My best friend came with me to look for my wedding dress , I told her I was looking for a fishtail/mermaid type dress, I found one in another friends shop not quite a mermaid type but was assured the dressmaker could take it in how ever I wanted, and I wanted it tight fitting and flared at the bottom...so I have bought the dress and cant wait to get it fitted to how I want it....my friend tells me the other day she has just ordered a dress for my wedding in blue, she showed me a pic and ITS A MERMAID fitted dress ! I didnt know what to say.. Ive decided not to have mine taken in that much now...am I being over sensitive or would other brides be bit peeved if their best friends done this..I havent said anything to her didnt want to make things awkward, I know mine would be different as it has a train and bit more sparkly but I think if I was going to a wedding and knew the bride was having a paticular style of dress I definately would get one in same style.......or am I having a bridezilla moment ???
CommentAuthorGriff
I would be a bit peeved but how similar is the dress really? besides which a mermaid fitted dress is a bit ott to wear to the wedding unless you're a bridesmaid or the bride xx
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I don't think she would have intentionally gone out to try and upstage you in anyway. She probably never gave it a second thought that her dress is anything like yours as it is blue and also doesn't have a train etc. She would have just thought pretty dress. I would very much doubt that anyone will think anything of her dress as they will all be looking at you :)
CommentAuthorRachie :D
I would be hurt too especially as she's seen the dress. But tbh she probably never intended it that way. Why not have a word with her and just tell her how you feel. If she truly is your best friend she won't be upset and will hopefully see your side of it xxxx
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CommentAuthorlemlau
i would be well annoyed and would prob have to say something!!
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I'm a bit confused - is her dress also a long dress? Is she a bridesmaid or just a normal guest? Are you having a very formal do? I'm just not sure as a normal guest I would ever go to a wedding in something that made me look like I was trying to be part of the bridal party if I wasn't..... Normally female guests at a wedding, whilst wearing a nice dress, definitely don't tend to wear evening dress or formal gown type dresses.....
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CommentAuthorKatie
I agree with Faeth and Lemlau its odd that she would wear such a formal dress and I think you should say something to her as thats not on at all!!
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CommentAuthorMinniemoocher
I would be very peeved! you don't really want anyone wearing anything similar - esp if they already know what you're wearing - I'd have to say something...in a nice way! ;0
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i would be peed off too sounds a bit strange wanting to wear that type of dress??!?! x
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CommentAuthordebjane11
Its not a 'posh' do at all .just registry office then local club...shes not a bridesmaid or anything..the other thing too is she is married to my h2b's brother and he is best man...and when I was talking bout the hiring of the suits for my man, best man and my son (who is giving me away) and my h2b's son...she said her son may as well have same hired suit too !! and that he may as well go in car with groom and best man ( his dad) !! I was gobsmaked..theres no way he be going in the grooms men car and if she wants him in the suit she can sort it...but faeth you have hit the nail on the head its like she wants to be part of the bridal party...oh and yeah the dress is long...and shes said they r going to hire a limo too !!
CommentAuthorRachie :D
So are her and her hubby renewing their vows too and paying for half the party? Sorry but it sounds like she wants her day again
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
OK now that would get my back up and if I were you I would talk to her and say how it is making you feel upstaged as you should be the ones turning up in the posh car not them. She is going well over the line. Unless you talk to her about it she will carry on doing it so let her know how you feel now before it gets further out of hand. You don't have to be nasty about it. Just explain how what she is doing is making you feel.
CommentAuthorlovelylainee
burn her dress - joke - but seriously tell her how you feel about the dress choice she has made because she may be unaware that it is too similar and when you talk about things she may save the dress she has gone for to wear to another occasion xxx
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CommentAuthorlinzi
she is your best friend. So tell her. Simples! Especially if she is already married and knows exactly how bridezilla we can get.
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CommentAuthorfuture-mrs-watson
Sounds like she's being guest-zilla to me! Put her straight :) xx
CommentAuthorGriff
Ok you really need to get this sorted she seems to be taking the p*ss. She is getting a formal dress, hiring a limo and trying to push into the bridal party group. This has to stop. You need to tell her in no uncertain terms that she is upsetting you and this is your day not hers so if she wants to keep her invite she needs to back off stealing your thunder xxx
CommentAuthorMrsMac2B
Limo, OTT dress and more or less trying to force her son in the grooms party? she sounds like the guest from hell! Shes your friend so just talk to her and tell her what you think, I think shes way out of order, I would have to say something xx
CommentAuthorBride to be!
I agree with xjox, I would just sit down with her and talk to her about it. Make sure you tell her that it's nice she wants to pull out all the stops but remind her that it's your day not hers. If she's thinking of hiring a limo, she seems line she likes attention, so ask her how she would feel if someone did it to her-that may be the way to get her to see what she is doing by putting her in your situation. Chances are she will just have got carried away and not realised. Needs knocking on the head though before she tells you she may swell walk down the isle with you!
