I am new to forums and to wedding stuff so be gentle :-).
I got engaged beginning of December and it is still a little over whelming lol.
So we have found the perfect venue which is about a 50 minute drive from where we live.
I am a catholic however my oh isnt religious. I really want a church wedding and i think it is possible to get married if one of us is catholic.
My dilema is, i dont want our guests to go to the parish church then drive an hour to the reception venue. I have found a church half way there so after the church they would only have to drive 25 mins to the reception venue. The venue has accomodation for the guests so they wont have to travel back after reception.
1 - Is the travel distance suitable for the guests?
2 - Am i allowed to get married in a different catholic church to where i live?
3 - What steps do i have to do?
Thanks in advance
Bride to Be Sarah xxx
CommentAuthorBethanyS
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I am having the same issue, with applying to get married in a church not in our parish. I would first contact the church directly and see if you are eligible to get married there. I find they give you more advice that way than any. I contacted a church that I wasn't eligible for, but she gave me a website. I will post it on your wall if you make your page unrestricted and hope it'll help you a little. x
CommentAuthorSarahH410
Hi Bethany,
Thanks that would be great. I think i have made it public now.
I live in Romford at the moment but the reception venue is near Harlow. My thinking is my family are scattered all around Essex so the middle of all of them in Brentwood area. Which also then gives the drive to reception under 30 minutes.
The only thing is on the Brentwood cathedral website it says you have to be in the parish or a regular attendee to be married there.
Does this mean if i start attending mass there i will be eligable?
That website would be very helpful thanks :-).
CommentAuthorBethanyS
I've posted it on your wall :)
I think so, but I know it does say what can make you eligible for that church. I thought my H2B was living in the parish of the church we wanted to marry at, but he wasn't so we aren't eligible. x
CommentAuthorBeckyU98
im not sure how it works with catholic churches but in ours you have to speak to vicar to see if they will let you get married there. there are new rules recently introduced to say that you can get married there if you meet the requirements. usually something like if you have a connection to the place any parents/grandparents lived there for at least 6 months etc etc. best to just call up and find out before you set your heart on anything. we are both getting married outside our parishes but i went to school in the other parish so it was ok to get married there. a quick phone call will set your mind at ease.
as for travel for guests, yes i think that is acceptable. i think mine is about 30mins away from church x
Hi, I have had a nightmare with marrying outside my parish, I was baptised, had first holy communion and confirmation in my parish in Aberdeen, now live in Coventry but my wedding is in Newcastle. I found that no parish in Newcastle would take us and my nanas church are making us just through hoops to be married there. I am catholic, OH is a catholic but not practising...
I hope you do better than me!!!
CommentAuthorDonnaH39
If your parish priest gives permission for you to marry in another parish then you can
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Hi I'm Catholic, hubby is Methodist and we got married in a Catholic church in a different Parish to where we live. We married in the same church my parents got married and where my sister and I were baptised and I had my first holy communion.
You have to get permission from your parish priest to marry in another parish. This wasn't a problem for us and because I married a non Catholic I had to get dispensation from the bishop which again was no problem, your parish priest will help with all the paperwork.
Firstly speak to the priest of the church you want to marry in to find out if they're happy to have the wedding there, once that's agreed then speak to your parish priest. Good luck xx
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorSarahH410
Thanks for all your help :-).
I unfortuantely have no connections there but read up on the Brentwood cathedrals website. It says you can get married there if you live in the parish or a regularly worship there.
I will see how this plans out.
One of my friends told me that they had to give quite a large donation to get married in the church they wanted and had to fix the pipe work in the church. They had family connections to the area also.
What is the usual donation to give to the church or is there a fixed fee.
xxx
CommentAuthorMrsR-C2b
Is it a Catholic church or Church of England? In the CofE you have a fixed fee of apprx. £500 including banns. I can't exactly remember so I rounded up so you wouldn't have a nasty shock!!
I'm not sure about Catholic... you'd have to ask the priest?
CommentAuthorJR2015
Our CofE wedding is costing around £600. H2B lives in the parish, his grandparents are buried in the church yard there, his dad was a choir boy there and all the funerals/weddings in the family have taken place there. So it does have quite a personal connection, which is why we wanted our wedding there.
Can you not just get married in another church, i.e the parish where you live? Because surely the church you are after won't mean anything to you, you are just choosing it because of making things easier for your guests?! I dont mean to sound harsh but I cant understand why you'd want to get married in a church you have no connection to in any way?
