This idea might sound odd to some people, but I really don't think I want a hen night.

I don't drink, so the idea of a big night out is completely out of the question, as I really wouldn't enjoy it.
Don't want to do a spa day, as its too expensive, so would really struggle to pay for it.
My bridesmaids have been rubbish with trying to organise it, and just keep asking me what were doing for it, instead of coming up with ideas between them (you know as part of the bridesmaid roll)
Would love to do some kinda of adventure weekend, but my friends would hate it. So wouldn't be worth doing that either.

Feel like I just want to say i'm not having one, and hopefully people will just accept it.

But does anyone else just not want one? and whats everyone planning on doing? Might get some ideas, and decide I maybe do want one x

Thats what I keep thinking, is its all part of the wedding experience, and I only plan on doing it once, and think i'd regret it if I didn't have one, just need to find something I want to do! lol xx

Some ideas for you....

My sister-in-law-to-to-be is marrying my brother in April and she doesn't drink and didnt want a big hen do so we are going out for a Italian instead at the local and will do party games and all dressing up. The Italian do a set meal price of £18.95pp so not too expensive and easy to organise.

My cousin got married in October and didnt want a big hen do either but she loves the outdoor so we meet at the hills and went for a walk but with all the dogs and little children (big ones were at school) and gave her tasks to do. Like she had to wear a nuns outfit and sing the hills are alive, do a 3 legged race, wheelbarrow race, etc... loads of stuff and was sooo fun and giggled so much but not expensive at all and easy to organise.

I on the other hand have no clue about my hen do as surprise by my bridesmaid however i did stipulate i didnt want it alcohol themed or too expenise so we will wait and see.

I'm not really fussed about a hen night and my OH isn't about a stag night so we've decided to go out for a meal and some drinks together with our joint friends

I'm not fussed but the girls at work have been making noises so we are going for a meal

I've had a mini hen night curry with my old workmates and will be having a meal with my MOH sister when she visits at Easter

I'm not really bothered about it one way or the other, no one has mentioned having one to me so I dont think I'll be bothering. H2b is'nt having a stag do so I dont feel i'm missing out.

Just wish my H2B wasn't having such an amazing stag do, I'm so jealous lol.

Like the idea of having a joint one, but The BM has arranged an amazing stag do for H2B, so wouldn't want to ruin their plans. Might just see if I can go along too lol x

i dont think i want mine now cos to me it sounds boring. sister is planning a alice in wonderland theme tea party as i dont really drink much and i have to dress as alice. but i compared it with what i did for her and h2b thinks shes making hers better. we went to a chinese restaurant that did karaoke then i got vip tickets for a couple of clubs and was a great night. just think i maybe want to go out for a meal somewhere a few drinks some silliness then home....xxx

ME!!! I don't want one either!! I'd much rather have a little pamper session at home, have a takeaway and a bottle of wine, good book or film on the tv, curled up on the sofa with the duvet - that's me sorted!!
Think H2b wants a stag doo ... I will be making as much noise as possible the morning after!!!

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Doesnt sound odd to me, thats kind of how me and h2b were thinking until we decided on a joint do with all our mutual friends. We ended up doing laser tag, in the woods, in the snow. It cost £20 each and we had a 3 hour session and followed it with an optional meal afterwards. We reserved space at a pub that did carvery as well as pub grub, there was something to fit all budgets. Some people came just for the laser tag then went home, some met us in the pub afterwards for food or even for a quick drink, and some stayed for the whole thing. We were home and ready to crash out by 10 oclock, extreamly satisfied after a really fun day. 34 people in total came out to play with more joining us for the meal.

H2b and I didnt see the point in going out seperately, we have been friends in the same circle for over a decade so to split up our group of friends would be wierd. Also neither of us were very interested in a boozy night out.

I absolutely agree, I don't want one and I don't want to do anything else either! I'm not a drinker and have three children so I would rather not have one and put the money that would be spent into the wedding instead! xx

that sounds like a great idea - why don't you go for it? I know my friends would have done anything I asked them to as they just wanted to be involved, but they're all really pleased I've gone for the london trip option as its something we'll all genuinely enjoy. You do what you want to, I'm sure they'll come for you :o)

I'm planning to use my 14year old sister as a good excuse to not have to go out on a bender. My ideal hen would be a mini spa session with my girls, afternoon tea and cakes and then a pyjama party with a few bottles of wine! True girly fun without it having to get messy!