I work in an office where we are all good friends and chat a lot throughout the day. One of the lads has just today come back from a stag do abroad and some of the tales he is telling is making me sick to my stomach!

Especially things the other lads got the groom to do!

Don't get me wrong - I trust my H2B 100% but I know that when he has had a couple of beverages he can sometimes be easily waylaid and although our stag and hen do's are a while a way the thought of him on his stag do really panics me! I don't really trust all of his groomsmen and a few are renowned for being 'playboys' - I don't know. I am a worrier and my h2b knows how badly I have trust issues for various reasons and I know he would never purposefully hurt me...

Does anyone else feel this way or am I just being silly?

But make sure you tell your h2b thats it's not him you don't trust it's some of the groomsmen and alcohol lol x

I'd feel exactly the same way if mine was having a stag !! Neither of us believe in them (or neither of us want the other to have one lol, not quite sure) so we're doing a hens vs stag day and H2B is off night fishing with his best man/cousin... Not sure what I'll do when he goes fishing as I usually go with him :-/

I know the people he'd invite on a stag do and I know that as soon as they get out with their mates, their wedding rings come off straight away !! Even one of the guys I thought actually seemed decent did it 3 weeks after his wedding !!!!! I trust my H2B not to do anything, but his mates are absolute scumbags and I'd hate to think he was out with them as they always make sure they have a bunch of lasses around them ! Mind you, my brother would go anyway and I'd know if anything untoward happened.. have you got a male member of the family you can send along with him ?

Tell him how you feel xxx

Yeah I thought about the girly girls in my family too, but hey, if they don't want to go, they don't have to lol..

What we really, really wanted to do, was have a party for our families to meet before the day, but we're just not going to be able to afford it xxx

haha fingers crossed indeed!!

My MOH keeps winding him up saying she is going to get me male strippers and he gets quite upset about it so he knows how it feels! We have made like a pact to both not have strippers or anything like it.

If there was a "like" button i would LIKE your comment Mrs Wright :)

I figure if you need a 'last night of freedom' then you're not ready for marriage !! Lol..
I think they're a waste of money that could be spent on something extra or added to something to get a better thing for the wedding.. xxx

Phew! I am glad it's not just me being a paranoid little mare!! xxx

THE REASON MINE WAS OVER-RATED:

I was having a meal out and drinks in town for my hen do.

Friday am I had 12 friends coming. By Friday pm I had 6 coming... Lots of last minute, oh i cant afford it, ive got a cold type excuses. Hubby was fuming on my behalf because he knew how upset I was.

I messaged those that were coming initially saying it was cancelled then after some persuasion i said i wanted to go to my local pub instead. I had one "friend" throw a strop about he she was looking forward to it, how i had spoilt her excitement and if i was only going to the local pub, she wasnt coming. Cue a message back to her saying that I was sorry that I was under the impression it was MY hen do.

In the end, we just said to all our friends, men included, they were welcome and we went for a meal and some drinks in town. Hubby came with me and there were about 4/5 other men too. The whole night was ruined by the "friend" who kicked off about us going to the local by her saying to my hubby that i wanted to stay out and he could go home. It caused a huge massive row between hubby and I.

Wish I hadnt bothered at all with mine.

For hubby's stag, we invited friends round, had pizzas and beers, went to the local and saw a band Was a great night.

I agree I'm not a massive fan either...as soon as we got engaged instead of congrats off most his friends we got so when's the stag? I've aired my concerns over strippers etc because they are going to Berlin I think for his and I don't mind a stripper(no touching) but I wouldn't be pleased with a lap dance,I've also looked at the page he's hopefully booking with and there's a naked girls mud wrestling where the groom has to go down to boxers and get in there with the girls...if I find out he books that then that will be getting changed for another activity! I'm just waiting for him to book it then I wanna see the invoice and what activities he's booked! I think with the dads there it won't be totally risqué but it maddens me that ppl think they can go more 'mad' just cos its a stag do,it's supposed to be a celebration of the upcoming marriage/wedding, not a reason to act like a total pimp/hooker/idiot! Etc x

Good lord Kel - if I saw that I would flip out!!

I agree - I don't understand why people (girls too!) feel the need to act like 18 year old singletons on a stag or hen!

we watched hangover 2 last night, and I was winding h2b up all night laughing at where they'll end up. I hope he does go out and have a night of freedom and that the friends don't go too extreme. I can't wait to hear the stories, although I'll be worrying nearer the time. and he is definatly not allowed a big one the night before! lol

I'm adjust glad my OH's stag is 3 months before the wedding (due to university holidays, he is a lecturer) because it gives time to heal broken bones, bruises to subside, hangover to fade or him to be allowed back into the country!!

