I don't have a passport or a drivers liscence, which I know its pretty unusual nowadays!
I'd already informed the registry office about this on the telephone when we booked our giving notice appointment. They said that was fine, just bring birth certificates and utility bills etc...

But when we got in there this morning, the woman that was doing it with us said that I couldn't give notice as apparently I need my mothers birth certificate to prove that I'm British. I was really surprised as this had not been mentioned before. Also gutted cause i'd been so excited about today. Obviously, I don;t have my mothers birth cert, so the woman said I'd have to get that before they can do my giving notice thing and wedding certificate :(

She was really moody, which made it worse! I ended up crying once we left cause it just ruined it all for me, I know it sounds so silly now hehe. Anyway, we did however pay for the registry office room we're marrying in, so atleast thats done :)

Poor you! I'd report her, she's supposed to help not make things more difficult for you!

I'd have had problems too, I've no passport or driving licence either. It really annoys me when they ask for these things, not everyone wants or can afford to drive or go abroad!

Aww hun, she sounded like a right moody bag!!
I'd have had problems too as I don't have a passport or driving licence either. I've never heard of having to provide your Mother's birth certificate before - I hope they don't ask of me the same thing as my Mum has retired to Greece!
Have you called them back since you went this morning and asked why no-one told you this before / when you booked yor appointment?

xx

8 days?? Shit..what are you guna do? A provisional driving licence doesnt take long to arrive.
Other than getting hold of your mums birth cert i dont know what to suggest :/ Could you get hold of it?

Surely your mothers birth certificate doesn't prove that you're British? She could have been born in a different country moved here before you were born, still making you British?!

My H2B would have had this problem as his Mum's spanish! lol x

I would make a complaint about the moody woman!
I guess with so many illigal weddings these days they have had to up the degree of proof you need?
I do hate it though when you get told one thing on the phone, then you get told something different when you get there! I'd have cried too chick ......
I hope you get it sorted soon and you can tick it off your list x

you need to pay to have a copy of your birth certificate so be prepared for that as well. Best of luck to you xx

I just don't understand when they already have my birth certificate, why would they need my mums?? It just seems a bit odd... She said to prove nationality, but surely my own birth certificate would show that? We're going to have to hope my mum has hers, cause the lady said or else I have to personally go to the registry office that my mothers birth was registered at, and get a copy... That would mean I'd have to find someway of travelling to the opposite end of the country! :O

We are giving notice on Wednesday and have been told to take Passport for ID purposes and Driving Licences for proof of address as my h2b cant find his Birth Certificate and the Registrar said the above would be fine x

You can pay a small fee, I think it's no more than £10, contact your mums registry office where her birth was registered, pay the fee over the phone and they will post a copy out to you.

I had to do this as I had lost my birth certificate and I got a copy within 3 days.x

If you'd taken the trouble to ring them and advise regarding not having passport/licence they should have told you about needing mothers birth certificate. I'd put a complaint in, firstly for not giving you the correct info and then secondly for how rude she was. If you do need your mums certificate, just order it from internet or ring the register office up. They'll be able to order it over the phone for you so you don't have to travel all that way. Good luck x

no natalie wont cause problems my dad is dead and i never really knew him that well they just ask to put on there records you just tell him any job he did before prision i put mine as rail way worker as thats the last job i remember him having but im sure he had a few more after that

Phew! I was going to ring up and ask to see if it would be a problem. He was an electrician and owned his own business so Id just put him down for that. Thank you!

the small ones are fine, both me and my H2B used ours when we give notice... also i never had to use photographic ID as i dont have passport or drivers licence. i used bank statement,wage slips for proof of address.

Blimey its not your day is it.. AGAIN

Hope you manage to sort this out in time for your wedding

however, our wedding is 9th may, and we're doing the marraige notice on 18th april, is that cutting it too close?! its the only date the guy would give us... but im sure they must have something a little sooner?!

haha i have to laugh otherwise i may cry.... my mum had to flee the house which had my birth certificate in, i dont know where i was registered so cant get hold of a new one and my dad is not even named on my birth certificate!!! what the hell am i meant to do....??

yeh im sure my grandparents can tell me... but still.... they dont make it easy to get married these people do they!

that is weird!! i can't see why they'd need your mum's too?? my passport is british but my drivers licence is irish and i was born in ireland. the passport is british because i've dual nationality and mum was more organised than dad at applying for one when i was little! so what does that all mean!?

nope, still not sorted! :/

Am going to buy a long birth cert online, and hopefully thatll be it!

Calling them tomor to speak to someone senior to complain and to make sure they dont ask me for anything else!xx

where did you order it from krissy? xx

Just a quick update;
Finally gave our notice today after all the problems we had!
We saw a different woman and she was lovely and looked through my ID's and my mums birth certificate and said that was fine and no need for any other extra bits on top, she didnt even need the long length birth certificate of mine in the end which I bought lol.

I guess the other people we dealt with were just being picky :/

But yay all sorted, and I can now *finally* breathe a sigh of relief, with only 20 DAYS to go! :D three weeks today I will be married :D

Glad you finally got it sorted! And only 20 days! How exciting!!! xxx

krissy905 - I lost my deed a few years back in a house move, but I went online and just ordered a new one. It was so easy and made me worry about how easy it was LOL!
When i gave notice of marriage, I didn't even need the deed (even though I took it), but I DID have my passport (in name that I changed it to by deed poll) so I guess that's why. I think I paid about £50 for a replacement deed - could you do the same, maybe?