Hi everyone. I just wanted some advice on my issue below. I’m not sure whether I’m expecting too much of my friends or just need to get new friends haha!!! My hen weekend was booked in November for sept this year. One of my friends has dropped out leaving me to pick up the cost , to go to another henweekend which I thought was pretty rude. But I let it go. Now her friend is saying she isn’t coming, she never committed and why would she spend £200 to sit in a house 30 miles from home. I explained the reasons why it’s so close to home ( my health and 3 girls are due babies so didn’t want them stressing being too far from home) and that she knows plenty others there and her response was I would’ve expected your bridesmaids to tell you I wasn’t going? Bottom line. Am I in the wrong for thinking she should have thanked me for the invite and said she couldn’t make it? And for thinking she is totally disssing my hen weekend?
CommentAuthorAlexE56
I think a good friend would have tried a bit harder to attend or have told you personally in a kind way if money was a problem. If you're like me and has spent lots on hen weekends for other people then it's only normal to feel actually it's my turn! Maybe it's better you have the friends there that will make the extra effort. You're not in the wrong at all! Hope you're okay! Xx
CommentAuthorKerriR86
I have found from hearing stories from my friends who have got married that weddings and hen do’s cause tension or fall outs between friends and family.
If your friends can’t make an effort to attend, moan about where you have picked, or don’t seem bothered about celebrating your hen weekend with you, then do you really want those people at your wedding? I would knock them off and give the spaces to people in your reserve list. Weddings are expensive, and if you break the cost down to a price per person, that’s a lot of money to be wasted on people who don’t want to celebrate with you.
It’s such a lovely thing to invite friends and acquaintances to a hen do, and they should feel honoured, you are definitely not in the wrong.
CommentAuthorDGloomS563
you are definitely not in the wrong, if they didn't want to go or couldn't make it then they should have let you know from the start instead of giving you a lousy excuse and expecting you to pick up their half of the costs.
