Well, as I have a huge family and one of the last to get married we decided on no cousins being invited to the daytime as with close friends and our aunties/uncles it's still at 54 people (inc us).

Out of all of my cousin's weddings, I've only been invited to the evening do so didn't worry about this. One of my cousin's got married last year and we only got an evening invite, but didn't go to the wedding as it was mid-week and too far away for us to go just for a few hours.

Well, his wife has started baking cupcakes for family and friends and they are stunning. I've asked her to do our wedding cake and she has said she would love to. She's going to do 50 cupcakes and 1 large cupcake for us and will sort out time off work to do it, and is doing samples for us this week (I only asked her today). We have said we will pay her but now I feel weird about her doing this and still not being invited to the wedding...what shall I do?

Out of all my cousins, they would be the two I would invite...and if they did come, it would actually even out my tables heehee.

What do you recommend?

I think u should invite her, offer to pay and she hopefully will say dont worry about the payment have the cake as a wedding prezzie! Xx

I would invite those two aswel I also got a lot of cousins and half of them don't bother with me and half do I'm inviting the ones that I do see to my evening do and the rest can sod off haha. But yeah I think you should as she is making your cake for you and I think she would be greatly offended if u didn't invite her, don't worry about the rest because obviously they didn't with you xx

At the end of the day hun, you cant invite everyone.. its impossible. Invite who you feel comfortable inviting. :)

I know for our wedding I've left alot of my family off my day list and just invited them to the evening..only because I wanted friends too.. and I've such a big family that you just cant invite everyone!

xx

Thanks girls. It's quite difficult as I have a very b!tchy family (as most do probably) and I know it will cause upset amongst them all.

Yes - all cousins are invited to the evening, just none to the day.

True. I would really feel weird about not inviting them after she has done my cake lol. It's just too awkward, it would be "ah thanks for the cake...erm, see you AFTER the wedding" lol

Invite them and hope for a free cake :) lol

It's a hard one, I would invite them as a thank you. I had a simular problem, I have loads of cousins but my h2b only has 2, and 1of them he grew up with and they are like brothers. my h2b does not talk to his half sister so he invited his cousin to wedding breakfast instead of his sister. All other cousin's are invited to evening reception, so far I have not had any complaints about this. How I see it is I hardly ever see my cousins, apart from funeral's and wedding but he see's his cousin all the time and are intouch with each other a lot. My cousin is getting married in a few months and I have not yet recieved an invite to her wedding.
Just remember it's you're day, don't let anyone pressure you into inviting them if you're other cousin's don't like it it's tough s__t. As long as you are happy with who is there it doesn't matter what you're other cousins think.
Hope this helps you xx

Well we have already said we will pay her for the cakes AND her time but she doesn't know they may be invited yet lol. I'll wait until she comes back to me with a price lol.

i have the same problem....

H2B -fathers side of the family live 200 miles away from us and the wedding, so his cousins really have to be invited to the day as, they're all younger (bar 2 out of 17) and i wouldn't expect they to sit around in hotels waiting until the evening do.

H2B- mothers side of the family are local and there are only 5 cousins on that side and my H2B is extremely close to them, they're more like friends than cousins as he goes out on nights out and has a really healthy relationship with them so they're coming to the day also.

However, the dilemma hits when it comes to my family.....

I have no cousins on my fathers side as my dad is an only child.

my mothers side there are 16 cousins but i cant actually remember when i last seen them other than at other special occasions (significant birthdays and weddings etc etc) 4 of the cousins have been married before me and none of my family was invited to two of the weddings, and the other two my family was only invited to the evening.

My younger sister go married in 2010 and invited all the cousins to the evening do only and out of 16 cousins 1 and her family turned up, so i know it might sound harsh but i really don't see the point in inviting them to the day, they'll get a polite invite to the evening do, even though i know they wont come!!!

Id invite them, im only ivite one cousin all day and thats because he is my MOH partner and the rest are just coming to the evning, and H2B is only inviting 2 of his cousins all day because they live far away and its too far to expect them just to come for the evening...plus hopefully youll get a free cake lol, dont worry you cant please everyone hun, ive had the same problem with ine of my cousins but at the end of the day its your wedding and you have who you want there xx

Well she's given me a quote of £100 and says that will be plenty. We've now decided to invite them to the daytime (although they don't know this yet as invites won't go out until April) and it will cost us £100 to have them in the daytime so really all together we'll be paying her what we had budgeted for the cake anyway.

I'm not sure what to say hun, because i've had this prob aswell, i'm actually inviting cousins off my mom's side to the whole day and then cousins off my dad's side and h2b's cousins are only being invited for the evening, it's a tough 1 isn't it x