Hello all, my H2B hates ties and really doesn't want to wear one. I've asked him about a cravat but he's really not interested. The FOG, BIL2B, groom and, as far as I know, the best man won't be wearing anything even vaguely approaching matching (the MIl2B said something along the lines of "oh, you wouldn't POSSIBLY want them all matching, WOULD you?", like I'd asked them to do the hula down the aisle starkers or something :( So, although the H2B is getting a new posh suit for the occasion, he's still going to look (IMO) a bit...unfinished? Like he forgot something. I don't want him to be uncomfortable at all, which is why I've not pushed the issue with him, but I just want him to make it a bit more obvious that he's made an effort!
Ladies, I'd really appreciate your thoughts on this.
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
it can still look smart. if he has a very well tailord shirt and i guess you want him to feel comfortable , could he wear a tie for the ceremony but take it off for the reception?
like Linzie just try to get him to wear one for service and photos, then he can take it off.
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I guess if they really dig their heels in there isn't much you can do. Its like him asking you not to wear the dress of your dreams. He has to feel just as good on the day. I think men in a suit with the top button undone looks rather sexy although I have to admit I would like him to wear something for at least the service. My h2b doesn't want cravats so he is opting for ties instead which doesn't bother me as I'm leaving the choices up to him for the men.
CommentAuthorFoxyroadie
Hails - thanks for that pic - that's a really good idea! His dad wears shirts like that anyway, so this is a real possible :)
XjoX - I quite agree about the being comfortable thing and that's why I don't really want to say anything. I'm going to give it a bash with the shirt style that Hails suggested, and then try the "wear one just for the service and pics", but tbh I think that that's where he's least going to want to wear one, just because he wouldn't feel comfy - and I wouldn't want that. :(
Thanks all!
CommentAuthorpanther_87k
what about clip on ties? dont know if you can get them easily nowadays. if its the tie being around his neck that bothers him
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
There is a seller on ebay that do the clip on ties. Does them in most of the wedding colours. I think he is called tieman something.
CommentAuthorAli
I'm having no say it what my h2b choses to wear on the day, the only criteria i have set is that he cannot wear a mankini like he has threatened to lol. As its his day as much as mine i want him to feel comfortable and as i've only seen him dressed "smart" once in the 4 years we've being together, then i'd be happy with a shirt and trousers, although think he may suprise me.....
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CommentAuthorNeilHartland
does it really matter what he wears on the day really aslong as he turns up and says i do on the day u shudnt really care...ppl r taking stuff to far lets go bak to the days when it wasnt about fancy things and looking good when it was about sayin i do to the person u love and want 2 spend the rest of ur life with
CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
I really want OH to wear a cravat.. hes said no....
but i have gotten my own way cos i ordered it, and showed him how nice it will look with his new suit...
he tried it on and guess what he has agreed to wear it lol
CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
neil i think thats a bit harsh, and back in the day people certainally did make the effort to look good on their wedding day! i would try and make a comprimise with him hun. a clip on tie for the ceremony and pics then whip it off after??? see what agreement you can come up between the 2 of you!
CommentAuthorRach (Mrs H)...
I think you should let him wear what he feels comfortable with, its his day as well, and i bet he has no say in what you are wearing....if he is wearing a suit but just doesnt want a tie, let it be, suits worn like that can look really smart....is it that he doesnt wear suits for work, and might feel a bit stuffy, or indeed does he wear suits all day and wants to feel different, im sure when you are walking down the aisle to him, you wont be worrying bout a tie, you'll be so happy to be marrying your prince charming....:o)
CommentAuthorekielty(now Trow)
can he not wear a clip on tie for the ceremony?? then take it off at the reception? x
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CommentAuthorKatkin
Ooh, I love the suit in the pics Hails has put up :-)
CommentAuthorHonest John!
Personally I think it depends on the venue and type of wedding you are having. No tie could look good, at an informal/relaxed wedding however if you are dressing for a more traditional/formal wedding he may look out of place. Are the FOG and BM etc wearing ties? I think whatever he decides, they have to do the same ie all ties or no ties. Could the men not wear similar buttonholes to identify them as part of the wedding party and distinguish them from the rest of the guests?
CommentAuthorsuzky123
i agree with honest john. if the wedding is formal... he needs to be in a tie or cravat, and you DO want all matching in that instance.
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CommentAuthorFoxyroadie
Thanks all for your thoughts!
It will be a formal service so I think he will look a bit out of place if he doesn't at least wear a waistcoat (which he also doesn't want...it's shirt and suit, full stop). I've wimped out of talking to him for the mo about it as H2b's BM has offered to "see if I can influence him" - if it's a no, then I'll try for the "cravat on for service and pics", then I'll accept defeat!
Thanks again!
CommentAuthormartay (marie)
IMO if you are having a relaxed wedding day and if he really doesnt want to wear any neckwear then i would be inclined to let him go tie-less. wearing something he isnt used too may make him feel uncomfortable and he may not enjoy the day as much (think of new shoes you may of bought one time, which rubbed you all day and took the edge off the occasion and you couldnt wait to take them off!
my h2b sounds like your OH and i asked him what he wanted to do, tie, cravat or without and he did surprise me and went for cravat.
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