Sending you big hugs and masses of squishy loves. I'm so sorry it worked out this way but better you find out now than 5/10 years into your marriage. If you have fond memories (it sounds like you do) then that's a bonus.
I hope you find someone who is deserving of you
xxx

*Big Hugs* I think you are making the right decision though, if he is like this before he puts the ring on your finger what will he be like when you're married.

My H2B had an issue with my mother when we first got together, he decided that she was looking at him "funny" and felt my parents were looking down their noses at him. I pointed out that my mother had difficutly seeing and hearing and this was why she was like that. After months of him refusing to go to my parents house, he finally admitted that he was being stupid and childish and now gets on really well with my folks, to the point where he kisses my mum on her cheek when he sees her.

I couldn't have stayed with him if he had continued to be like that as my family and i are very close, but he comes from a seperated family and never really sees them so until i pointed out how much he was upsetting me, he had no idea what he was doing was cruel.

The rift has cleared up so much, that even though we decided no one was coming to our wedding my parents said they really wanted to and he has said if that is the case, then he's happy for them to be there and my dad to give me away........but as mentioned a marriage (relationship actually) is all about give and take, and if your partner can't see how much he is upsetting you and change his behaviour then he is more than likely to get worse once you are married as he will see that he has "won" this time and will continue to expect you to "behave" as he wants.

So sorry for you, as you've being together for a long time, but better now than later on. xx