This post is going to sound really depressing and I'll apologise in advance for that.
My dad died in 2009 and because mum is in a wheelchair she doesn't want to give me away as she's scared of running over my dress.
So for the past few months since we started booking things and making the wedding all official, I've been trying to think of someone to ask to walk me down the aisle, and I've decided on dad's brother - my uncle.
I've just text him to ask if we can meet up at the beginning of december and he says that's fine and there shouldn't be any reason why not.
But my problem is - how on earth do I ask him? Do I just come out with it? Or write him a note? Or something else? I want to do it in the least upsetting way as I know it's going to be emotional and I'll probably end up crying. Does anyone have any ideas?
Looking forward to marrying my soulmate on 20/07/2013
Not sure what to do for a honeymoon yet
CommentAuthorsamwiseheart
id just approach it as "my wedding is on .... and after speaking to my mum and other family memebers i was wondering if you would be willing to give me away?" i dont really know hun, my mum asked me if i had anyone giving me away and i literally laughed in her face and said 'you are you idiot' so i dont know how to go about it hun, i just wanted to say good luck! xx
CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
ive asked my h2b's dad 2 give me away and it was along the same lines although sounded a bit more awkward as i said it lol didnt come out as nice as that but he said yes lol i think its going to be emotional whatever u do so i would keep it short and sweet, he must know ur situation so u dont really need to explain why, just tell him u would really love it if he could give u away, good luck and keep us posted! x
As the beatles say, Love Is All You Need x
CommentAuthorEmmyR1984
I've had such a nightmare even getting the point of knowing who to ask.
I'm ashamed to admit that there have been a few tantrums off me and a lot of tears as the way I see it Dad should still be here as he was only 48
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CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
yeah im sure the wedding has made all ur feelings about ur dad come flooding back im sure, its not nice to lose a parent and especially not have them there 4 ur wedding day, all i can say is ur dad would have wanted u 2 have a great day and want u 2 be happy. i havent lost a parent myself so i cant imagine how hard it must be sometimes, my friend lost her mum when she was 16 and i saw how that affected her and still does, im sure she will be feeling all sorts of emotions when she plans her wedding, as long as u have god support from family and friends u should get through it, just remember how proud he would be of u and im sure he would be very happy with his brother giving u away x
I have no idea if he's expecting it or if he really has no clue of what I'll be asking
I think once it's over and done with and I know what he thinks everything will calm down, it's just the unknown of how he'll react xx
Looking forward to marrying my soulmate on 20/07/2013
Not sure what to do for a honeymoon yet
CommentAuthorBridezilla
He will most likely be very touched that you asked. Hopefully he will say yes. If he doesn't, maybe your mum could do it after all, but get someone to push her down the aisle so she doesn't run over your train. The other option would be for her to go down the aisle before you, then there is no risk of that happening. Good luck - I hope it goes well :)
CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
whether he's expecting it or not, he'll be honoured 2 give u away. He'll understand. Let us know how it goes when you've asked him x
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CommentAuthorEmmyR1984
I think the only way he will say no is if he can't travel over to wales for the wedding (it's a 3 and a half hour journey, so I'd understand if he couldn't, even though I'd be gutted)
Just got to wait and see what happens now x
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Not sure what to do for a honeymoon yet
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
i would say ...."you could do me the hugest favour , i dont have dad to walk me down the asile and i was wondering if you would do me the honor of escorting me ....it would be like having part of dad there by my side "
it would as well because now my uncle has gone a bit "thin on top" shall we say? he's the spitting image of dad lol
I think part of why I'm so nervous is because once I've asked him it's kind of like admitting to myself that dad isn't coming back. I know that sounds odd and believe me I know he's gone, but it's that last little bit of him that was special to me, something that only he could do for me
Looking forward to marrying my soulmate on 20/07/2013
Not sure what to do for a honeymoon yet
CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
i can understand that emmy, like finally admitting it 2 urself, but it doesnt mean u cant involve ur dad in any way at all, just cos hes not there physically u could have him there in memory, maybe put pics up somewhere or include a piece of his jewellry in ur bouquet etc theres lots u could do 2 make it feel like he was with u on the day aswell, as im sure he will be x
As the beatles say, Love Is All You Need x
CommentAuthorEmmyR1984
I was thinking of doing a table with pics of people who can't be with us to share our day, like Dad, Chris' grandad, my nan etc
I just don't know if some people would find it morbid :(
Looking forward to marrying my soulmate on 20/07/2013
Not sure what to do for a honeymoon yet
