I know how you feel. I organised the whole wedding by myself really. I asked for input from hubby and the reply I got was 'whatever'. He came to the venue and he decided as well that we were not going to look elsewhere. I asked him to be the one to sort the mens suits out. Just because we were near the place which hires them we popped in just to look and ended up putting deposits down. In a way I am glad I was there as he would have chosen something with purple in, which is what I did not want for the men. I chose green to go with the purple as I refused to have the men in purple.

The thing that annoyed me with him is that I organised the table plan, decided it would be nice that we had us and our children on the top table, his reply was oh do I not get a say in this????!!!!!!!! I could not believe it.

What is your budget on your dress?? how many have you tried on and have you tried different styles?

Oh hun you are not alone!! It isn't just the men either, it appears in each couple there will always be the one who plans and the one who doesn't. My wife doesn't! I'm OCD planner great combo huh?

We found our dresses online not a option for most ladies but for us it worked. Have a look at bridal shops within a bus journey or two away? Maybe even try to plan a mini hen do with your moh to go dress hunting in another city?

My h2bs replies are "if u want" "whatever u thinks best" to the ppint ive sorted the whole wedding literaly everything and now hes sayin hes not had a say?! After askin n askin i got nothing so done it lol.. aparently mam has got in the way bt she hasnt shes overly excited but she has said loada of times she wud step bk and let oh go to places etc n she wud watch the kids for us bt when i asked he says no its fine etc..

Id say its a man thing but his cousin has planned his wedding and shes just had to choose her dress!

Know the feeling Ive just asked OH what still needs to be done for the wedding his response 'I dont know youve got it under control, Yu tell me what I need to do' pig He has been put in charge of the honeymoon and he was asking allsorts of questions which is good but he is so indecisive. I said we could go to Mauritius ages ago but because he goes out there to work he said no (Hes not seen very much of the island other than the offices lol).

Everyone goes through this at varying points I think. I did at a few stages too and everything came together in the end. I do think it's rather slack on his side that he isn't doing so much though as a wedding is a joint celebration. I guess some men are just like that, mine was obsessed with lists during the planning stages and he was really organised but overly so, which was what used to annoy me x

It would be worth looking at pre-owned dresses, on sites like the bay and pre l0ved. Also look at local classifieds, and see if any of the shops in your area are selling samples. I got my dress for half price as a sample.

Yes I think that ma be an option to get she who can't be named to make my dream dress. I had a look at some sample dresses but they just wernt me and unfortunately someone had already brought my dress one from the shop where I tried it.

I asked oh back in Aug to do me a provisional guest list bearing in mind that we only have 40 day time guests. I have a large very close not family of about 60 and his side is much smaller. I was so angry with him in the end I asked his mum to help me with his side.

I'm stil waiting for his evening list..... I've threatened to go into his work and get names if he dosent do it soon!

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Hey don't beat yourself up planning a wedding is a HUGE thing youre allowed to feel stressed and anxious that's normal, give yourself some positive praise...youre the one doing everything...that on it's own deserves some praise! :D Stay positive and focused..don't expect to get everything done all at once..take little steps do little jobs and enjoy it :) And as for the dress have you tried factory outlet stores? There are loads up and down the country..try there for a beautiful bargain :) xxx

I have been in the same situation myself. I was having a very stressful time at the beginning of planning my wedding two months ago, as I thought that the H2B wasn't actually interested in anything because all he kept saying that it was my choice. After a while and the closer it got he actually has been more interested and actually helping me plan the wedding day.

It seems we aren't alone. I was speaking to a new guy at work and he is getting married the end of August. He said he hates having to give any input to the wedding as he wants his future bride to be to have the wedding she wants that's she has chose.

Oh god, looks like we've all gone through those Moments! Mine has been venue hunting, I just cannot find one that I like enough to commit to that's in budget, and until then, I won't even think of trying on dresses, god help me when I do, as I have Champagne tastes, on a beer budget!
I got a bit upset about the lack of 'help' I feel I have been receiving from OH's end,a dn he admitted that the reason why he hasmt been helping, is because he hasn't got a clue what to suggest! I know all about candelabras, fishbowls, flowers for centrepieces etc, but ask him what he wants as a centrepiece, and his reply is 'what are the options?'!! Well, there's about a Million, mate! Haha! So we've come to a compromise, and I will still be doing most of the creative leg work (which, in all honesty, I prefer doing anyways), then I will narrow it down to the ones I can't choose between, then together we will decide. I know it's hard, when you want them to have a creative input so it doesn't just feel like YOUR Wedding, you want it to be about he both of you, but maybe is just totally overwhelmed by all that's out there?
TBF to my OH though, he has been pretty good with venue hunting, as he's been driving us up and down the neighbouring Counties for the last few months!

Oh, and isn't if funny how they want a say In the things that you NEVER thought they would want a say in?! I was adamant that I wanted an adults only Wedding (besides the flower girls), whereas he insisted that he wanted All the Kids there! Needless to say, after explaining my views on that subject, I quickly got my own way! Thank God for that! Couldn't believe it was the one thing he was trying to Strong-arm me into!
Good luck Hun Xx

Fiance gave his first opinion about the wedding last week lol He said that 20 miles was too far away for the guests move from the ceremony to the reception lol So I've found a new venue, and now he is ok with that for now lol But he is always saying that we still have over two years and that I should go slowly... ¬¬

It's a very good post. Many people think planning a wedding is all romance & fluffy bunnies etc, but it really can be an emotional rollercoaster. One minute excited, happy etc. Then feeling down, thinking about money, planning, families etc. Having months where planning grinds to a halt. It does all come good in the end, but it is good to have other people on here who understand.