Hi everyone, just need some advice on the type of vows that can be said at a civil cermony. I've provisionally booked my superintendant registrar for my civil ceremony at the hotel and I really have no idea what kind of vows are said as I've never been to a civil ceremony before.
We won't be writing our own vows so I wanted to know what are the standard/traditional vows that are used? Do you get to say the whole "love and cherish from this day till death do us part" and "I do" type stuff?
CommentAuthorMrsC.Wade2B
A civil ceremony still contains certain statutory words and vows, which must be said to make your marriage legal, but they are fairly brief and you can add your own vows, non-religious readings and music to personalise the service. As long as you include the legal wording from the Marriage Act, the format of the ceremony and the wording of the service is pretty much up to you.
Samples : Why not try… I promise to love and respect you and to put energy into keeping our love alive. I will be there for you in good times and bad. I will help you when you need help and make space for you to be yourself. I will try to bring you happiness.
I will dedicate myself to you wholeheartedly. I will make time for you and support you in everything you do. I will help you to raise our children to become loving people, and support you in the fundamental role of parent.
I pledge my life to you. I will love, honour and respect you in happy and sad times. I promise to be faithful to only you as long as we both live.
I __, promise to love and cherish you__, for the rest of your life. I will try to bring laughter to your life, and make you happy, I will consider you in the decisions I have to make, and value your opinions. Today I vow to be your husband/wife for the rest of our lives.
I will seek to always be loving unto you. I will share you joys and your sorrows, and will be devoted unto you until the ultimate parting.
__, I __, take you to be my husband/wife. To have, to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish till death us do part, and this is my solemn vow.
Tomorrow is never promised to anyone, So Dance until your
feet ache, Laugh until your side hurts,
Say I Love You to those you love
For tomorrow may never come x
CommentAuthorP
Thankyou Claire, so using your last example I can pretty much have the similar part of traditional vows but it will just be without the "I Do" part. I think I'll use that one. Does the registrar give you a list of these or something?
CommentAuthorMrsC.Wade2B
The words you have to say The minimum vows required for your civil marriage to be legal are as follows. These words must be said by both of you in your ceremony. You will usually be allowed to add your own choice of vows before or after the statutory ones.
In England and Wales the statutory declaration is: I do solemnly declare that I know not of any lawful impediment why I, __may not be joined in matrimony to __
It is followed by these contracting words: I call upon these persons here present to witness that I, __do take thee, __, to be my lawful wedded husband/wife.
There are also two legal alternative declarations. Declarations: I know of no legal reason why I, __, may not be joined in marriage to __. Or by relying ‘I am’ top the question: Are you, __ free lawfully to marry__?
These are followed by the contract: I, __, take you,__ to be my wedded wife/husband. Or I, __ take thee, __ to be my wedded wife/husband
In Scotland the couple say: I solemnly declare that I know of no legal impediment why I, __, may not be joined in matrimony to__. I accept.
In Northern Ireland the statutory declaration is: I know of no lawful impediment why I, __, may not be joined in matrimony to, __, to be my lawful wedded husband/wife
Tomorrow is never promised to anyone, So Dance until your
feet ache, Laugh until your side hurts,
Say I Love You to those you love
For tomorrow may never come x
CommentAuthorFreyFreyMrs.Carney2B
You'll get a pack through once you've booked and given notice of marriage. The pack contains vows to choose from or you can write your own and have them checked by the registrar. They are pretty much similar to the above ones x
nope i just researched them, legal vows for civil ceremony because i knew that if you got married at an approved premises you can have your own vows however there was some vows you have to say/use that is legal requirement in order for you to be deemed married xx
Tomorrow is never promised to anyone, So Dance until your
feet ache, Laugh until your side hurts,
Say I Love You to those you love
For tomorrow may never come x
CommentAuthorP
Okay thanks, i can't give notice until august this year so I suppose I will get all the information then =D
CommentAuthorsuzky123
ask them to send you a sample of the types of vows that are the option. Ours gave us a website that we can visit with all of these details on :)
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I am going to write mine by chopping and changing some of the stuff below to suit.