Haha, not that I have no faith in him/his best man's ability to drink sensibly...

I'm struggling to get my H2B to have a stag do at all! But yeah, I get worried too, but it's not my H2B I'm worried about, it's his brother. He wanted the pair of them to go to Amsterdam (I wonder why....) and stay in a hostel! My H2B detests the idea, thank god!

I get the impression that the other men at the stag more come up with the 'dares' more so than the groom himself. I've heard god-awful things at stag do's but they seem to be few and far between. Not all stag do ends in tears :)

My H2B thinks the same with strippers :) he wouldn't be adverse if he had one booked but he certainly wouldn't do anything (I know he won't). If I had a stripper, well........ :D

I agree with NearlyMrsFountain, it's not really like it used to be anymore. I just had my hen party in Newquay at the weekend and it was awesome. It was just abit of a girly escape. We spent all weekend laughing and just had the most fun.

Don't worry so much girls because like NMF says, they're marrying you for a reason!

xx

My oh had his first lap dance on his stag do....which didn't bother me in the slightest as he said whole way though she was asking him about our wedding! ! Haha awkward! ! Lol

Dosnt bother me. I trust my man. And also lapdancers have big ass security guards watching om door and you can't even move your hands you must keep them om arms of chair at all times.

Its no different to women looking at male strippers.
But everyone has their own view.

Is your h2b dad going on stag?
My oh had his dad, two uncles and my brother....so I knew they wouldn't let anything crazy happen.

hahaha! Yeah I think my dad, stepdad and two older brothers may all be going - poor h2b hasn't got a chance haha!

OMG ant and dec masks that is so funny!!!

That's hilarious! One of my friends re-created the royal wedding party for her hen do - then all wore masks of the royal family...was too funny! xxx

I fully expect my H3B to have a stripper or be dragged to a strip club. I don't care, even if he has a dance, because there are strict rules as to the limitations of what they can and can't do, it's the last time he gets to have a body to die for dance for him (I defintely do not have that), it'll all be done in good humour, I trust him not to do anything stupid and he's ultimately marrying me.

That said, he doens't seem bothered about them and I think is doing a soul weekend!

Even if they had a stripper, in general, unless he has philandering tendencies, in which case - you should be considering if they're ther 're the right person to marry, you should have nothing to worry about, its part of the fun of a stag night and done as harmless banter.

I feel exactly the same but when we started discussing hen/ stag do's he said he wasnt bothered about one and was happy just to have a quiet drink in the pub. Now I feel quite bad for him, I want him to go out and do something like paintballing and then go into Manchester for a proper lads night - I am glad though that he doesnt want to go to Magaluf as when I met him 7 years ago thats where he went every summer!

After reading the cold feet /worse thread!! .? It's obviously not impossible for horrible things to happen to do with the stag do!

My H2B has his stag do this weekend....and i helped the best man organise it!!!!

They started in a pub having a few drinks and something to eat then they took a minibus (driven by my dad bless him!) to the greyhound races and spent a few hours gambling.....not that he won anything!!! Then they came back to the city where the guys had arranged to go to a strip club and for H2B to be stitched up by the stag special....
Basically the group was taken to a private room with 2 strippers, they gave him a bit of a dance before taking his top off and pulling down his trousers a bit......they then got a belt each off his mates and proceeded to spank him unless he roared like a lion or crawled around on the floor. They both covered their boobs in shaving foam and rubbed them all over his face.
They did ask him to take their panties off with his teeth but he said no (i wouldn't have minded but he said that was definitely the line for him.....which made me feel loads better about myself cos id always said i trusted whatever he wanted to do but it made me feel justified). So instead the strippers took off their own pants and put them on his head!! They then made him crawl around while they sat on his back. and they finished with a naked dance. His mates then bought him 2 private dances during the night to apologise for the first bit!

I'm sure lots of women would be completely horrified at what they did but honestly I thought it was hilarious....my OH is really not confident around women and generally not much of a lads lad so I was a bit worried he would be uncomfortable but he actually thanked me for letting his mates do it cos he had a briliant night and since then hes bought me 2 lots of lingerie from victorias secret and said the strippers were hot but they have nothing on a dance from his fiancee!