CommentAuthorMaggielou
Don't let it bother u hun, focus on u looking fabulous, glowing & have amazing confidence! U don't want some1s odd decision to ruin ur day. Did she maybe buy something in the sale or thought ud like it?
CommentAuthorFaeth
Thinking about it, if you don't fancy the hassle of trying to raise it with her, leave her be. If her dress doesn't match the bridesmaids colour, no-one will think she is a bridesmaid, and if she turns up in a limo etc, chances are everyone will just start wondering what on earth she is up to. The only attention she is likely to get is the unwelcome kind - no-one is impressed by a guest at a wedding trying to upstage the bride ;p
We had one at a recent wedding - best man's wife - she kept trying to stand out, and all most of us could think is "what *does* she think she's doing?!"
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CommentAuthorRoseyB
She won't upstage the bride don't worry, but she may look odd to other guests, by having a word you'll be doing her a favour. She's gonna look daft to be honest. Are you having bridesmaids? What are they wearing? Why isn't your best friend a bridesmaid? Maybe she's a bit disappointed not to be included??? Just a suggestion? Xx
CommentAuthorKerrylou
I agree with Faeth. There's 1 in every wedding who feels the need to try and upstage the bride and take over the day in general and the rest of the guests always snigger behind their back. Easier said than done but don't let her get to you. Get your dress altered into the style you want, if you don't then it's a small victory to her. You my lovely will look totally amazing and she'll look like a sad wannabe, keep that image in your head ;)
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CommentAuthorSANDRASFLOWERS
who's going to be in her limo? Her husband is in grooms car and if she wants her son in there won't she be the only one!!! I would have a word, could you organise a night out for the 4 of you and discuss it generally. Then you don't seem to be having a go and she can back off gracefully.
CommentAuthordebjane11
Thankyou for all your replies, I didnt ask her to be bridesmaid as we only wanted my daughter and his daughter to be the bridesmaids, she has two young daughters and I think she thought I would have them... so maybe shes a bit peeved about that..I dont know....I will have the dress fitted how I want and I wont let it bother me anymore....if she does hire a limo (which will have her daughters and father and his partner in it ) they will look daft, if she mentions the limo again I will make a point of saying that I thought she was joking about it..maybe she will get the hint, her son will def not be going in the wedding car with groom and best man, I will make sure she knows that in conversations about the wedding. The dress was the final straw, I havent mentiond this to anyone as I thought it was in my head, but now you have all replied the way you have I will sort it....thank you ladies xxx
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CommentAuthorclareabella
r u sure she dont wanna be the bride
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
do u know lol thats almost as bad as her turning up in white..... oh or the MIL turning up in white haha...i'd be well miffed !! x
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CommentAuthorMousykins
Even if you don't manage to talk to her and she does wear the ridiculous dress... everyone will think she's ridiculous. ;)
CommentAuthordebjane11
OMG the dress in blue is out of stock....she has now ordered it in silver.......I think as long as I am holding my flowers people will know im the bride ...lol x
CommentAuthorboo
I'd tell her straight she couldn't wear it, blue is one thing but silver is another matter imo
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CommentAuthorEmsy5000
I would feel rubbish if a friend did that did she think it was a theam or something.
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CommentAuthorKaya
Why are some people soo stupid? Why would you wear a dress similar to the brides to a wedding? Makes me angry!!
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CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
You're not alone- I'd be pretty miffed too. Especially if it was a best friend doing that- who wears a similar dress to the bride to her wedding? And silver? Seriously, she might as well wear the same gown as you and be done with it! Tell her how you feel- she may have been unintentional with this and will change her dress. Or, if you think she did it on purpose, leave her to it and she will be very obvious in her ploy to steal thunder. She won't be getting any compliments for that!
CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
think it is pretty wrong of her, i think you should accidently spill red wine down it! lol
CommentAuthorpennieb-MrsRiley
You really need to have a word with her, and ask her how she would have felt in your shoes. If she insists, then perhaps suggest that she might be more comfortable wearing such a formal dress to come just to the evening reception, and skip the daytime completely... I'm sure, given a choice of wearing the dress and missing out on the day or finding something different to wear that she will choose the latter :P
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
How about losing her invite? Or stating on the invite that guests are not allowed to wear the same colour or style as the bridal party? ;)
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hahaha jo..... i like it !!
CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
Wow I'd be very hurt (boarding angry) if my best friend behaved like that I mean Its your wedding and it sounds like your best friend has a bit of bride envy. I would def try and talk to her maybe just the two of you though incase this was completely innocent and she hasn't got a clue that she's trying to steal the show. If she's doing it to spite you maybe she's trying to tell you she's feeling left out or something? Good luck :-)
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CommentAuthorboo
I was seriously considering that on my invites. I went to a wedding a few weeks back and one of the friends there was wearing a knee length red dress (the brides dress had the same colour red in it). Everyone thought she was a bridesmaid at the reception
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