Aw hun I would be a bit pee'd off too.

However, a wedding in the family often turns other members minds to marriage, so it is quite a common situation. It is insensitive doing it so close to when you got engaged, you'd have thought he'd have the sense to wait a few months.

Sounds like this is a bit of a whim for him, maybe he is jealous of the fuss being made over you? After all, seven months is a very short time to be together before getting engaged if that is the case, it is unlikely the wedding will go ahead anyway.

Don't let it get to you though. Your special day is about you and the person you love...don't let him degenerate it into a childish sibling rivalry.

If you think he is genuine about wanting to get married to this lass and has just not thought about how you might feel, your just going to have to grit your teeth, grin and bear it and try your best t be happy for him.

At least you'll have someone to talk about wedding planning to! Xx

I swear one person in the family decides to get married and others around the same age who are in relationships seem to think "oh sh*t I can't miss out on this" and get married within a year of each other.

I'm in a similar situation, SIL2B is getting married in two years from around about now and at the moment it's all her wedding her wedding her wedding. It's annoying cause though I am happy for her I just wanna scream can I have my wedding first before everything has to be about you!?

The wedding bug definitely spreads fast, we got married 9 weeks ago and my older brother got engaged 6 days before - he was planning to do it during our wedding weekend, which I want happy about, apparently because it was handy that all the relatives were around from overseas - for MY wedding!! And only yesterday I helped my younger brother choose an E Ring for his girlfriend so he can propose in September! Thankfully now I'm out of siblings!

I was engaged for just 5 days before my sister (who had already booked a venue) decided to just buy herself a ring and say she was not engaged and expected a family get together to celebrate also!

He wedding is july next year, we pushed ours back to december to be different but she see's everything as a competition! The only advice i can give is just dont rise to it, my whole family now see her for the attention seeker she is, and say our wedding is about the relationship. Like you i am broke (student) whilst my sister is in a very good job, but she is throwing money around, buying things i never could.

At the end of the day as much as it suck, you are different people and on your wedding the day the only people that will matter are you and your OH, just do things how you want and everyine will see what a ood day it will be!!

Oh dear hun. This can be quite common, sibling rivalry and also rivalry between friends and cousins when everyone gets the wedding bug and tries to either out do eachother or have their days so close together. My cousin got engaged before me but I actually set my date first, he was really dragging his heels on setting the date so I gave up in the end trying to accommdate his date so there wasn't a clash and just booked, I still don't actually have the precise date of his wedding but I understand it's approx 4 weeks before mine, oh well, I don't care, the people who want to be there for me and H2B will and anyone who doesn't come, well it's their loss.

My sister said to me that my wedding will be so much grander than hers ...............I actually feel guilty about it, yes H2B and I have a little more money to throw at it but I'm 6 years older than her so have a little more money saved plus he has more in the bank than BIL and his dad is giving us more than BIL parents gave them for their wedding (our parents gave us equal amounts). The last thing I want to do is to "out shine" my sisters wedding but our themes are practically identical for cultural reasons. I actually feel bad when I spend more on something than she does, plus I'm having the Church wedding that she wanted but couldn't have (her hubby is JW so it'd never happen). I just keep reminding myself that the wedding is about me and H2B so we will have what we want within reason but it's not a competition.

She had her day and I will have mine. The same will go for you too hunni, your brother will have his wedding day then you will have yours and it'll be perfect for you, on the day, noone will take your day away from you and all happy attention and focus will be on you and your H2B.

I know it's hard but try to just concentrate on your day and what it means to you and enjoy the build up to it xx

Aww EmilyA32 i no how you feel my sister has been married for 12 year and was supposed to renew her vows last year but put it off due to moving n sed it was gona be this year now they have changed there mind and its gona be in november 2015 same year as me they are having a full blown wedding again as her mil took over 1st one.... my niece whom i'm close to has bn engaged a few year and was looking at 2013/2014 we have now found out they are getting married valentines day 2015 ( we was gona av that date till we changed venue ) so i feel like they av stolen my thunder but just hope all the family can afford 3 weddings that year as mine is at a pretty expensive place and 1 of my sisters (niece's mam) has already sed she cudnt afford it was thro drink and after a little tiff as i sed why dont she put a £1 a week away till wedding and she sed she cudnt afford it altho she has money for her drink but she has always bn poor wit money... i just hope my sister doesnt have the same things as me as we have similar tastes i've noticed wen we were shopping last year for her, seen as her wedding vowel renewal is after my wedding there is some things i am keeping secret from them so they dont copy. I am also maid of honour for both of them so wedding dress shopping shud be fun and the hen partys lol.. x

i cant understand y people would do a full blown "wedding" (coz lets face it its not) when theyre already married! yes fine renew your vows but what a waste of money! Sorry starbabe but ur sis is mad lol!
my sis has jokingly said shes gonna get married b4 us (shes not even engaged) and as soon as she said it me, mum an dad where like NO!
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I know how your feeling we told our familys we were getting married in august this year, But back in january this year h2bs brother got engaged to his girlfriend of 5 years and they got married in june this year! His family didnt even want to know about anything about our wedding and h2bs mum and dad just moaned that we couldnt afford to go due to paying for our own wedding! But now there married and had the reception its alot better, Mil2b doesnt talk about there wedding shes been really helpful, I really wouldnt worry :)

Hi Lilmisschuckles yea i know she is but she wants to av everything that she originally wanted it was quite rushed as her hubby was in the army & only had a few days leave she was married at 19 while pregnant with her 2nd child and the mil took over, my sisters dress's train was longer than her actual dress lol some bridesmaids wore multi flowered purple dresses the older ones were in bright pink not a good look when ur huge after just giving birth 6month before ( ie meaning me).. x