Just wondered after seeing all the comments under the Wedding Related Rants category whether every B2B has an argument with someone at some point when planning their wedding and if it's just the norm?! Be it H2B's, Family. BMs it certainly seems there's alot going on?!?
In the past few months H2B and I have definately had a few ups and downs and disagreements concerning the wedding and had to take a few times out to remember why we're getting married in the first place. Then last week my MOH (Sister) and I had an argument then vented our frustrations with each other to clear the air. It was timed to perfection as when my Sister went into work the next day, one of her colleagues was asking how the wedding plans where going and asked matter-of-factly whether "the arguments had started?" My sister said that they had only the day before and we're not usually the type to argue!! Her colleague went on to say that when her daughter got married they didn't speak for weeks following an argument related to the wedding!!
I've since said to my Sister that as important as my wedding day is to me, it's only a day and my relationship with her is alot more important and hopefully long lasting after that day. I'm now hoping there'll be no more arguing with anyone!!
CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
I have had a few disagreements with people but no major arguements or falling outs lol but that could come as still got 14 months till my wedding. I think its always important to keep remembering why you are getting married as it can all run away with you when you start planning xx
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CommentAuthorKat
The only real disagreements have been between me and my mum (and consequently anyone else who has taken a side in it) but that is nothing unusual for my family. The only unusual bit is that the not talking bit afterwards has lasted longer. Arguments do seem par of the course though
CommentAuthorTori-Mrs.Mitchell2b
oh yes had a lot of up's and downs mainly with my bridesmaid one of which i do not talk to at all any more as it finally showed a side to each of them that suprised me. The one i dont talk to anymore was going brhind my back saying stuff to our friends and causing trouble saying my other friends were the ones saying it, when confornted with proof all she was concerned about was being a bridesmaid rather than saying sorry.
my MOH was no help and just kept being really disintrested and making horrid comments as she jealous im getting married and her partner wont propose.
and the other on after spending £169 each on a dress wouldnt even come to try the thing on 3 appointments she promised to come to and didn't.
SO they ALL been sacked and just having flower girl h2b god daughter and my cousin with learning difficulties.
other than that made most decissions myself and done everything my self so saved arguments there.
occasionally h2b will get stressed out with money situation but never end up in an argument.
all the brides i spoke to have said they all had arguments along the way!
oh but there still time for more as still got 13 months to go but every detail pretty much planned so im hoping for the best now and the drama over. x
CommentAuthorHa_x3
Yep me and my h2b argue down to money stresses :(
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CommentAuthorOWB
H2b and I haven't argued at all, but then we don't really argue over anything. We set out what we both wanted and went from there, and even though we don't always agree on what we do and don't like it's really not worth arguing over it.
My mum doesn't agree with everything I'm doing, but again there wouldn't be an argument as I was quite clear in pointing out from the beginning that it's my wedding not her's! I can't see there being any arguments from me in the run up to the wedding unless my sister reverts back to queen b*tch role and tries to ban me from having my niece as a flowergirl.
I think it helps that I'm really chilled about everything, I don't see the wedding as a stress. We sorted the budget early and made sure that it was easily affordable - and we're set to come in under budget. We had a look around at what was available an then had a discussion about what we both wanted, this has changed a bit but that's life.
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CommentAuthorMrsKisywisy
i think people will argue as it's an event attatched to a lot of emotions!!
i can be quite laid back but also quite firey, so if i don't get what i want, i am NOT happy. h2b is the same and sometimes i will sit and fizz. i'd hate the world and hate h2b, look at him and really want him out of my life ofr ever and ever...but i am quite dramatic lol
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
I think we were quite unusual in the respect that we didn't argue...with anyone. But then we don't usually. I thought we would, as I think it can be expected at a time of hightened emotions, but everytime I felt upset about anything I just remembered that the only thing that really mattered was that I was marrying my man!