These I Can Promise, by Anonymous I cannot promise you a life of sunshine; I cannot promise riches, wealth, or gold; I cannot promise you an easy pathway That leads away from change or growing old. But I can promise all my heart's devotion; A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow; A love that's ever true and ever growing; A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow. Yes, I'll Marry You
Wedding Verse #2: I Love You... I love you. You are my best friend. Today I give myself to you in marriage. I promise to encourage and inspire you, to laugh with you, and to comfort you in times of sorrow and struggle. I promise to love you in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when our love is simple, and when it is an effort. I promise to cherish you, and to always hold you in highest regard. These things I give to you today, and all the days of our life. ----------------------------------------------------------------- Wedding Verse #3: Our Pledge We pledge to each other to be loving friends and partners in marriage. To talk and to listen, to trust and appreciate one another; to respect and cherish each other's uniqueness; and tosupport, comfort and strengthen each other through life's joys and sorrows. We promise to share hopes, thoughts and dreams as we build our lives together. May our lives be ever intertwined, our love keeping us together. We will build a home that is compassionate to all, full of respect and honor for others and each other. May our home be forever filled with peace, happiness and love. Wedding Verse #8: I Promise, by Dorothy R. Colgane I promise to give you the best of myself and to ask of you no more than you can give.
I promise to respect you as your own person and to realize that your interests, desires and needs are no less important than my own.
I promise to share with you my time and my attention and to bring joy, strength, and imagination to our relationship.
I promise to keep myself open to you, to let you see through the window of my world into my innermost fears and feelings, secrets and dreams.
I promise to grow along with you, to be willing to face changes in order to keep our relationshipalive and exciting. I promise to love you in good times and bad, with all I have to give and all I feel inside in the only way I know Completely and forever. Wedding Verse #10: I take you as my partner... I take you as my partner, my friend and my love. My hopes and dreams will now be intermingled with yours. I will seek to balance my needs with those of our community and family. I will openly draw from our combined experience and feelings in our search for truth and meaning. I will strive for harmony through compromise and understanding.
I will be forgiving, but not complacent. From this day forward, I take shared responsibility for our marriage, family, community and myself, regardless of our successes or failures.
I promise to be faithful and true to you in mind, body, and spirit; to cherish you and respect you; and to be a source of comfort and encouragement, free and bound by our love, as long as we shall live.
CommentAuthorSophie Sherwood to b
Im just going thru my list from Kirklees council (huddersfield) and Im not too happy to be stating as it seems
for example
Option 1 - I do solemnly declare that I know of any lawful reason why I "Sophie-Jane" may not form a civil partnership with "Kim" Option 2 - I declare that I know of no lawful reason why I "Sophie-Jane" may not form a civil partnership with "Kim"
By looking at other examples Ive seen online, from other wedding sites, They are saying Marriage or Matrimony
Now Im confused, as Kirklees state on this form that we must use their statutory wording
I really do detest the Civil patnership part, its a Marriage, and yes ok a marriage is a partnership but it doesnt need to be ground in that were forming a civil partnership? or does it?
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CommentAuthorMrs Q - Weegie
I was watching DTTB last night and it was a male civil partnership, and that was the wording they used :S
at the end she said I can now pronounce you legally civil partners.. All you can do is as your regitrar :S they may allow you to add some of your own in xx
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CommentAuthorPaula
Contact the registrar as they seem to vary x
CommentAuthorSophie Sherwood to b
It seems i will need to contact the registrar, have to arrange a meeting with her in a couple of weeks to go thru our ceremony.
I fear that until the Law is changed to give gay couples REAL equality as in a civil Marriage, then I just have to go with civil partnership, oh well another wedding day for Kim and I, or do i have to get divorced to do that and then get properly married lol
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14th August 2011
This ugly duckling will become a swan :-)
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
we are going to be repeating the vows we say at our 1st wedding in america at our 2nd in uk
Gah! I thought we had ours sorted. We were planning on saying:
I (name), take you, (name), to be my beloved husband/wife, to have and to hold you, to honour you, to treasure you, to be at your side in sorrow and in joy, and to love and cherish you always.
Unfortunately our registrar has told us we can't use "to have and to hold", as this is said in the Solemnization of Marriage as used in church. Will have to have a rethink!
