Hi all, i would like my bm's to walk before me and dad down the aisle. I want everyobe to see their lovely dresses etc then the last to walk down is me and dad. My mum said that this isnt "normal" (what is?!) and they they should walk behind me as they are my attendants. What are you all doing? Sarah xx
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CommentAuthormtwi
in canada it is definitely bm first then bride & dad - I have seen both here. It's your wedding - you should be able to choose what you want - no such thing as normal these days anyway! :) good luck!
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CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
I want my 2 adults walking in front of me, and then the 2 flower girls with basket so they are scattering roses before me and then my page boy with the cushion and then I would follow, or cause pageboy is quite young he might walk with his mum, my sister/bm, and I would have a special song for them then when Arrival of queen of Sheba starts I will be walking
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CommentAuthorMrs Davro
I think tradition is bride first bm following. However most people now do bm first as otherwise it ends up being 'aww doesn't the bride look nice oh yea the bridesmaids'. I'm having bm first then me.
CommentAuthorMrs Badger
I've seen it done both ways, personally I prefer bridesmaids walking down the isle first. Don't worry about what people say, you should choose the order you want- don't scrap any idea because it isn't 'normal' every wedding and every couple is different. Do what makes you happy. xx
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I had my planning meeting with the registrar on friday and she said that she would suggest bms enter first and get seated and clear the aisle so that when i walk in all eyes are on me but the bms get their moment of glory as well.
CommentAuthorMrsDanks
I am having my two daughters who are my flower girls walking before me scattering rose petals and then behind me will be my only bridesmaid carrying my train. As others have said though, its your wedding so you should do it your way. And I have been to a wedding where the bridesmaids all went first, it's just personal choice, some traditions can be broken surely. xx
CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
In the USA it's the attendants that walk down first too. That's what I had any way and I think it's nice. My MoH was there at the alter before me and ready to take my bouquet without me having to do an awkward shuffle to turn round and give it to her. Worked perfectly for us :)
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CommentAuthorEcoFreak
I like it the American way too - probably cos thats the way it is in the movies lol! Just seems more of a build up to the bride :) Do it whichever way you want hun Xx
CommentAuthorsamitrev2B
as i want my mum to have a bit of a day as she has always been there my step dad who is my dad as he has been there since i was 5 n well he is a great man :) is atually walking me down the isle :) im having my mum walk dwn with our children as they r 18months n 4 but he has DS then the other fgs n page boys in front they r gonna sit dwn then me n dad then junior bms n adults behind xx
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
My girls are walking down the aisle before me. they are going one at a time, so that people can see them without the whole rush of them being behind me. it gives them their 15 minutes of fame. then that also leaves the way clear for me and my son to walk down alone. and they will be at the alter waiting for me, and also, it doesnt look so cramped.
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
mine are walking in first , they are my daughters and i want them to have their moment
Yes Bridesmaids in front is the American way and behind is the british way
but I agree with Lala that in front is better to let them have their moment. If you were at a wedding and the bride came in and the attendants behind, if you're like me you'd be more interested in watching the Bride most likely, so would only really give a cursory glance to the Bridesmaids behind before switching your attention back to the Bride. And after all the effort of looking for perfect Bridesmaids dresses to have hardly anyone pay attention! Arghhhhh LOL
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CommentAuthorSijen
I'm sending my bridesmaid down first as I want her to have a moment in the spotlight too.
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CommentAuthorSijen
Actually I've just had a thought, My BM is my sister so I might go very American and send her down with my brother (an usher) then she won't feel too exposed.
What do you think about that?
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CommentAuthorElle23
Yep im Planning on BM in front x Do what you want hun. I think its becoming more popular than them going behind now x
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CommentAuthorJill
Mine will be going first, like others have said I want them to be seen in their beautiful dresses, plus it adds to the build up.
Might have to have h2b standing with a fruit shoot at the altar though - some encouragement for my son to walk down the aisle without me lol flower girls dad will need to be sitting close to front at the outside too or she'll not be feeling walking down the aisle when her mum who'll be a bm x
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CommentAuthorPB
I think i will probably have my flowergirl(my daughter) go first ,then my moh,then me and my Dad.Not sure how it will work though,do they have differnet music to me? xxx
CommentAuthorSijen
I was going to have a differnt piece of music for my BM to walk down to, then a more bridal piece for me and my dad. DOn't know what yet though!
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CommentAuthorJakesmummy
I'm having my bridesmaids before me, i think i'm going to have my 2 page boys go in together first side by side and then ive got 4 bridesmaids so they are going to in 1 by 1 and then me and my dad, not got different music though, didnt think of that..thats one to think about xx
CommentAuthorJakesmummy
or do page boys hold my train???
CommentAuthorSijen
I wouldn't have pageboys holding the train...How old are they?
I always thought the Chief BM / MOH held it.
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
sijen I am having different music for the bridesmaids. They are walking to 'over the rainbow' Izzy version, and I am walking to 'Songbird' by Eva Cassidy.
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CommentAuthorJules
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I think that this is just a personal choice and you should have exactly what you want. I know when I was a bridesmaid years ago that we followed the bride. We were actually discussing this last night and we were thinking of having 2 older bridesmaids first 1 middle bridesmaid & 1 pageboy 2 pageboys 1 Maid of Honour 2 Flower girls Me & my dad last
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CommentAuthorSijen
I love those songs RaggedyAnne.
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CommentAuthorUnknown
i dont know what the traditional way is but at mine i had my page boy and flower girl walk first, then me and my dad and then the other 2 bm
CommentAuthorJakesmummy
2 and 5 Sijen, no i dont want them to really i just suddenly thought thats what they did for some reason, i have just been thinking id like bridesmaids to walk into "over the rainbow" we have a pianist playing for us throughout the ceremony and his version is gorgeous, and me and my dad are walking in to him playing and singing, you are so beautiful by joe cocker, as h2b always uused to sing it to me when we first started dating and id never heard it and though he had made it up lol x
CommentAuthorMrs Wilson x
Thanks Girls! Have decided in bm's first I think xx
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CommentAuthorOWB
Glad you've decided, I think we're going for the American way too; Flowegirl, Bridesmaid and Usher (x2), me.
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CommentAuthorlows
Im having my flowergirl first scattering flower petals, then my 2 bm's either 1 by 1 or together not sure just yet. Then me and dad. My SIL had her flower girl and page boy first and then the bridesmaids and ushers in pairs then her and her dad. Was very american but its all personal choice. If you want your girls to have their moment then they should go first but if you want total traditional british then its you first then all of the attendants.
CommentAuthorvicki
I'm having my 2 bms go first with my pb then my MOH then me and my Dad
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
i'm sending the flower girl first, teens next, and then the adults just in front of me! they cant go behind because the room is teeny and once i get to the front there wont be any space for them to sneak past :o)
