This isnt really a rant, Im Just in a really down mood have been the last few days, I feel like Just cancelling the wedding it's not getting me excited anymore I think its completly drained me Ive been that obsessed with it all, now I cant be arsed, I said to my bf shall we leave it for a while and he said he would still like to go ahead, Im Just deflated by it all now and cant be bothered struggling every month to save to get married, anyone else feeling like this xx
CommentAuthorNavyBaby
Im kinda feeling like that as we've had to book it for so far in advance! I've got to wait til June 2013 and I just think I wont start planning anything yet as we've got so long to wait. I really want to start letting myself get excited but I wont let myself...I'll have nothing to do a few months before!
Hang in there...ask your BMs or your H2B for some help, ideas and inspiration for something new?
xxx
CommentAuthorkimi1987
i know how u feel hun ive been feeling the same. my h2b is exactly the same he refused to put the date back.u mite just need to give urself a break from wedding planning for a while. im leaving mine until after xmas then gonna get stuck into it closer to the date. i felt like cancelling because h2b hasnt got a job so we cant really save anything as all our money goes on the kids or bills. just remind yourself that things will get better and the excitement will come back
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CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Yes you have some time yet, I booked the majority of my stuff 10-12 months before, and put deposits etc down - rather than get depressed by the amount of organising, have a think about what you truly want and if you want to downsize the guest numbers or change some details to make costs more manageable then go for it :-)
CommentAuthorKaz
Me!
I've not been on here for a while as it's all become a bit much, my sister's sniping about the dress, although as it hasn't been made yet and I haven't shown her the pattern, your guess is as good as mine! Plus the other sister has arranged for a meal out for my mother's 60th knowing that there is no way I can afford the £100+ to attend without dipping into our wedding fund, total budget of £1,000 it'll be noticed!
Plus, the only time we can get for the service is 12 noon which means at some point hanging around for one and a half hours so that'll be wrong and I'm really beginning to think I've taken on far too much! In the couple of days b4 the wedding, when most Brides2B will be relaxing and preaning, I've got to make the cake and most of the buffet, and on the actual morning I've got to set up the hall, and the cake, lay out the buffet and somehow still have enough time to get myself (including hair) and the kids all dressed and to the church by 12! I definately need help, and don't have anyone I trust to help me!
My aunt got married 7 years ago, and between the wedding breakfast and the evening there was 1.5 hours gap - where she snuck off to have a lie down while the guests mingled at the bar!! Sounds like Kaz could do with a nap too!!
CommentAuthormunchkinpie
lol maybe we should set up little support groups all over the place where we help each other out??
Brides with ages to go can help out those getting close and vice versa - then at least we know we have someone who is happy to listen to us about weddings and what not.
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CommentAuthorclarebear1
LOL deffo need a support group, Im just deflated now, Ive tried not to bombared all my family and mates with wedding talk etc, I Just feel like p*******g off with bf and getting maried Just the 2 of us, no need to worry about bridesmaid dresses, who's going to sit nxt to who, who's going to sleep in hotel room next to my 80yrs old nana, I think Ive Just gone wedding crazy these last few mths and need to sit back and chill, Ive booked reception and hotel rooms, Just need a dress, groom suits, rings, it may be PMT, Work and depsressing weather thats making me feel like this
CommentAuthorKaz
Bridalmiss, at this rate I'll be cooking in that 1.5 hrs for the evening buffet, lol!
munchkinpie, loving that idea!!!
Foxeey, concentrate on one thing at a time, most important, dress, so go and try a few on to see what style etc. you like!
And anyone who'd like to help me out for the day is more than welcome xx
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I say the first thing I think of!
CommentAuthormunchkinpie
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Can you imagine "Bridezilla" coffee mornings???
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Yes I agree with above - stop looking at whole picture for just now and deal with one thing at a time and it will seem so much easier xxx
Working on a 3 dream plan for the next 5 years!
Dream 1 = My gorgeous Mr P proposed - 4/9/11 Sydney Harbour
Dream 2 = Getting Married Easter 2012 by Bonnie Loch Lomond
Dream 3 = Working on that dream life in Australia
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Sorry Kaz I would but think I'll be going a bit spare myself that day as it's the day before mine!!
CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
we should def see if anyone lives near ppl who need the help and be summoned round to make things etc!
i would help out definitely, although i dont have a car so it would have to be someone near or someone pick me up for the day and i would be ur slave! lol would be nice having that extra support from ppl who know how stressful it is and want to make it special aswell, just do one thing at a time foxeey like they said, the dress is the best place to start and may perk u up a bit x
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CommentAuthor
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Kaz where are you from? maybe some lovely ladies on here might be able to give you a hand organising stuff if they are near by? You will end up a mess if you put too much on yourself the morning of the wedding! my MOH got married at midday and we only just were ready after getting up at 7am! If you give people precise instructions they'll manage and you'll have the morning for sorting yourself out xx Foxeey, maybe just give it a rest til after xmas now...that way when you start planning again you're only going to have 9/10 months left and you'll probably feel a bit more in to it then! i did all my planning at first and now have just left it til january when we pay the next bit of money on the venue! try not to feel deflated xx it'll all come together xx
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I can understand where you are coming from as it doesn't change your relationship at all and is a lot of effort for one day. I loved getting married and it was well worth all the hard work but we didn't need to do it. I think when you are secure in a relationship then it isn't the be all and end. Yes it is nice to say your married and this is your hubby but for me I was already married to the hubby long before we even got engaged. I have to admit though that it was one hell of a party and I did get a buzz out of it but other than that nothing has changed other than we have less money in the bank.
CommentAuthorKylee27
Oh no! :0( Well it's easy to lose momentum a bit with it, it can get a bit overwhelming. Like the other ladies have said, give it a rest until after Christmas maybe. You might get your wedding mojo back a bit by then?
The helping each other out is a great idea. I'm in Bishops Stortford, Herts for any South East brides but am from Rugby, Warwickshire which is where I'm getting married and spend the weekend every 6-8 weeks for any Midlands based brides. Happy to help if I can! :0) xx
Can't wait to be married!
CommentAuthorLegoWife
^ Oh I used to live in Sawbridgeworth! So if I still lived there and you were getting married in the area I'd offer to help with something but I don't and your not... so this post is completely pointless lol! Just got excited to see Bishops Stortford haha.
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CommentAuthorMrs Stocks 2B
lol hollhollholly m sure we all understand :D xx
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
I'm in Hereford and if anyone needs any help with anything and you are nearby then I will most certainly help. I feel so blessed to have parents who are tripping over themselves to help, a sister who is gagging to do everything for me and a housemate who is honest and desperate to be involved. My parents have offered the lions share of the budget so that I can be a princess for the day and I feel so guilty when I hear of people like Kaz who are basically grinding themselves down with something that is supposed to be enjoyed by you and your h2b. There should be a secret millionaire for brides to ensure those who are struggling to pay for everything themselves get the day of their dreams. x
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CommentAuthordodge
dont cancel hang in there had times when i was gonna cancel wedding as i felt like you do now and other things kept goin wrong but as the time gets nearer you will feel excited again and be glad you didnt cancel
CommentAuthorMrsHarding2be
I was feeling the same as you hun, i had a little break and have only just started again, i think its alot for us ladies to have to try and sort out, Just remember hun that it will be worth it as you marry the one for you!!
Cannot Wait till becoming Mrs Harding!!
CommentAuthorMrsCaitiClarke
Kaz babe I'm getting married in Salisbury in 6 months - anytime you need a chat or want to actually have a bridezilla coffee morning we totally should! I'm getting stuck into all the DIY craft bits to distract me from the fact that our reception venue turned out to be less than perfect and we're back on the hunt for one!!! Aaaaaargh!!!
We took 2 months off planning and only really got back into it in September...plus we took 4 months from getting engaged before we even set the date! On days when it gets too much we just leave it for a few days, or do the fun crafty parts and then get back to the stressful stuff in a few days time when we're feeling less overwhelmed.
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CommentAuthorMrsCaitiClarke
And Kylee27 I live in Warwick and am often in Cov/Birmingham so if you want a chat or a hand let me know! xx
I can't wait to marry the love of my life - 28/04/2012
OCD Bride - it's all in the details!
CommentAuthorcally
Im in the North East Kaz or i would have been so happy to help you bless you. I have got everything sorted barring mens suits and h2b ring i wanted to have everything done before Xmas so i could just chill a bit next year. We even have the honeymoon booked. What i have done is get 12 storage boxes one for each table and put each tables decorations in them so I just have to pick them up and the evening before I can arrange then quickly and easily. With the weather being so awful at this time of year i have sat in my pjs and chilled out making my invites.(glass of vino in hand of course) Im sure you will get there hun. W all here if you need a chat or a moan x
It's great to say i get married this year September 1st 2012
CommentAuthorclarebear1
Im in Widnes ladies, inbetween Liverpool and warrington would love a gym buddy also xx
lol hollhollholly m sure we all understand :D xx
