Anyone think im being cruel here? My sister has been seeing a guy for about 4 weeks and asked if she could bring him to the wedding....... Im having a small ceremony (36) and 80 at night so numbers have been really restricted! then last night h2b sister who has been seeing a guy on/off for the last 8 months text me to ask if she could bring her boyfriend (who i've never met). I've told them both they can come at night, then SIL textback saying no probs.....i'll just sit beside aunty mags at the meal (who we havent invited!!) argh im beginning to stress out about it.............
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Be strong!!!!!!
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Just tell them the truth your on a budget so no 'EXTRAS' allowed and every tom d ick and harry in the family hasnt been invited because of it, hense no sitting next to aunty mags.
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CommentAuthoronewilson@btinternet
thanks! think i'll get h2b to have a word with his sister! and my family i don't mind getting them told! lol
CommentAuthorlinzi
we are not putting "and partner" on any of our day invites. If we dont know who a person is dating, then they aint coming!! We are going to tell everyone that partners we dont know are welcome at night time, but we are not paying £133 for somebody we dont even know!! Obviously if our friends and relatives have been seeing somebody for any length of time we are going to know them, so its just those that have only been dating for a few months that wont be able to take their partners.
dont care if its mean!! Stick to your guns girl!
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thanks linzi, that's what i was thinking, but was starting to feel a little guilty x
CommentAuthorDrunchPunk
Absolutely not, you shouldn't feel you have to invite your sisters' partners - it's not like there won't be anyone else they know there!
If you're not on the invite, you're not invited. It's just so rude for people to ask for others to come!
CommentAuthoronewilson@btinternet
you're right drunchpunk.....i dont even see my sister and she hardly speaks to me unless she wants me to babysit!!! if i had my way i would not invite her aswell but think it would upset my mum x
CommentAuthorHoxxyhula
No, you're not being rude at all. We are having to be very strict about this and if people have asked me about plus ones it's been a 'no' unless one of us knows them. Also, we are having to have a cut off point so even if people get together with someone and we know them it'll be too late unless someone drops out. Firm but fair! x
CommentAuthorsteffi
Not bein rude at all, we've only invited peoples partners if we know them as well, people who we dont know arent comin lol! My friend asked me as her artner couldnt make it could she bring another plus 1! I wouldnt really mind if she didnt know anyone comin but as we're quite a close knit group of friends she will know people there grrr!xx
CommentAuthordebs x
H2b's sister did the same and we just told her no and she seems ok about it x
CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
when you start letting people bring other people thts when the numbers creep up x
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CommentAuthorKaya
I've had people that are single asking if they'll be able to bring a plus 1... er NO!
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CommentAuthoronewilson@btinternet
im glad we are all on the same wavelength! wasnt sure about ettiquette etc! but im happy im doing the right thing now x
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
The only person we have allowed a guest we didn't originally account for was the usher whos girlfriend who he had only started seeing when we finalised the guest list who is now pregnant with his baby.
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CommentAuthorSuzi
I have done the same as Linzi... apart from my bridesmaid who strangely enough has been with her fella for 2 years yet we have never met, other than that, if ya name aint down you aint coming in!!!!!!!!!!!
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CommentAuthorKerrylou
We're not inviting plus ones to the daytime, I don't really want to share one of the most intimate moments of my life with people I don't know the name of. Single day guests are more than welcome to bring someone to the evening though xxx
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CommentAuthorKesha
dont feel guilty be strong, I had to and they will soon get the message.
CommentAuthorJenna
As its only in 2 yrs we havent come to that prob yet, but we have told our friends that their partners are not coming, even tho we do slightly know them, mainly coz only 19 adults will be at the meal.... how ever when we have the party which is on a differnt day its a free for all!!!!
CommentAuthorMrs Brakes
Maybe you should just say to them, 'what does it say on your invite? if it says +1 then yes and if it doesn't then no'.
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CommentAuthorVixMoonWalker
We are just inviting long term partners and there will be no compromising. Weddings are expensive so you can't just invite the world and his wife to keep everyone happy. It's YOUR day, so invite who you want. People will understand. xXx
CommentAuthorhaylsmccrone
i agree i am only having long term partners, if someone wants to bring a +1 they are welcome to for the evening but thats it,
CommentAuthorPrincess Sarahbelle
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on my list i put my cousin plus 1 as he has been seing someone on/off but i really get on with her so i dont mind her coming but no-one else has got a plus 1
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CommentAuthorJane
Ive only had one case of this happening so far, invited my one of my very good friends (bearing in mind we only have limit of 40 guests to the daytime bit) and after talking to her about the menu and planning things for a while she turned to me and said her partner is a vegetarian too. Oh. Wasnt planning on inviting him but didnt want to hurt her feelings so just said, 'I know, theres plenty of vegetarian stuff on the menu, he'll be fine!' Tricky one. Especially as she is sitting very close to the top table as she is such a good friend. Now I have to rejig the table plans and its made it very difficult. Never mind. Only met him a couple of times! The only plus side to it all is that she wont have to drive and can have a drink or two!
CommentAuthorChrissy~MrsFaulds2b
No +1's coming to mine!! All our friends and family who aren't married are in long term relationships and a few engaged themselves so i don't count that. People who have been invited who aren't in relationships are coming alone. There is plenty of people to talk to plus most of them know each other anyway. Myself and h2b have both said that if someone who is not on our guest list turns up they will be asked to leave regardless of who they have come with. Guest lists are there for a reason, it's not a free for all.
CommentAuthorAtaraxia
Do whatever feels best for you, but don't let anyone bully you into inviting anyone you don't want. Tell them straight!
We aren't having any plus ones and me and h2b are even discussing if we should bother inviting the boyfriend of one of my BMs. This because we have never met him, they have been together nearly a year but have a really volatile relationship and he rarely keeps plans he makes with her to the point that he usually ditches plans with her whenever a new xbox game comes out and he doesn't talk to her, leave the house or sleep until he's completed it, which can take days! So we don't want to waste time inviting him and trying to sort out accommodation and meal numbers for him to turn around the week before and say he's not coming because there's a new xbox game out and that's more important - that's what kind of person he is.
Everyone else is having their named partner on their invite and if they aren't with that person by the wedding (which is unlkely as we're only inviting long-term couples) then they are coming stag - we definitely don't want any strangers at our wedding, as it's only small and why should we pay for strangers if we haven't even invited some family members?
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CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Henderson
Just tell them if thy really want their partners there thy can pay for them to attend lol, i'm sure thy would quickly change ther mind xx
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We found our numbers ebbed and flowed a bit. I understand if you are having a small intimate group especially for the daytime that you are very restricted but we had 120 all day and I was especially keen we didn't have people seeing us getting married we didn't know as it's a very personal thing. We had a couple of drop outs at the last minute (fire officer given an extra shift and a kidney transplant) which compensated for the two +1s we hadn't accounted for.
One of the +1's came about via a friend who hadn't been going out with her boyfriend for many months and he contributed massively during the day. He spent hours with the photographer helping him and made sure Sean had a drink because every time he got near the bar someone engaged him in conversation.
