More time to get planning tho vonny, look at the positives, lol. what date is your wedding?x
CommentAuthornatalie2614
Its horrible when they change the date, unfortunately you get used to not having dates set in stone for that same reason xx
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CommentAuthorShirleygirly
Whenever my h2b gives me a date when he's back I always add a couple of weeks to it in my head. He's due back from Afghan in a couple of moths and we're going abroad for a week, he keeps telling me to book it for a certain date but I am not booking anything til it's set in stone. He's chosen to go on the last r&r available because theres less chance of it being changed.
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CommentAuthorVictoriaM1
Not looking forward to the day my h2b turns round and says hes being deployed :(
CommentAuthorVonny
13th July 2013. I know this happens a lot. I'm not sure any date they give sticks. Just have to remember that this will be the end and i will have him home for a month!!
He also took later R&R so it was less time for the second part of his deployment.
Not been used in awhile so perhaps we could get some of the more newer forces brides 2b together on here to discuss the extra stresses of planning a forces wedding?
I myself was a forces bride (went from an Army bratt yo an Army wife so my first 26 years were Army based) once so if anyone needs anything let me know although my wedding was way back in 1996 ;-)
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CommentAuthorEmma_Michelle
Hi I am marrying into the army (best way to describe it) and have no idea what to do about the date :/ I'm thinking summer leave may be the best option. He has done an Afghan tour 2012/13 and won't be going back. He has Falklands this year, Cyprus at the end of the year and no idea about 2015 which is when we were planning on getting married. No idea if venues are understanding about the possible date changes? Argh stressed already! x
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
1st time round I was also a services wife .... Naval wife for 17 years ....
Some can be understanding, but the busier some places are, the less able they are to accommodate changes. My parents (RAF Flight Sgt Dad and budgets and disclosures mother) ended up picking a date once he got time off and ran to the reg office in Glasgow. But leave is a lot better structured nowadays and usually scheduled time off tends to remain scheduled time off. You can but book something which you think will suit, and I think you have the right idea by choosing his summer leave. Hopefully he will have a decent amount of time off for you to get married and enjoy your time together!
CommentAuthorEmma_Michelle
yeah he usually gets good holidays, he has 4 weeks over Christmas this year lol. I emailed a venue and they responded with "sorry to hear your fiancee is in the army" so I won't be replying to them. It may have been taken out of context but I just don't like that sort of attitude for such a special day. It says you are getting married in five months, how exciting. How long have you been planning?
CommentAuthorSusie
Thats pretty good going having four wks over Christmas! It must have been lovely having him home! I think with the "sorry etc" some people aren't certain how to reply to email queries, and might have meant it in conjunction with the possibility of a need for a change of date.
I am very excited, cant believe it is so close! We got engaged in June just past, and Ive been planning since then. Ive enjoyed having a shorter time span, it lends to making yourself actively find bargains! We have a £5000 budget and have managed to keep to it YAY :) you'll enjoy planning Emma, it is so much fun!!
CommentAuthorEmma_Michelle
£5000? Thats really good, they cant even do that on don't tell the bride lol. Are you having many guests? I am excited to plan but I think I'm driving Ant insane already! I keep thinking of things to do that I never thought of.
I don't think they intended to be offensive but at the same time I think they need a bit more attention to detail/people skills.
CommentAuthorSusie
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I will write my response on your profile wall, just in case we hijack the thread hahah (There should be a friend request waiting for you)
CommentAuthorJoannaS
i was an army brat and then married a RE first time round hubby now is ex RE as well.
CommentAuthorprincesspixie
we booked our venue for 2016 and explained that H2B is in the forces. As he is changing his job to become a pilot at the minute he is training for the next 2 years and will have just finished before we get married. We did explain that although there is no plans for him to go on tour or anything we could not guarantee that something wouldn't come up. They were extremely helpful and said that if we told him them as soon as we found out then they would do there best to accommodate us. I think most venues would do what they can to help your situation at the end of it, its them thats getting paid xx
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Big wedding 18/06/2016
CommentAuthorBeckyU98
we are getting married 12 weeks today :) so excited but H2B is being posted to Northern Ireland on Sunday :( will only see him 3 times now before the wedding! bags are all packed and loaded into the car so got one full day left with him tomorrow until he goes and im stuck at work today. cant wait to move over there with him though and we get our house 10 weeks today but not moving over until the day after the wedding as ill be needed here for wedding related stuff.
best thing we did at the beginning was just to get wedding insurance that covered military weddings so we were covered if he got posted anywhere. we were pretty lucky with the date that we picked but turns out that all of his mates will be in Jordan on exercise ready for going on tour so none of them will be able to come :( which means no guard of honour etc.
i would say that's the only problem we have had so far in terms of planning a military wedding. everything else has gone pretty smoothly xx
CommentAuthorEmma_Michelle
12 weeks ah you must be so excited. Must be hard only seeing him three times before your special day. It is a shame his friends are away though. I have emailed a few venues and most have been really nice about the date although one of them said they would not and could not be flexible so they are off my list of places to go and see. Problem is we don't know what he will be doing next year. Its just so uncertain, i'm considering just suggesting we elope!
CommentAuthorBeckyU98
yeah we are really excited :) its the only thing keeping me busy at the moment. as for the date, if you get him to ask they should have a good idea if he will be posted anywhere. and making sure you have a flexible venue is important. just make sure you get the wedding insurance so it will cover the expenses of having to rearrange just in case!
probably the most stressful thing for me recently has been that we are moving into Married Quarters the day after the wedding. and we are also moving over to Northern Ireland too! we are both moving out of our parents so trying to buy things for the house and the wedding at the same time but cant take much over there with us.
maybe you can just start saving for wedding and finding all the things that you want and you can book the wedding more last minute? you can probably get a pretty good deal then too. You can get all the things that are not date important like dress, bridesmaids dresses etc and then maybe towards the end of this year youll have a better idea on dates and can book something then? x
CommentAuthorDiddikins
Hello,
I've recently gotten engaged to my partner who officially joined the RAF recently as an electrical engineer, I have no idea on what to expect in being a military wife and would like it if someone could shed some light for me :) we're so excited and hoping to plan our wedding for next autumn :D thanks in advance :)
Met in Winter 2002
Together in 06 November 2012
Engaged 11July 2015
Married TBC
CommentAuthorNephyisis
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Hi LydiaY,
Im in a similar boat to you, got engaged to my fiance (also in the RAF) on New Years Eve, with our wedding set for January next year (so not log to go now!) Whilst I don't have any specific advice to offer in regards to being a military wife (although my fiances dad was also RAF so my future mother in law has been able to tell me a little of what im in for) I think the only way to approach it is with a very open mind and whole lot of patience. I've been told that for the most part living in quarters is OK and that you will end up making some good friends with other husbands and wives who are in the same boat, which is something I'm looking forward to!
Hope your wedding planning goes well, good luck and congratulations! x
CommentAuthorDiddikins
Hi Nephylisis :)
Thanks for your reply! I realised that I wouldn't be the only b2b in this boat :) my fiancé will be doing his trade training in St Athans starting September :) I really can't wait for our adventure to start. I am really looking forward to meeting people and experiencing this new life ahead of us :)
good luck on your wedding day :) x
Met in Winter 2002
Together in 06 November 2012
Engaged 11July 2015
Married TBC
