap and not what I imagined I would ever have and I'm so envious when I see other people with beautiful rings.
I don't feel I can say anything as I choose it but I'm going to be wearing it for ever :-(
I have even been tempted to hide it and say I lost it.
I know that's terrible. :-(
Even writing this Im worried that h2b will read this post (he won't, why would he??!) and I feel awful.

Thats so sad cb can you not love it because of what it signifies? I wear my grandmas wedding ring on my right hand and its yellow gold i really don't like yellow gold,all of my jewlery is either white gold or in the case of my e ring and wedding ring platinum BUT i will never take it off because its my grandmas ring and she wanted me to have it.
Perhaps if you are so unhappy with it on your first/second/tenth anniversary you could upgrade it or get an eternity ring in its place? Don't lose it though as it will always be the ring your h2b placed on your finger to show the world that he wanted you to be his wife and you may regret that one day xxx

Completely agree with Antonia, I have been jealous by some other peoples e rings but i wouldnt change mine for the world because it means something to me x

I can understand how you feel hun, my ring isnt what i would have chose, it is rose gold and i only wear white gold, i could get it dipped but it wouldnt feel right as it is the ring my h2b chose, he isnt the most romantic and i know he didnt spend hours looking for it, he actually got it off the internet!!! but he was thinking of me when he picked it, i cant just my wear my wedding ring when we are married as it will also have to be rose gold, i too look at other peoples rings and feel jealous as they are so nice but there is nothing i can do about it so i try not to think about it too much and concentrate on all the good things about getting married xx

My Auntie got a ring pull fasioned into a ring (the old ones that used to come off and you could get your finger through) from my Uncle and she adored it because of what it signified. Years later when they had more money he bought her a beautiful 1 carat diamond solitaire which was lovely but she could never feel the same about it as the original ring pull. After 15 years of marriage their house got broken into and the thieving blighters took the jewellery box that contained the ring pull and my Auntie was devastated. It doesn't matter how much something cost or how fancy it is, sentimental value out weighs everything else. In years to come you will probably be able to afford a replacement ring.

Aww what a lovely, just sad story. maybe she will get another ring pull ring, abroad they still have them that come away!

I choose my first e ring off the internet and my hubby to be got it for me, but the setting was very wonky and the diamond didn't seem too secure, it was past its return date by the time i got it but i was so upset that it seemed faulty, i hid my feelings about it from my hubby to be for a while and then finally confessed one night. He was upset that i hadn't told him earlier. He then took it back and got nearly a full refund and we then went shopping together in London.

We set a budget and i loved one ring in particular that was a little expensive, tried to fall for cheaper rings but my hubby2b obviously knows me well and he kept saying he preferred the other dearer ring and, as as he was paying for it he had to love it as well as me and it was important that i had the right ring. We choose the ring i fell i love with and then he went back two days later to collect it after having it resized. I wouldn't swap my ring for the world now, it feels so me!

I can understand how you feel, maybe there will an opportunity to exchange your ring in the future, i don't think your hubby2b would be too cross, especially if he realises that it makes him right all along!

xx

We brought a cheaper ring to start with then i got near enough the same ring in white gold, did H2b pay much attention to the ring, could you not go get yourslelf another would he notice xx

I think that because you did chose it you have less reason to feel worried about being honest... if he had chosen it then you know how nervous they are that you wont like it and how much time and thought went in to choosing it. If it were me in your position I would sit him down and tell him that you're really embarrassed but you rushed yourself and him, and that as time has gone on you've come to like your ring less and less, and would he mind if you went to see if you could return it for another one. I
'm sure some jewellers wont allow it but if you went in and asked them what their returns policy was before you said anything to him then you never know!
I love my ring but it took time to grow on me. Its white gold with an oval blue topaz stone and the tiniest diamonds you have ever seen one either side. My partner chose it knowing that I loved the sapphire and diamonds of Kate Middletons ring so he did put a lot of thought into it. What bothered me was that I could instantly tell that it cost less than the 42inch tv he bought 2months before, and it was less that i cared about the money and more that i thought he obviously didn't think it was worth investing in.
What I eventually realised was he rushed into buying the ring so that he could propose on our trip to Paris, he had planned it all out and spent all he could afford given that we'd put so much away for holiday spendings. To make me feel even more guilty, it soon dawned on me that he could have (hypothetically) spent thousands of pounds on a ring that I didn't like, and that had no real connection to me!

I plan to move my engagement ring onto my right hand when we get married, saves the hassle of getting one shaped around it, especially since we both want quite plain bands!

I like the idea of wearing it on my right hand....I know I choose it but still feel like I couldn't admit that I didn't like it to H2B.

Thanks for listening ladies...Hopefully I will be presented with a lovely eternity ring one day that h2b has chosen all by himself.... :-)

get it polished and it'll make you remember why you originally picked it :)