How do i word in invitations to people i would like to invite to the church, but then as we are having family only for sit down meal - they cant come to that- but are invited to the evening reception. we are also having photos in a local park after the church and it would be nice if they came to that- but then how do i say- "go home now and come back later"- lmao!! any help ladies??
CommentAuthorKesha
tricky one, we wanted to do this, and in the end had to just hand out evening invites and then invote to the church via word of mouth, because it can get confusing otherwise.
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CommentAuthorMrs fairytale
we are inviting some of our evening guest to the church as well and i have put a little note in their evening invite saying
"as our guests for the evening, we would also like to invite u to (church) at 2 o'clock to see us get married, due to the cost we are keeping it to family for the sit down meal. with you at teh church you would be helping to make our day more special. thank u for your understanding. if u wish to come to the church please write a note on the back of the R.S.V.P that we have supplied "
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CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
yeh i would agree with the way kesha says but tbh i do think its a bit cheeky if ur inviting them to the wedding ceremony and not to the buffet..if ur wantin it family ..u be best just havin family at the church otherwise it may get b!tchy !!! i would have l iked many others at the wedding but we settled on just family and everyone back at nite x
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when our friends got married they invited us to the church and then back for the evening, to be honest it really messed the day up for us, we didn't live nearby so had to get all dressed up for the service at 1 then had to amuse ourselves till 7pm. i thought it was a strange thing to do to be honest but understand their reasons for doing it. I think the invitation just said '...invite you to their wedding ceremony at x church, and their evening reception at 7pm at ....
CommentAuthorKerrylou
We were originally going to do this but it was a nightmare, had it up on our wedding website as; "Obviously we'd love everyone to be there all day but sadly, due to venue capacity, we can only invite family and close friends to the wedding breakfast. We'd be honoured if all of you could attend church to see us get married!" Everyone who went on our site said it was a lovely way to phrase it, and most people understand it's down to costs anyway. As it goes we've managed to work out our 'not quite as important friends' and are just inviting them to the evening do now xxx
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CommentAuthorLisa"n"Iain
oooo it gets complictaed doesnt it lol!!
CommentAuthorMrs Daltry
either have different invites made,one lot for service only and another lot for service and meal or,mark on the invites if people are to attend the sit down meal,otherwise put on the bottom "will be glad to have your company for the evening reception"
thats a really tricky one!!!!
CommentAuthoremster
My friend had a wedding like this, I was invited to church and evening, I must admit I turned her down for the church for the same reason as pinkalice. I wasn't going to get my entire family ready for the wedding, take them home undress them and fed them, then get dressed for the evening reception. We opted for the evening only. I think the advice given above, invite guest to wedding and reception separate, then use word of mouth for church. I did feel really difficult turning down one invite, I would have been happier if I'd been given the verbal invite and less formal xx
CommentAuthorleighbee
just dont tell them your having a meal id say ceremony at '0clock' then reception at '7pm' etc.
CommentAuthorLisa"n"Iain
Thanks ladies for all your advice. its mainly for work collegues- i get along with everyone, but there are a handful who have said they would like to be at the church- i just feel tight saying they can but then cant come for the sit down meal- it is only down to money- grrrrrrrrrrr i wish i was rich -lol. I think im going to maybe send evening invites, then say verbally to those that i would like at the church the time etc.
CommentAuthorlulu83x
ive got the same problem as u hun, we are only catering the wedding meal for 30 (close friends +family) due to cost, but there are so many other people, friends- ex work colleagues etc that keep messaging me asking when they r getting there wedding invite! I really want more people to see us marry, but I was unsure of how to word it too! Im ordering my invitations next month... hmmmm...got me thinking now lol xx
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
With our evening invites we put in a note about the church service- which gives them the option. My cousin only had the church and the evening reception, and it worked out fine (I only went to the church as I had prior engagement in the evening as did Pidge- but the church is the important bit anyway!)
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CommentAuthorMrsB
ohh this threads helped me also I started a post ages ago I like how some of you have worded it I copied it on to word haha x
CommentAuthorJay
I think theres been some good wording on it here, personally i think its a bit cheeky to ask everyone to come down then go home but i understand your reasonings for it, Can i ask though are you inviting them to the church because you want them to see you get married or to fill the church up a bit more? Cause if its the filling up option id just leave it and do evening invites x
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
what about
xxxxx and xxxxx
would love to have ther pleasure of your company at our evening reception
If you would like to attend the church to see us get married you would be more than welcome
We havent invited all of our evening guests to the church, as it doesnt make sense. However some expressed an interest in coming to the church and know they are only invited to the evening, so I told them the details word of mouth. I dont think you should invite to church and evening if they havent specifically said they would like to live.