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CommentAuthorMrsDanks
Me and my H2B have had one argument so far and it was only a little one,he couldn't really understand why I was worried about getting the wedding flowers sorted now, with just three months to go! xx
CommentAuthorLeanneW15
atleast your aware of this so you can do your best to prevent too many arguements occuring or rather prevent the arguement becoming something massive... i think people argue about weddings because they can be expensive and a bit stressfull sometimes too, for example im not inviting certain people and therefore its almost certainly going to offen sd a certain auntie of mine but i only want people at our wedding that like us so you know lol... they'll deal with it some way or other... but its our day so we have to do whats best for us, and people that really care about us wil get that, i understand your worries but your maid of honor is your sister... (mine is too) im sure she is ones of those people who does really care about you so i'm sure you'll do fine, just dont let too much get on top of you!! xx
CommentAuthormrscookiecrew
yes id say its normal. with ur h2b its the after argument thats more satisfying ;) lol. with everybody else, its ur wedding not theres so just tell them if they dont like it then dont come. saves more money :) x
also wold have been nan and grandads anniversary
CommentAuthorloustew2012
the wee arguments are starting to come now. mum says im starting to stress but it makes me angry saying that so i have a moan at her and its forgotten. she did say ive not been half as bad as my sister was but im not my sister. the arguments im having are with h2b family but tbh its not even over the wedding. its his sister. and i really wanna tell her shes not coming and ill make sure shes in respite for the wedding. i know i sound like a complete and total b!"£h here but shes the one making me anxious with her behaviour and shes the one causing the arguments. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr there done :)
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CommentAuthorSarahR18
Some people think I'm lucky as my mum has taken over most of the organising - it has come to a point where she's texting me to tell me something has arrived and I didnt even know she had ordered it! She is a massive help though so I am finding myself having to bite my tongue as much as I can but sometimes it just seems like I have no say in it!
CommentAuthor*~Nicola~*
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SarahR18 - that sounds very familiar to my friend's wedding! When she announced her engagement she said she saw her mum in a whole different light. She said she changed and it was almost as thought she was planning her own wedding and not her daughters!! I'm sure in her way she's trying to help but I can understand your frustrations xxx
CommentAuthorfiona
We are having a lot of family politics but my family are like that anyway but it is made much more emotional with the wedding coming up. H2b & I never used to argue now we argue alllllll the time, have actually decided to go on a bit of a day trip tomorrow - no wedding or family talk just us.
CommentAuthorkirstyless
I think its normal. Me and the husband (nearly wrote H2B there haha) didn't really argue over anything, it was more us getting annoyed with other people. People management is key in planning a wedding and its very hard!! Well I found it hard anyway lol...
CommentAuthorSazzell23
Oooh yes I've had a lot of ups and downs, no downs with H2B as he's been great - the problems have all been with my friends / bridesmaids!! I've lost a friend along the way. Oh yes and MIL2B did ring up very cheesed off cus her next door neighbours were not on the guest list, but I took that one with a pinch of salt as its so ridiculous! ;) Weddings bring out the best and the worst in people. You will see selfishness from people and feel hurt but you will also find that other people come out and truly be there for you and support you. I feel like the nearer the wedding gets the stress builds up but I know it will be worth it and it will be for you too xxx
CommentAuthorfiona
I asked OH if we could cancel the wedding today and elope!
CommentAuthormadhen
Did that too Fiona - he was tempted for a while until he realised deep down we'd both miss our families...our annoying demanding families....!!
CommentAuthorfiona
I would miss anyone except my sister, but he is very close to his! Hayho as long as I can become his wife the rest will be worth it!
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
we haven't really argued at all, apart from early on when i got frustrated because he wasn't interested in anything wedding related and then a couple weeks ago when it suddenly hit him that it was only 7 weeks away and he started getting cold feet - it lasted all of an hour and then he was fine! :o) Adam had one argument with his mum and dad though which ended up in them not talking for 3 weeks over an omission of a family member from the guest list - they didn't agree with it, and adam wasn't budging so they refused to speak to him! They got over it eventually, when they realised the silent treatment wasn't going to work! haha
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
We haven't had an argument as such but I did have a mini breakdown the other day, which made him realise how much stuff was getting to me! My parents are paying for a huge chunk of our wedding and asked that h2b's parents contributed something too as to take stress off of us (we are both students). However, when h2b spoke to his parents they said they would not pay towards the wedding but would help him out with paying for his masters instead. This would be fine if it wasnt the fact that he has a HUGE family and I have a very small one, and they are expecting my parents to pay for it all. I was then put in the middle of my parents and h2b and his family arguing with each other, but it wasnt face to face, it was through me! I could see both sides of the arguments but felt completely helpless because there was nothing I could do! Ended up crying so much that I was shaking and ended up with puffy eyes and a headache for two days! But it wasn't until then that everyone has now agreed to meet and sort it out rather than going through me all the time. Other than that, me and h2b have never had arguments and we have been together over 4 years! lol xxx
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CommentAuthorMummy Geri
Me and my mum were looking at wedding stuff (yaaay :) ) online last night and she has a totally different matter of opinion to me so sometimes we have a little moan. Its perfectly normal hun :)
