Ok ever since I chose my bridesmaids, they have all kinda pissed me off a bit. First off all I had one drop out after a week, then another fell pregnant a few weeks later which was cool becos she was due at the end of the year but then he dropped out a few weeks later becos having another kid meant she couldn't afford it. I know obviously she is entitled to have babies lol, but she was my best friend and knew about my wedding for ages! Anyway I now have three bridesmaids after choosing another to replace my friend. But it honestly feels sometimes like they aren't even interested in helping me with it talking about the wedding! Everytime I suggest doing something bridesmaidy, ie dress shopping, they can't b bothered. The dresses now have to be paid for, something they all knew about for weeks now after we found some on the off chance and in totally strugglig with getting the money! All of them say they have no money yet spend spend on other things. I now want to order my flowers but don't want to till dresses ordered and it seems like a big struggle, sometimes even like I'm annoying them with asking! I jut thought that they might have been a little more excited about it especially as they were when I asked them. I feel like I'm missing out on bride/ bridesmaid time. Is this normal? The only thing people interested In is the hen weekend and even then I haven't even had a reply from one of my bridesmaids! Feel a little disappointed! Rant over!

My bridesmaid doesn't know anything about my wedding really. She hasn't helped me with anything, didn't have any interest in her dress till recently when she decided she's going to get her mum to make it. Which is weird, but whatever. Point is I know she'll be there for me on the day and that's why I asked her.

It does suck when people don't relish their roles though.

Oh hun you poor thing, it must be so upsetting and frustrating. Have you tried speaking to them about how you feel? Maybe if they're just not cutting it as BM's then you should just cut them before they become more hassle and let you down nearer the time.

I agree with the other ladies, being asked to be BM and MOH is such an honour and so special, I've been MOH for my sister and BM for two cousins and I really have worked hard to do what the bride wants plus more to help and support them and make their day and the run up to it as special as possible. I've been blessed with a MOH (my sister) and BM (my best mate) and my mum too who have all been so keen to come with me to all the dress shops etc. that they can possibly make it to and even have their diaries out before me they're so keen and eager to help me so I cannot understand why BM's would do that to their family/friends when asked and accept the role.

BIG HUG and hope you can sort things out so that you get the support, help and excitement you deserve xxx

When is your wedding hun?
xx

My OH had to pay for one of the bm dresses as its a month and a half later and she still hasn't paid. My other bm has still not paid becos of fInancial issues and moving house, apparently only having enough money for rent and not even enough to cover food bills, but then goes out on the piss last weekend and hardly returns my calls, txts. She is my favourite cousin and up till now I was really close but she has really let me down and I'm reluctant to send her a pissed off MSG becos I don't want to cause bad feeling!

It's times like these you really do find out what people are really like. I've been fortunate in that my MOH who is the adult one has been great, and the other three are younger and basically I chose for them!